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Freckle Face
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1) Being called and treated as perpetual children.
2)People being dismissive of their feelings and opinions by asking why they are so angry.
3)Being told how they should feel.
4)How about being told they should feel grateful about being adopted rather than aborted over and over again.
5)Not having equal rights like any other American citizen--closed OBC's.
6)people not validating their feelings.
7)People pretending they didn't experience any loss from adoption.
8)People telling them not to search for their biological mother and family because they didn't want them.
9)Telling them who their REAL parents are...
10)People telling adoptees, they know more about adoption than they do. Hmmmm, really.
Those are just a few i can think of at the moment. |
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tish
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maybe because these *adults* are referred as and are treated as perpetual children. |
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cruzgirlz3
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Where are all these angry adopted children?! Yikes, they shouldn't be hanging around on adult websites unsupervised!!
Oh you must have meant adoptive adults? Well, I'm one and I'm not angry. I like my life, nevertheless I am interested in answers and the truth about my life. |
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Heather B
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'Cos of questions like this one who address grown adults as 'Children'
Oh, and the fact that their identites are sealed by the State and they're treated so badly if they dare to inquire as to the truth of their origins, perhaps
Have a nice day
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LaurieDB
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I'm not angry with my life. I have a rather enjoyable one. I am, however unhappy with a system that treats adults inequitably under the law solely because the person happened to have been adopted by someone. The adoption of a person should not create a situation of unequal treatment under the law.
Everybody' s feelings are valid, and need not be judged.
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Gershom
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I'm not a child. And I'm not angry. I don't agree with adoption, but I'm capable of respectful debates on it. Are you?
Stick around, and read without judgment. I think you'll find the answers on your own. |
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truth seeker
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Well, I'm no psychologist/therapist but
I was adopted at age 4, from an very disruptive and disturbing home:
My bio mom is scizophrenic and my bio dad was an acoholic.
There are documented reports that, before I was adopted, there were cigarette burns on the bottom of my feet! My bio mom would put her cigarettes out on the bottom of my feet! Among other abuse. Other physical abuse, that, thankfully, I don't remember. But I have been told that it was severe.
So, I am glad I was adopted from them. And also, my bio parents had enough common sense and decency to voluntarily put me up for adoption, because they new they could not provide a decent raising for me.
But, in response to your question, the strange thing is, I also grew up very angry and bottled it all down.
Here's why I think this is the case. Adoptive parents do not have the biological/psychological bond with there children than bio parents do. So, It's not my adoptive parents' fault, but they just didn't no how to meet my deepest emotional need. So I bottled down that anger resulting from the abadonment of those emotional needs that I had. |
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sunny
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"CHILDREN"?
Are adopted children posting here?
Your screen name makes you sound a bit angry--are you adopted, hon? |
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tylergraves92
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Ummm? Imagine your parents left you or died, and everybody expects you to go with some unkonwn family that you dont know... and spend your life with them. Of course the angry, dealing with it, or sad. They probably dont feel loved. |
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shine™
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well, i think anyone would be frustrated if they didn't know there real parents or weren't with them or something a long those lines. i know i would be. |
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Heather Leigh
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Maybe so many people (NOT children) that were adopted are angy is because so many people ty to tell them how they should feel o that they should be grateful they wee not aborted or some other BS. Who has the right to judge how ANYONE else should feel.
The majority of what I have seen here are people that are angry with the system..The discrimination. |
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Ninjahunter
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how would you feel if you barely or never knew your real parents? or there new parents are abusive or just really bossy |
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RandJS
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Why do you feel like you can ask this question? Ok you dont know that my birth family would have been abusive. And how about all that screening that the adoption service sent my adoptive parents through. Didn't stop them from being terrible parrents. If you cannot care for a child abort it dont throw it away to some family that can NEVER care for it the way that a birth mother and father can. |
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lovednotspoiled321
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people could just be angry because of past experiences. maybe her previous foster parents weren't good to her and she just lashes out because of this.
and honestly i dont know if that was a good question ask it may offend some people... |
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KTea
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All my life I have known I was adopted from the earliest point where the concepts of adoption could be understood by their basics. Although many reasons as to why I was put up for adoption were unclear or false due to lies from my biological mother, never once have I been angry. I was told they were young, I was not suppose to live to see my first birthday and if so, I would be severely disabled.
However, as my curiosity led to my meeting my biological mother and father what I had known as the truth was never in fact the truth. She was not young, but she did drugs and drank while she was pregnant and her lying about that and me having many medical problems having doctors think it was all an act when truly my medical problems were indeed a sign of a form of FAS.
I am anger at her for not telling me the truth about how I was taken from her, not that she gave me up. I am angry for her to this day denying the truth and blaming myself and others for her actions, I am angry that I am not able to have any relationship with my younger full siblings, but life goes on.
You deal with it and then realize that things happen for a reason. My anger is with my biological mother for lying to me, not for giving me up as I could not imagine a better life. |
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I'm half adopted. My dad knew he wouldn't be a good enough father, he was so young. I never met him as he left while my mother was pregnant. So he signed his rights over to my step dad, when i was a bit older and my mum got married, who adopted me. I'm so grateful for that! I'm better off with my mum and "adopted" dad. Personally i don't think of him as that...he is my daddy and i love him very much! BUT i was lucky as only one of my parents walked out...my mum was very young but still kept me and loved me :D Though she was lucky because she had the support of her parents and siblings. So all in all i turned out very well! :D |
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a healing adoptee
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So, if i get this right. All adopted children should be happy and not feel any loss. They should not want adoption reforms, nor want to be in reunion with their b-families. Your way is the right, way? You don't want those who you label as "angry" to push their feelings on to you or anyother person who says they are happy, yet you make fun of or berate those who say they feel differently than you. People are different, their emtional makeup is different. Some will feel a loss in adoption more acutely than you will or the person next you. Who are you or I to judge others because of their personal feelings on adoption? |
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star girl
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well of corse they are angry there own parents left them to some stranger! i meant if u was adopted i would go nuts |
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Wish I could be something
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I am angry because i dont get how someone can have a child and just forget about them..And goive some BS line like it was for the vest..You wil l have a better life then i could of ever gave you. Then why did you open your kegs knowing whats happens when you do,...If you cant take care of child don't get pregnant simple as that.... |
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Crucio
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Bring It - Adoptees have a Variety of feelings and experiences. Some feel a major loss others do not. YA does seem to lean heavily on the side of people who have some great issues of loss and even that’s a small number here. I am one that does not feel any anger about being adopted. My “real” parents are the ones that raised me. |
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*Victim of OJD*
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I actually happen to know a lot of kids who were adopted and are perfectly happy with their life. Of course they would love to know who their mother is, but they certainly aren't angry. And however their mother gave them up is irrelevant too. The fact of the matter is that she couldn't care for them properly or didn't want them, so its better that they are in a loving home.
<3,
EMs |
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Jeffrey L
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you cant put it that way. Its the way that the child was treated be4 hand or the society that they are in. My writing teacher has adopted 5 children. He's white and he adopted all asian children and they feel like they've had the best life ever. I've met up with his children and they are awesome.
You cant just assume that all adoptive children are angry. I hope this helped :)
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llexpat
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While I am not in their shoes (even though I wish I had been after my own upbringing), I would think that they would feel rejected.
Unfortunately seems like young people today are more chronically angrier than their parents were, and with good reason in many cases.
But there also has to come a time when they have to realize that parents didn't make the world we live in anymore than they have, and they will only realize that when they have children of their own who blame THEM about their lives.
We all need to be less angry, and be willing to be more understanding. Otherwise, families will be totally destroyed. |
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eastavenger
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there are alot of reasons why they are angry but mainly i have seen people happy to have a new family |
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Lizzy
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They feel unwanted and unloved by there parents
how would you feel if your parents gave you away
I know they should feel wanted and loved by the adoptive parents and grateful they were not kept by an unfit parent and Glad there mom loved them enough to give them the gift of life and not abort them before they were born and be glad they gave there adoptive parents a family and love and hope.
but I also, know that a lot of my personal identity comes from knowing my history that my family came from Scotland and that my health history of heart problems and ADD to be adopted is sort of scary you do not know who you are or where you came from
and I guess that would make someone sort of angry and scared. |
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Doc
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I have seen many adopted children who use it as an excuse for their rage and failures, and don't have legitimate reasons. It becomes a cop out, and IMO, is not justified at all. They should realize they were chosen, and not merely born or popped out of nowhere. |
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