Why are adoption reunions so emotional ?

life is like the ocean

For me, I was emotional at finally getting to see my living, breathing grown child with my own eyes. The child that I worried about everyday. The child I missed with all of my heart.

For my grown child, it was some of the same with the added bonus of seeing herself in other for the first time ever. We walk, talk, stand, sit, smile, and have the same mannerisms. We even have the same likes and dislikes. Seeing herself in me, and other people in our family, was something she never experienced, and then experienced all at once. It was overwhelming.

Mei-Ling

Why wouldn't they be?

chickenfarmer

Gee I don't know. Maybe because parent and child/or adult child are seeing each other for possibly the first time since infancy?!

Because a lot of times biological parents didn't have an option when they put their child up for adoption. For the adopted child, it is a time of finding out a lot of information (potential siblings, medical history, information about parents and why they were given up...).

kitta

The child is coming face to face with their own origin, the person who gave them their life. The parent is coming face to face with their little one, all grown up.

It is a reminder that all life comes from other life, we all come from other people, specific people.

snowwillow20

Expectations, the unknown and fear.

gypsywinter

If one can get 'emotional' when meeting up with a long lost friend...imagine the emotions that surface when reuniting with your son or daughter, mother, father, and siblings, after a life-long separation! Whether adoption related or not. Ever seen the reunions between family members who have been separated for decades by war, older children who were 'kidnapped' by one of their parents and reunited with the other parent...years later? It's very emotional....why would emotions be any different for those who were separated by surrender and adoption? Humans are Humans...just because a mother has surrendered or a person was adopted as a baby/child...does not make them devoid of 'emotions' or being 'emotional' when reuniting. It's called being just that.....Human!

Opedial

I know my babies love me, but we all knwo and talk about their other mom, how she was not ready to parent (she had them taken from her due to neglect and other things) and that hopefully when they are all older and healthy, they can be in reunion. So my children will of course be emotional when they see her again!

Philippa

For parents it is a reminder of what they have missed out on. For mothers who were coerced it is even more painful - I know I have been there. I am thankful I found my son but it will neve make up for the years I missed out on.

For my son he found out the truth of why he was adopted and it hurts him that it was unnecessary. It is also painful for both of us that my family lied to him when he found them and they would have continued to lie if I hadn't found him.

There are so many emotions to work through with reunion and the people reunited don't always find what they want.

tiffany lane

Try this book i hear its great my sister loved it

http://www.amazon.com/Adoption-Reunion-Survival-Guide-Preparing/dp/1572242280

James

Idk,id be pissed if i had been put up for adoption.

plood1

Good question...basically its summ random stranger...I would just be like whateva if i ever met my dad (never met him) [not for any particular reason but just cause i really don't care]...

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