Why do people think fostering kids is bad?

LaraSue

Ignorance I guess. And not ALL people think that way.

Steshha

I don't think it's bad. I think anyone willing to be a mother to a kid is a great person.

5littlemonkeys

Your moms not bad. She's great. You should go give her a hug and tell her that.
She is being a mom to these children when they need it most.

M M

PEOPLE WITH A HEART WOULDN'T THINK THAT OR SAY THAT. FOSTERING A CHILD IS A WARM THING TO DO. BUT THERE ARE SOME UPS AND DOWNS TO THIS, SOME FOSTER HOMES ARE WORSE THAN PRISONS. THE CITY OR STATE SHOULD DO MORE INSPECTIONS AND VISITS.

Blah.

The only down side to it, I think, is the fact the foster family/foster children may become too attached to one another. Say the foster child lives with a foster family from a very young age - when they're a bit older, and their real parents are out of jail, out of rehab, etc. and allowed to take their children back - the child won't want to go with them. They won't know them, and they won't understand why they're being taken away from their "family".

But given the fact if it were not for foster care, a lot of these kids would end up in group homes or still with abusive, alcoholic, drug addicted, or negligent parents...I'm all for foster care.

Hilldabeast

I totally agree. Fostering Kids does not mean that you are takin them away from their parents. Its means that their parents arent able to care for them. Your mom isnt doing anything wrong. She is giving children who have nothing in life right now a chance. What she is doing is very commendable and more people should be like her.

Gretchen V

Being a foster parent is a wonderful thing. So is knowing how to type and spell properly.

J C

Sheer ignorance. That woman would probably be alright with having had the child aborted rather than have her precious tax dollars spent on foster care. Most people think that because their particular situation is all peachy then it has to be peachy for the rest of the world also.
You just keep on doing what your doing and more power to you.

montrealmarco1

Unfortunately there's a stigma to people who foster. It's great if foster parents really have compassion for these kids and are not doing it just so they can get a check at the end of the month.

sweetlilgirl41594

The only reason that woman said that was probably cause she lost her kids and they were put into a foster home. She probably also thinks that kids are a waste of time : P shes such a bad person for even saying it

Taylor

Ignorance.

You are taking a child away from the bad situation and giving them a 2nd chance at being a kid.

But there is a small sad thing, sometimes, the child can be forced to switch home if a realitive wishes to care for them. It is sad but happens.

However, I stayed in a foster home for a bit while my mom and dad straightned out their lives. It was happy.

I think foster care is a good idea!

Jase

I agree. Maybe the one that talked to your mom heard mostly the negative aspects like some foster families neglecting children. There are ones that foster only to get the money and spend it on themselves. But for every bad one there is a good a foster home out there. People just need to stay open minded.

Crucio

Pay no mind to this ignorant woman are any others like her. She has a lot of nerve to just come up and spew off even more when she does not know the situation. Clearly this is one of those people whoâ€™d keep a child with their biological parents no matter what. Even if the kid was abusive or the parent is a drug addict who cant even take care of themselves let alone kids. Perhaps their in prison or even trying to get their life back on track but cant care for the kid(s) at this time. A child does not always have someone in their birthfamily that would be willing or able to take the child on.

Your mom's doing a good thing giving love and some stability to kids. Regardless if its a long time or short time.

ruthym02

the lady probably had a child taken from her is those are her views. Being a foster parent is a wonderful thing, its not the fault of the foster parents that the child(ren) are in foster care, its because of the parents.

They think you are taking kids away from their parents against there will. Some people can't afford kids or the parent(s) are in jail or abused the kid .

welonheadmoo

Some people aren't cut out for fostering. Fine. However, what gives them the right to condemn others for doing so? I suppose they are just ignorant.

Your mother is a great person for fostering.

inzbrkqt

I was raised in the foster care system from age 9 to adulthood. My mother just gave me away. Kept my bro and sis, and gave me up.

Foster kids have a stigma, people automatically assumed there was something 'wrong' with me.

Some fosterparents take in kids just for the stipend (and in my case it was over 400 dollars a month...and my parents took in 8 or 9 kids at once...and some people do do it just for money....free babysitters, etc. I KNOW This to be true.

And back when i grew up in the system it was MUCH worse.

**edited to add*** and i am currently raising my sister's baby, in addition to my own child, and have been since CPS took her child away from her. I am single, and do recieve help for his medical needs. I couldnt' afford to be a new mommy(single) again, but I was not going to let this baby go into the system.

and another PS: she is my foster sister....so, there is no biological relation between any of us except for myself and older son.

And one more PS: since I have been an adult, my fosterparents have finally stopped taking in kids, (I think I literally have about 89 foster brothers and sisters...), and now there is only 4 of us that report to them as 'mom and dad'. Growing up was not nice. But without them now, I would have no parents.

Armoured_Amazon

As for the comments about being paid, I'd love to think where people expect foster carers to find the extra funds for a growing family from otherwise. And while there are unfit foster carers who are not allocating the money where it should be (i.e. to the child's upbringing) there are many foster carers who are wonderful.

*mad*

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