Why do people want to adopt other people's babies?

I can understand that some people are unable to bear children of their own. But if the situation was reversed and they could have kids I bet they wouldn't be putting their children up for adoption.

I remember in history class that I read people in ancient times started having kids at 12 years old and you weren't expected to live more than 40 something years. You got married off young and started having babies young.

I can appreciate that babies are beautiful and perfect creatures. A real love of our lives. I have 3 kids, 8 weeks old, 2 years old, and 4 years old. I always wanted to have children. That is one of the first things I can remember is wanting to have babies and start a family and have a career being a doctor to care of my little ones. I did have my tubes tied in order to make sure I don't become pregnant again and so I know I can afford the children I already have. I am hoping to go back to school within the next few months and start the RN program by winter semester.

I don't believe that by having my first at 18 that I have given my life up. I have my life the one I wanted. With little feet running around climbing up high and screaming for mommy to catch them.

I am buying a house, I have 28 years left on my mortgage. I have gone to trade school. My children have never been to daycare. Me and their father my husband do opposite shifts watching our young.

Sorry so long, I just wanted to point out that young parents can be good parents and not everybody has to do everything in the expected order. My boss has done the same thing. She got pregnant at 17 and she actually finished a year of college before she had her baby. She graduated from high school at 16. I say Impressive.

Being yound doesn't mean you have to put your baby up for adoption. Take my cousin, she got pregnant at 15 had her son at 16, fot pregnant again with twins, but miscarried, and at 18 got pregnant with a little girl had her. And she had a pregnancy scare a few days ago. Test was negative. She might live with her mom and b/f but that's her choice. Her half sister got pregnant at 16 and had a baby boy that she kept and is raising.
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Why do people want to adopt other people's children?

gypsywinter

MAN! The Pro-Adoption Crew is out in force today! Sorry OP that you were met with some answers that sounded so dismissive, as if your question/statement was meaningless. I wish you well...you've done good!!

YOung parents can be good parents i have met many of them. I also know that young parents often have a hard/harder time than most. I have one friend who had her child at 16 and we (my wife and I) had to buy them groceries because they had NO food. She has a good job but life happens especially if you don't have a college degree. She has tried a few times to finish school but it is just to hard for her. She has a great daughter who is very smart and just turned 18 and is in college. So yes you can be a good parent at a young age but this lady and many many more like her would of done better to wait.

I thought i got a girl pregnant at 17 and we thought about adoption. I was in college and would have to drop out and work ( i graduated from high school early) Turned out to be a scare but we honestly thought about it. i always wanted to be a dad but was not ready then to be one.
I am older now married not to the girl above and i have a daughter and yes we are adopting someone elses child. We always talked about adopting when we dated we thought it would be a great way to add to our family. We are adopting through foster care so it is a little differnet but we did look at private adoption just not for us but i don't see anything wrong with it for other people

elaeblue

Not all "young" parents want what you wanted. And many of them do not want the responsibility yet. Just because it was the right thing for you doesnt mean its right for everyone

And not all children put up for adoption come from young parents - many older women are not ready or do not want the children.

You are basing your opinion on it on your own case. Because it worked for you. But many of the abused children in this world are from "young" parents who were pressured into keeping children they should have given away. Many young people simply are NOT ready - but they are treated as if they are horrible if they do not keep the baby.

Too Pretty To Work

I don't understand the question? Clearly you need more education to learn how to execute a question and ask it properly with a main point and conclusion...

It has nothing to do with being young etc.

Lets look at it if people didnt Foster/adopt children they would all be stuck in children's homes. Were people work shifts and change all the time.

Do you not think that every child deserves a loving stable home like you are giving your children?

Not all children who are adopted are from young mother's they are from parents who have been abuseing them or them selfs through drink/drugs. Their are also a lot of children thats parents have died or are to ill to look after them

PedsParamedic

To answer the title of your post: "Why do people want to adopt other people's babies?"

I adopt other people's children because I believe that every child deserves a loving and stable home. I find it reprehensible to even consider giving birth to a child when there are over half a million children in US foster care and over 15 million orphans worldwide.

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I know what you mean. I mean not my own personal situation, but my mom had a baby at 17, and now she is a plastic surgeon. She met my dad who was already a doctor while she was a waitress, and he convinced her to go back to school. With some financial help from family and childcare help from friends, family, and neighbors my mom got through it all....school took her a little longer than it takes most people, but hey she got through it all. And the baby she had, my brother, now 34, was well taken care of, he how has a PhD and is a college professor and does research on plants and at the research university he works at. Some people can make it work, it's true, but some people have no option except adoption...not everyone is so lucky unfortunately.

lynsey

Why do people not take care ot there chlidren?
Why does a 14 year have a baby that she cant care for?
Why do people in China give up the girls?
Why do people abandon they kids?
Why do you think adoption is bad?
IF I was a kid in any of those situations i would with out a doubt want to be a adopted by a loving family! So why wouldnt you want to help kids?
I know for sure i am going to adopted if i ever get the chance.!(im only 15 so i dont know if i will end up with the right one)
and help saves a childs live from going through foster care!
Love lynsey!
Lo

Independ"ant"

They want what they can't make on their own.

*Twins due 7/16!*

I understand what you're saying but many people aren't given the options that your cousin had. Not everyone has other people that will take responsibility for the baby, or provide for him/her or the mother. There are people out there whose parents won't help out, and a fifteen year old can't get a job to support the baby AND watch the baby at the same time. Not everyone can get help from others. Personally, I feel that if the mother and father can't care for their children on their own then adoption is a great option. I don't think it's right for people to have children and rely on other people to take responsibility for a child that is not theirs.

cricketlady

Many couples would like a larger family And can afford one and look to adoption where there are waiting kids--all the time. Many of these families are in a position to take on the additional responsibilty. Because of various factors in the bio family they are unable-most times-unwilling to settle down and act like parents.Lots of people are ready to parent and thus it sometimes falls to the Court to find a home for all these unwanted kids.

mandyb1965

the reason i would adopt is because the marriage i was in when i was preganent he kicked me till i lost with him i had 10 miscarriages in the end i had to have everything taken away cos if not i would have died. now i am with a guy who loves kids like me and would love to adopt so they could have a better furture than being sent to one home after another.

nomiscats

What is the point and what is the question? I thought that it was about adoption but that story had nothing to do with that? What exactly are you asking?

EDIT: That still doesn't make sense. People adopt other peoples babies because the want children. They adopt for many reasons.

Young parents can be good parents so what is the question there? If they put them up for adoption then that was their choice.

Is your question meant to ask: Why do young people put their babies up for adoption? That would make more sense.

Emily

because there are millions of children that need homes, so some people (like me) don't want to have my own...

Sporty Babe

People who adopt do it to give the children a better life than they would have with their real parents. Some people are not ready to be parents do get pregnant, so they put their babies up for adoption. Some parents are abusive, so they get there kids taken away. People adopt to give children the life that they should have, not a terrible, abusive life.

Alyna W Striker

What the heck is your question, my friend? It sounds like a pity blog or something! Are you asking why people want to adopt? I suppose because it's their choice?

Kate T

Because they can't have babies so they adopt a child and the child's parents didn't want the child.

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