Who can object to an adoption?

HappyMomAnna

I don't believe she can interfere with a decision you and the father of your baby make... Just as I don't feel anyone should Force you to Keep the decision you have made before the time actually comes even the father of your baby. When it is a decision you make sadly the relatives don't get a vote.
The relatives usually on get to vote or step up when the discussion is one not being made by the parents themselves such as situations when children are in Foster Care and going to be adopted... At that point your grandmother would have some rights since the decision was not voluntary.

PhilM

Giving a child up for adoption can do lasting emotional damage to the child. Why would you chose to do that?

MamaKate

In most places, no, she can't stop you. There are a few places where there are "grandparent's rights" statutes that could possibly be used to make the adoption harder to complete without giving her the opportunity to vie for adoption but they are rare and chances of you living in those places are slim. Check your local laws.

I can't help but be a little curious as to why you are so insistent on wanting to "give up [your] genetics"? I can understand why your grandmother would be so upset about it. I feel sorry for her, but ultimately the decision is up to you and Dad. I hope you have researched adoption well and know what you and your child may be in for...

kidmindi

Your grandmother cannot object (legally anyway) to your adoptin. Only the father could legally object to the adoption.

Heather B

She has no legal right to keep from losing a family member. Poor Grandma, please pass on my condolences

Rowan

She has no say in what you do with your child.

Need2knowbasis

I believe that the only two people who can object to adoption of their child/children is the parents; mother and father..............

Legally, she can't do anything but try to adopt the child you're putting up 4 adoption.

LaraSue

No, she cannot legally stop you from placing your child for adoption. That is a decision only you and the father of the child can make.

cantstopLinnyG

The baby's father can.

Maybe your Grandmother knows the kind of damage that is done when a child is given up for adoption. Every child deserves to be raised by his or her natural mother and father, and if that's not possible, they should be raised by another natural family member, NOT strangers.

Please learn what adoption will most likely do to you AND your baby.

http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index....
http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/adoption_coercion.html

http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org
http://www.amfor.net/acs
http://www.origins-usa.org
http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm
http://www.babyscoopera.com
http://www.keepyourbaby.com/

http://www.youtube.com/user/adoptedthemovie

Books:
The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier
Lost and Found: the Adoption Experience AND
Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness both by Betty Jean Lifton
The Adopted break Silence by Jean Paton
The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler
Adoption: Uncharted Waters,by David Kirschner
Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky
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Lina's Mommy

No because she has nothing to do with the baby. The only thing i can think of is if she convinces the guy to not go along with it.

snowwillow20

No she doesn't, but the father does and if he wants to be part of your childs life. Please let him.
Please think twice about adoption, you will never get over it. Your baby needs you.

Felicita1

Why do you want to surrender your child for adoption? Have you already decided that you will never love or want your child? How do you know this before your baby is born?

I think your mother knows more than you give her credit for. The lasting emotion damage that can result from adoption separation can destroy the lives of the mother, the father, her parents, his parents, an the child. No-one has told you that yet? Remember: an agency or lawyer who stands to gain $25,000 or more from the adoption of your child is not going to jeopardize this sale by telling you the truth. No law in North America means they have to actually be honest with you. And mothers who have surrendered a child for adoption and are suffering unresolvable grief and loss, severe depression, PTSD, anxiety disorders, or secondary infertility from it are seldom likely to speak up because they have been told that they are "pathological" for feeling this way.

""A grief reaction unique to the relinquishing mother was identified. Although this reaction consists of features characteristic of the normal grief reaction, these features persist and often lead to chronic, unresolved grief. CONCLUSIONS: The relinquishing mother is at risk for long-term physical, psychologic, and social repercussions. Although interventions have been proposed, little is known about their effectiveness in preventing or alleviating these repercussions." Journal of Obstetric, Gynecological and Neonatal Nursing, 1999 Jul-Aug. pp.395-400."

The decision about adoption should be made after you have recovered from birth. Not only that, but you have the right to any and all resources you require to raise your baby. I don't know why you're rushing into this. Only in North America do we insist on trying to get mothers to commit to giving away their babies while they're still pregnant.

Adoption was created in the 1850s to provide homes for unloved and unwanted children. It later on became a growth industry to provide babies to paying couples. If you give birth and find you do not love or want your baby, there are plenty of couples waiting. But why not give yourself the chance to decide AFTER you truly know and when pregnancy/birthing hormones won't affect your judgement?

durdenslabs

You can give the child up but if social services determines your grandmother can take care of it she'll be given the child. She'll be a relative and legal guardian and can adopt if she wants to.

cmc

The only two people who can make the decision are you and the father. I think the only complication would be if you were married and your husband was not the father - then there might be legal issues with two "fathers". You grandmother doesn't have a legal right in this situation.

Philippa

Only the father can and please think this through carefully as you will have to live with how you feel afterwards for the rest of your life. The best way to describe it is as an invisible amputation.

C Wood

The only people with any say in giving up a child are you and the baby's father.

If you are over 18, than you are a legal adult and she has no right to stop you from giving up your eggs, or adopting a child.

If she makes such a threat, you can remind her that:
1) she has no legal right
2) if she interferes, you can drop her out of your life.
3) you don't understand why she's trying to be such a high controller and run everyone else's lives.
cw

yeahright

No, she can't stop you. She can't threaten you with anything legal and she can't decide to step in etc.

sizesmith

Your grandmother has no rights whatsoever. Please try to understand her, because in her day, adoption was considered such a secretive and life changing thing. If she were your legal guardian, there might be a grandparents rights case, depending on what state you live in, if the child were taken through foster care or something like that. Chances are, she has no idea that she can't do that.

Good luck in your journey. I wish you luck and peace in it.

Tilden J.

No, she can't. What she should do, is support you. My daughter gave my grandson up for adoption two years ago. I begged her, to let me raise him, but she wanted someone who couldn't have children, too have him. It broke my heart. I supported her every step of the way, because that's what mothers do. We have an open adoption, and I am a big part of his life. We visit, talk via web cam, etc. So maybe you might consider an open adoption. Good Luck.

*7 Inch Heels*

She has nothing to do with the baby, as long as you are ok with the adoption and your husband/boyfriend is ok with it then thats all you need. there is nothing she can do about it. Start with the adoption right now and get the paper work going that way after the paper work is done she cant do anything or try to talk you out of it. good luck.

Hair she is

Absolutly NOT! Dont worry it is not possible for her to stop you

karcnr

She can not stop you from placing your child for adoption. If she needs help coming to terms with this, perhaps the adoption agency you are working with has grandparent support. My husband and I are working with LDS Family Services and they have counseling/support for not only the birth parents, but also the birth grandparents. She may not listen to you, but maybe she would listen to a social worker and have a better understanding of why you are doing this. Best of luck to you.

armadura(conservative asskicker)

if you are over the age of 18 you are legally an adult and yo cantstop my son has no other family members to go to before me and my wife adopted him he is the last of his family we did change his last name to ares because he wanted to i was find with it if he wanted to or not

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