Why are adoptees subjected to the future reproductive decisions of women in this country?

kitta

Amy, what is not commonly known is that the "pro-choice" lobby is just as much involved in the 'privacy' argument as the "pro-life' lobby.

I work in legislation, some of it has to do with records access issues.

Lobbyists on both sides are present when these records bills are heard. In the state where I live, the same lobbyist works for adoption agencies and for abortion rights groups. One hand washes the other.

I have been told by "pro-choice" lobbyists that adoption is , indeed, a reproductive choice and that a woman chooses to surrender her baby in the same way that she chooses an abortion(the lobbyists say). The pro-choicers in these lobby groups say that the woman needs her private decision protected.

The reason given? They say it is because abortion privacy will not be protected if adoption privacy is not protected.That is their "reasoning."

I do NOT agree with them.

Not Adopted

The myth is that mothers who give away babies want privacy.... if they don't get privacy (in the form of sealed adoption records), they will opt to have an abortion.

This is pure fiction created by the adoption industry. The truth is that "privacy" and sealed records where created for the benefit of the adoptive family, not the natural mother.

Anyone wanting to see their original birth certificate has no bearing on future adoptions or abortions. Adoptees are not responsible for what some fictional woman may do in the future.

For the minuscule group of mothers who adhere to the privacy myth - get over it. It is not the government's job to cover up your indiscretions. Can anyone hide their former marriages? No, marriage licenses are public record, and you can't pretend to never have been married. You also can't pretend to never have given birth!

Ivy G

what?

MamaKate

Dear Amy,

Good to see you! I totally agree. I think SJM & Maybe's answers covered most of my thoughts, but I wanted to add that there are already plenty of legal methods for protecting one's privacy, such as restraining orders, hippa laws, etc. Many places, which allow adoptees to have their original records have the option for no contact orders and/or some type of special privacy orders as well.

Personally, I believe that EVERYONE has the right to know the truth of their origins. It angers me that there are people who feel that they have the right to decide for another person, what information they are allowed to have about themselves. I also believe that if you create a life, you are forever attached to that person by nature, no matter what the legal paperwork of man states, and that you "owe", by virtue of being its creator, that life the opportunity to know where it came from. Even God/Nature/the forces that be have provided clues to the origin of mankind.

As a mother, I cannot imagine keeping information or refusing to provide answers to my children. I want them to be happy, healthy and secure in the knowledge of who they are. This is why I thought "open" adoption would be preferable. My children would never have to wonder about the basics. It never occurred to me that the APs would lie about their feelings on the subject...

gypsywinter

""Why are adoptees subjected to the future reproductive decisions of women in this country?""

I would suggest that you contact some of these organizations for the answer to your question...
NCFA
Heritage Foundation
Adoption Agencies
Catholic Charities
ANY religious org associated with adoption
ACLU
To include any Pro-Life group

This has been said so, so many times before in answers basically to the similar question of yours.

The majority of surrendering mothers from the Closed Adoption/Records Era do not demand that records be kept closed because of 'privacy and/or reproductive' issues. Rather the Adoption Industry (see list above) are the ones (especially ACLU) who present the 1 or 2 mystery 'birthmothers' whose mystery privacy they seek to protect, when bills are presented to change the closed adoption records laws to open. To also include a smattering of adult adopted people and some adoptive parents. By and large it is not the surrendering mother who has a problem with open records nor are worried about 'reproductive' issues as relates to closed records, especially those surrendering mothers from the Closed Era...who for many are well beyond their 'reproductive' years. The Privacy Issue is nothing but 'smoking mirrors' hiding another agenda and secrets & lies.

Independ"ant"

Consider the source....

Infertiles

Religious

Anti Pro Choice movement

Adopters

Baby brokers

All of these people have agendas and will do or say "anything" just to reach their goals and get what they "want" despite it being immoral, ignorant, unethical, asinine, and IMHO criminal.

parsely

Well I think I'll keep half of my kids records to myself... like the bit about the consanguinity (her father and mother were close relatives).
I really think that would only hurt her. We know her mother was not a willing partner in this birth. Don't you think in these cases seal records are more of a blessing than a curse. When she is mature enough to handle it. I will give her this information if she wants it.

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