Why adoption record is official?

StewieGirl

It is ABSOLUTELY part of everyone's human right.

Some of these answers make me want to take a shower. Bleh. Can you put yourself in the position of the BABY for just one minute? We come with PAPERS? Thanks, I'm not a german shepherd.

Gee, sorry by my VERY EXISTENCE I make the mother that gave me away feel uncomfortable or tortured or socially awkward. Like *I* or any other adoptee had ANY say about being adopted.

I'm just a person who deserves the same human rights as anyone else. I don't care HOW I came into the world, I am here NOW and i deserve all of my truth. Period.

Julie R

ABSOLUTELY.

BABYGIRL0802

I agree with you COMPLETELY. I believe this should be a civil right.

I also do not have my original birth certificate, with my original name, place of birth, birth information, etc...

Isabel A

You know, I have recently received all of my information and not once anywhere was there a paper in which my natural mother said that I could not look for her. There are no legal document that will guarantee that this will happen. Natural parents should not be promised this ever because it is just not true.
When a mother signs away her rights to a child, she is not erasing the fact that she actually did give birth. Relinquishing a child does not cause amnesia.

All adoptees everywhere are entitled to their true identities. We should not be considered second class citizens simply because our biological parents relinquished us.

We have the right to our original birth certificates and our medical information.

Laurel J

Yes, I do. I am 42 years old and I've never seen my own birth certificate. Am I a US citizen or am I not?!

Heather B

Yes access to one's own identity and birth record is a fundamental human right that is denied to adoptees in the USA

Sigh, it's sad to see how ignorant people are about closed sealed records and their original purpose - it was never to protect anyone's privacy in the way it's being told today and certainly not privacy between mother and child!

Freedom of Association? anyone ever heard of that one?

Adoptees don't have that

The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child?

US Adoptees don't have the benefit of that one either

I could go on but I can't be bothered 'cos most people out there don't want to listen anyways

Ryan's mom

Yes. Most adoptions now days are open adoptions that allow the birth parents to get pictures and updates on the child. This is a much better way to go for knowing where you came from and in case of a medical emergency.

ItsMee!

I'm wondering if your question is actually about the adoption records being sealed?

My records about my first parents are officially "sealed" meaning I am not allowed to obtain information about my original parents. Their right to privacy is protected through the state where I was born. I do believe that it is my right to know where I came from and who my ancestors were.

But my rights to live without interference from people who did not want me have also been protected should they change their mind.

I hope that answers your question.

Clare

Having a baby out of wedlock used to be something that ruined a girls reputation. They would be "sent away" to a "home for unwed mothers" when she starting showing her pregnancy. The family would usually lie to their friends and say she was visiting a relative.

Yes, a "home" for them. They lived there until the baby was born, and they weren't even allowed to see the baby. It would be immediately wisked away and when it was fit, was taken to an orphanage.

Then the girl would come back home again. The family never wanted anyone to know what really happened because the last thing they wanted back then was for anyone to ever find out the girl had a baby out of wedlock. It totally ruined her reputation and sometimes, the whole families reputation.

Many girls would not have let the pregnancy come to term and had the baby and given it over for adoption if they weren't assured their identity would never be revaled. That's why adoptions were almost always sealed and kept secret years ago.

Nowadays, it's much more acceptible for a girl to have a baby out of wedlock, and more and more adoptions are open because there's nothing to hide.

zipperfootpress

Most people who adopt a baby will get its "papers" this will give some basic information without identifying the mother or father. They will know what and where that child's family originated in MOST cases,

Also people seem to use open adoption more than closed these days, this will give a bit more information, b/c you will have the chance to ask birth mom and/or dad the questions about the baby's history. In open adoption you may even know the birth mother's name, this is a benefit for later in life when adoptee is/if searching for birth mom.

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot

I think a copy of both bio parents' med records should be included in the child's adoption file, and in this age of computers, updated periodically. That would be "unidentifying info" that the child may benefit from someday. As far as know who the birth parents are, I think it should be up to the birth parents if they want to be found.

kilts_and_kimonos

No, because you need to put yourself in the mother's shoes, having given the child up. How would you feel if this person that you were unable to care for, unable to handle, unable to provide for came looking for you 20 years later. I'd find that to be devastating. They'd be looking for answers that I couldn't give or couldn't explain, and that would be torture.

EDIT: To the answerer below me that's saying "Boohoo" to a mother that has to give up a child: I'd rather give up a child out of love than let it starve or freeze to death on the street. And not every mother gained a child out of concious effort- rape babies happen.

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