Whose idea was it to adopt?
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Whose idea was it to adopt?
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Was it your idea? Your spouse's? Mutual? Did you have to 'talk them into it'? Did it take them time to warm up to the idea, and then they were excited about it too?
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connie
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We adopted a boy after fostering him 8 years. He was 10 when we adopted him. It was both our ideas and supported well by HIM and our relations.
As we told him at his adoption hearing, he is very special to us and we had the choice to adopt or not, not like when we have a new baby we have to accept what we get. We have had him since he was 2 1/2 yrs old. He is every bit a part of our family as the 3 other boys.
If you have a warm heart and a loving kind home, adopting a child is very rewarding to your family and the child concerned.
The process of adoption is fairly long, so be prepared to foster the child first. This cuts down time considerably.
( Connie Mom of 4 beautiful boys ) |
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Ma Belle Famille
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I started researching adoption while we were still doing infertility treatments and my husband was not ready to even discuss adoption yet.
Once our last invitro cycle failed, my husband was totally gung-ho about adopting and we've never looked back. We now have a 1-year-old daughter through domestic open adoption! We couldn't be happier!!! |
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Still Me
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If a spouse has to "talk their spouse into" being a parent, whether through biology or adoption, then one of them needs to step up and say "No!"
Children are not a negotiable item! They should be enthusiastically wanted by both parents. Period.
Unless the parent is single, of course! |
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marcyp06
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We have not adopted yet. I was adopted, and I have always wanted to adopt. My partner would prefer to birth natural children. It has taken a lot of time and research for her to fully understand adoption and realize what an amazing thing it is. She is still not fully convinced that it is the best thing, but I hope that after time she will be more excited. |
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Angela R
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My husband and I both desired to adopt before we even met. We knew that even if we had biological children too that we would eventually adopt as well. |
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bandtime35
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well u and ur spouse have to talk about it if the girl cant get pregnant and if yall want to get one and agree go ahead |
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c504play
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it was a mutual choice we could not have children of our own but so many unwanted babies we choice to adopt never ever regretted the choice |
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taylor_22
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We came about it differently. We began to foster children but quickly fell in love. It was Gods will that their parents eventually lost custody to these children b/c I am sure God saw they were in a better place. We both did not even have to think about it when their caseworker asked about adoption. We both immediately jumped and said yes. This made our family of 4 into a family of 7 instantly and we are very happy!! |
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IndependentMocha
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i haven't actaully adopted yet...but i've known since i was 14 that i will someday...and i tell everyone up front so they know. i had brought it up to my ex and he was all for it...of course he wanted to have his own first.....it doesn't matter to me which happens first. good luck and good for you...not everyone can adopt. |
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AntiguaFamily
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It was mutual, but I was way more excited and ready for it than my husband. However, the minute they put our first child into my husbands arms - that was all it took. Within three years, we went from a family of 2 to a family of 5 compliments of international adoption. |
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Reachable
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In our case it was the birth parents who approached us about adopting their 3 month old baby. We talked about it for awhile before he agreed. He's 1 1/2 years old and been living with us ever since the age of 3 months. We started the adoption process after he turned one year old for financial reasons. |
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PharmNerd
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It was originally my husband's idea. After thinking about it and having such a difficult pregnancy and labor with our last child, I agreed that giving birth again is not something I wanted to do. Also the fact that we kept trying for a girl and have all boys played a part in the decision. We are planning to adopt next year. |
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Maber
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My idea, and my spouse warmed up to it. We are now expecting our own, but we plan to adopt later, and he is excited about it. |
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jellybean
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It was mutual. |
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Erin L
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Well, since I knew of my infertility before marrying my husband, we knew before we were married that we planned to adopt to have a family.
I think often times it is the woman who takes the lead in the adoption process, (as they often do when planning a biological family, too!) While I don't think it's okay to "talk someone into" parenthood, sometimes providing information and exposure to other people who have gone through an adoption is necessary to help ease fears that hold someone back. |
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