Why do people think that foster children are the only children who need homes?

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

they typically DO end up in foster care.

parental unit

Most special needs adoptions are also placed through foster care agencies. If a parent abandons a child, no matter the age or ability, they are in the foster system.

I Love A Child With Autism!!!

I can attest to 2 special needs children who were adopted from birth...mine! I knew my first daughter was very likely to have medical problems to to the family history and my second daughter I knew was going to suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome.

I have had people here refer to those of us who get the perfect, healthy, white baybee (as they say), but I didn't see anyone waiting in line for my children. I was actually approached the first time by the adoption agency and they told me the natural mother was "unmatchable" because they were unable to find anyone willing to take the risk...when they could pay just as much for a healthy infant! Nice huh? The second happened the same way, only the adoption agency called ME when they had another unmatchable mom.

I feel that I am neither a sinner nor a saint...I am an adoptive parent who made certain choices, but I am not responsible for any coercion or any other atrocities some people claim all ap's are responsible for. Take the good with the bad, but be willing to see the difference!

Heather B

I think ALL kids truly needing homes, including babies, should be done through the social services system (ie. not money-making businesses)

Adoption should be a social service serving the kids. Not a business and industry making money off the backs of babes.

hippie

I agree. Ill children should have the same oppurtunity

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I think what you would find in a situation like the one you described, is that the child would end up in foster care anyway, even if parental rights were relinquished. It seems that the vast majority of people who want to actually adopt are unable or unwilling to care for children with special needs. Also, if a parent was unable to parent due to their child's special needs, I would HOPE that there were measures put in place to help and support that parent in caring for their child, rather than taking the child off them or forcing them to place the child for adoption.

Did you know that here in Australia there are very few, and I mean very few adoptions each year? It's almost unheard of for a child to be outright adopted at birth, and there are couples waiting 7-9 years on adoption lists for a baby.
Meanwhile, for every licensed foster parent where I live, there is approximately 15 children needing to be placed. It seems pretty clear to me when it's about providing a family for a child who needs one, and when it's someone just wanting a baby.

Just a Mom

I do think that there are other instances other than foster care that children need homes. I guess foster care always pops into my mind first because we KNOW these children need homes, whereas other ill children might not be as known.

You know I have adopted 5 kids from foster care, right? Well, we are also providing a home to their 2 youngest siblings who aren't foster kids. I am hoping that what we are doing will ensure that they never have to be in foster care. So, I think I get what you are saying.

When I saw pictures of your baby, I literally sat on the floor and cried. I am very okay with not adopting my children as babies...but you saw him in the hospital. I long for that and I don't know why.

TotalRecipeHound

In most cases of what you are describing, these children are already wards of the state, so in essence, in foster care before they even leave the hospital. Unless the birth parents sign relinquishment papers in the hospital, the adoption status cannot be released.

Some acquaintances adopted a Downs syndrome daughter out-of-state about a week after she was born, so they were able to take her directly home from the hospital. Without relinquishment, her status would never have been available to others and thus placement wouldn't have been so immediate. However, the parent signed the papers immediately because she was not in the position to raise this child. It just was a fluke that my acquaintances had only requested an infant with Downs like a week before she was born. The state did not dictate contact.

allchildrenareangels

I know a lot of adoptive families would be happy to adopt them. The only problem is how do they go about finding these children. Unfortunately usually the parents of these children turn them over to the state. After that the first place they go is foster care until they find a permanent family. I hate the fact there are so many children out there that need homes and families like mine just don't know how to find them. :0(

Love,
MIchelle

Annabelle

Amen to that!!!

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