Why are you happy with your adoption? Happy adoptees only please.?

kateiskate

I have four parents that love me (my parents and my steps) and a loving sister who would go out of her way to help anyone. My parents are great. They have done their best to make sure I had a good education, they taught me right from wrong, and did their best as parents. I never had a pony, but I had a bike, rollerblades, computer, etc.

Lillie

Oh OlliePop,

I'm an adoptee, and I'm happy. Not that I'm adopted, but in all other aspects of my life, I'm happy.

Let's see...great husband, check.
Great kids, check.
Great job, check.
Beatiful home in the country on 5 acres, check.
Traveled to many places in the US and around the world, check.
Have friends from all over the globe, check.
GREAT sense of humor, laugh all the time, love to joke around, love life. Check.
Oh yeah and I have reunited with and am reconnected to my own roots...BIG check.

What's not to be happy about? Oh yeah...being separated from those roots to begin with. But don't worry Ollie, I'm a big girl, I don't spend my days pining away about it. For the most part, I AM happy. Happy happy happy happppeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!

Laurel J

Oh wow. In the first place, those who insist that adoption is one hundred per cent wonderful have a voice. It's called "almost the entire planet/media/internet."

In the second place, the fact that I believe adoption needs reform doesn't mean I'm unhappy or that my adoption story was not a positive one. I hate what my first mother went through, but I'm glad I got raised by the people who adopted me. They couldn't have loved me more if I had been their own, yet they never made me feel like I was replacement for the kid they couldn't have. And I still hate sealed records infant adoption.

I've never accused you of being in denial, and I truly don't care whether you change your mind about adoption. The world is full of people who disagree with me, and I'm all right with that, although I prefer they disagree with me from a position of knowledge rather than ignorance.

Why does it bother you so?

Linny G

I had awesome Christmases. I got an easy bake oven, a Chrissy Doll and a Lite-Brite . I also got Kiddles and a Dawn Doll, Barbies, that Barbie head that you put makeup on and lots of board games. "Which Witch" and "The Bride Game" was my fave. I got a wagon, a tricycle and a snow white watch one year.

I was happy I had parents who loved me, but I really didnt fit in too well. Now Im even happier, cuz I have TWO families who love me- the ones who Im not at all like, and the ones whom Im excatly like! You know what THAT means, right???

EXTRA PRESENTS!

Carol c

" We must drown out the bellowing of the disgruntled few who insist that we are in denial."

This is all the proof I need to not take anything you ask or say seriously, darling Ollie. You really need to get a life - trying to drown out the bellowing of the disgruntled few... ??? Your entire agenda is based on anger.

Grow up little girl - you are behaving like a nasty little guttersnipe. Do you know what that is? I'm not impressed with the manners that you were taught in your happy little adoptive home. Sounds to me like you were raised by wolves. That's one of the big problems with adoption - sometimes when kids aren't raised by their natural parents, they turn out like you.

Happy New Year!

Edit. Ignore OllieO and the other names she's using - she's a TROLL who in her happy little life seems to have nothing else to do on New Year's Eve but constantly post here to try to start trouble.

Flying Monkey #073177

Once I was hatched I got picked from a room full of babies because I was the prettiest one. Then I went to a new home and was pulled into the loving arms of a cult to one day become the wonderful person we all know and love today.

PhilM

Here's a positive story...

My (first) mom wrote an impassioned letter to my (adoptive) parents that they keep the name she gave me because I was named after the angel that kept watch over her. She wanted her angel to keep watch over me.

The nun she gave the letter to promised to give the letter to my parents. She lied. My parents never got the letter.

That's positive, right?

(Just because you want to pretend we don't exist doesn't mean we don't.)

Mei-Ling

You don't really NEED a voice, Ollie. Society represents the Happy Camp quite well.

Rowan

i'm a naturally happy person. I had a good childhood, my parents loved me. i think the happy adoptee is well represented on this board.

But i'm running out, going to a new years party! see you all next year!!

Heather B

Oh yeah, you seem so h.a.p.p.y! Your questions and answers are angry, bitter and hateful so how can you possibly describe yourself as happy.

I'm perfectly happy with my life as a reunited adoptee and the work I put into changing the way adoption is practiced.

I'm over the moon to have the truth of my origins, my full family tree and my medical history.

I'm thrilled that things are changing for the better and that adoptees in the USA will finally have the same rights as adoptees in the rest of the civilised world when they are able to access their own birth records if they choose to!

Let's give a happy woot woot for MAINE whose records open tomorrow!!! Go Maine adoptees - loadsa happy adoptees over there in MAINE!

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

And you call US exclusive...pffft...

Minnimouse

All I can say is...why have I spent so long in this room trying to make people understand..when it's like talking to a brick wall...are so called "happy" people just mentally incapable of understanding that when someone complains about an aspect of their life that they are whining, angry sad people who need to be taught better.

GAAHHHH

ElenaKatherine

I had a great amom...and a great adad until I was abused by him when I was young. Happy freakin' New Year. Oh, sorry...was that too disgruntled for you?

Gaia Raain II

Who are you trying to convince? You seriously sound desperate to get *someone* to believe that you are happy. Have you ever heard of Gavin DeBecker? Look him up. Amazing guy, teaches people to listen to their natural instincts. There is a list in his book, "The Gift Of Fear" of tactics that predators use to trick people. One of them is saying, "I promise". If someone says, "I promise", it makes you question whether what they said was true, whether you realize it or not (that's just where your mind naturally goes, for good reason). Often, when someone adds in that extra, unnecessary insistence, it means they are lying, trying to get you to believe them because they do not believe themselves. It can also take the form of the word, "really", or just insisting and insisting on something when no one really cares. If you had said once that you were happy, I think everyone would believe you, without question. But this loud, continuous insistence that you're REALLY happy, and that NOTHING bad has EVER happened, and you have NO negative thoughts WHATSOEVER, and there MUST be others who feel the same way, RIGHT???RIGHT???RIGHT??? That just makes me wonder. I don't care either way. If you're happy, then that's absolutely wonderful. I love when people are happy. It's no skin off my back if you're a happy, well-adjusted adoptee. I don't think anyone else here is all that invested in your happiness or lack thereof, either. So, that brings me back to the question, who are you trying to convince?

SJM

Go Maine! Woot!

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