Why do so many adoptive parents out there just want a caucasian baby?

Crucio

I guess in some cases having a child that is the same race as the parentâ€™s cuts down on odd question from people, about the childâ€™s adoption. In these cases people are likely not going to even know that the child is adopted unless they are friends/family of parents, or if itâ€™s divulged to them. When having a baby that is a different race or even bi-racial makes it more obvious the child is adopted(not that there is anything wrong with that) Or in the case of bi-racial (or mixed raced) someone might assume that someone was unfaithfully. Like if a white couple adopts a Eurasian (white/Asian) baby someone might think "hmm the wife had an affiar with an asian man."

I do think when someone who adopts a child that is not their race it can open so many doors for them. You can learn new cultures that you might not have learned if not for your adopted child that is from say Romania, even might be able learn a bit of a foreign language. Like if I ever adopt from Brazil I think I might try and learn some Portuguese since that is their 1st language there.

Even if you just adopt a different race baby or child from America there's still so much that your family can learn and make your live rich and diverse, even by becoming friends with people that are the same race or ethnicity of your child, that you might not have gotten to know otherwise. Diversity is really cool, I live in a very diverse neighborhood and I wouldnâ€™t want it any other way. If I one day have kids, adopted or both I will raise them in a diverse area.

tish

excellent question. but i think the reasons are multi-faceted. black and bi-racial children are not desired in this country due to the history of racism; and many believe that inter/trans-cultural/racial adoption is damaging to the child.

also, many who adopt want children who "look like them" just as if it were a biological child. although there are couples who wish to adopt, there appears to be more babies than the number of waiting parents who want black/bi-racial babies.

i also find it offensive when black/multi-racial babies are classified as "special need" and available for a "discounted price."

sorry for the rambling post, but this topic is extremely sensitive to me. it appears that black babies are marginalized unless there is a wealthy couple who wants them waiting in the wings...

this is sad.

Proud

I have no idea. Perhaps they feel more comfortable adopting within their race. Perhaps they know its easier to blend the child into the family if its the same race. Perhaps its simply easier for people to assume its the parents biological child if they are within the same race. Or maybe they don't even consider race. Maybe a 'white' family simply falls in love with a 'white' baby. No matter the reason, its their personal decision and I don't feel like its my place to judge. At least they are adopting a baby. Caucasian or otherwise, adoption is a beautiful thing.

Yummyâ™¥Mummy

I'm sure you've seen the argument and backlash a white couple receives for adopting outside their race. You get asked by people why would you do that. Unfortunately in this day and age people still use race as a weapon. I believe if you can provide a child a home then any child would be happy to be adopted. However it's not always the case. I've had friends who've had their kids rebel b/c they aren't black parents after devoting 18 yrs to them. As you said racism is here, it's too bad b/c every child deserves a home.

ilah_dotz

i think it might be because they want it less obvious that they adopted...
espcially if they adopted it from a baby...
if it were me i would afopt the one that i attached tto the most..
nomatter whaat the race...

Emily

I don't know why people care about color. Maybe they want all their kids to look the same or look like them a little.
My husband is Asian (as are his siblings) and his parents are white. His mother's siblings come from all over the globe. There is just as much love and togetherness in his multi-colored family as there is in my all white family.
I agree with you, people need to learn that family is the people you love un-conditionally and it has nothing to do with genetics or color.

Michele J

I didn't know that was the case, when we adopted our son 17 years ago, we specifically put on our letter to the birthmother, that we didn't care if our baby was green....
I adopted my son (who happened to be white, because his birthmother chose our letter and because the other birthmothers who had inter-racial children, changed their minds.
I gave birth to my bi-racial son.... go figure.
I have a feeling that there are some people who want to adopt and want the "perfect" child without regard that even if you have a child, they can still have issues...
sorry for them... glad for me...

quirky

I didn't know black adoptive parents were looking for white babies. Or Middle Easterners- or Native Americans, or Mexicans all wanting white babies??? Strange.

I mean, you talk about racism- which is basically a sweeping generalization of someone- yet you make this bold sweeping generalization about adoptive parents. And I am assuming you mean WHITE adoptive parents.

It doesn't make sense to me.
I'm not racist. And I love all children, all colors.

I know people that get criticized for adopting children that aren't of their race. I think there will always be those that negatively criticize people for any reason. Adoption is a beautiful thing and it an individual thing as well. Some couples/individuals may choose to adopt children of other races and some couples/individuals may only want to adopt children that would be as similar as their own biological children. Who are we to judge their choices or reasonings, as long as they give children loving and stable homes? Good luck. 2D

JoHn S.

Sometimes it's due to the racism of others that prevents adoptive parents from adopting outside of their race. Part of adopting a child is being aware of your surroundings and how those surroundings (family, neighbors, neighborhood, school, etc) will react to this child. If you happen to live an area where a different ethnic background could become trouble, it would be irresponsible to simply brush it off as 'it's THEIR problem'. It's not just about becoming a parent, or providing a home for a child. It's about doing what is best for the child and sometimes, that includes not adopting outside of your race, depending on your family, or the area you live in.

karlie

to tell you the truth idk know but sometimes mothers want to be the same race as there child to prevent the child from thinking he/she does not belong

Jules2u

Would you PM me your agency's name? We are homestudy-approved and open to a child of any race and would love to get in touch with them.

littleJaina

I think it's silly as well. Adopting "transracially" will mean you have to open yourself to two cultures, but a responsible adoptive parent would do that anyway. It's hardly likely that if you come from a French background, so will your child. Maybe their ancestors were English, Dutch, or Italian!

Anyway, I have a funny story about this. I know a family here that adopted two daughters (they're biological half sisters by the way). The couple is "anglo" or "white" or whatever (Polish/German decent really - if you want to get picky). The older of the two girls is fully hispanic, and the younger is half hispanic. However, because the adoptive mother is very dark complected, other people almost NEVER believe that the full blood hispanic daughter is adopted. This has a good bit to do with facial structures, and other similarities, but it's funny. However, when the mother is out with both girls, or with only the biracial daughter, she is often asked if that girl is adopted.

Isn't that strange? I know that asking "is she adopted" is social taboo, but people still do ask it. Anyway, we've just always found it very funny that the daughter who SHOULD have caused them more trouble (if you don't agree with transracial adoption) never does, but the daughter who shares their race (at least half way) is the one who brings out the questions.

Happy She's Here

You sound like racist to me! A baby is a baby, no matter what their backround or culture! At least there are people out there who want to adopt children! Besides that a lot of agencies like to they they the child will be brought into a family that knows about their culture and can keep it instilled in them!

Aaron S

i dont know

Baby

i think that if I adopted that I would want a child that looked like me or my husband .I am not racist, I just know that if the child looked like us we would bond with him/her easier because we could find ourselves in that child that is already not our biological child, that being said, hopefully it would seem more like OUR child.Sometimes when people adopt they are looking for resemblance of them selves in that child.I am sure that other races do the same sometimes. Now, there are people that they don't need to feel physically connected with an adopted child and can find themselves in that child's eyes, which is really beautiful of that person!Everyone is different...Its defiantly NOT just something that white folks do.

SAMD010

Since you are an "Open Racist" and you seem to feel proud about it; I want to commend you for your selective use of the word, Caucasian, as opposed to "White" . . . There are a lot of people in South America who claim to be white, but they are NOT!!! Some people have referred to me as being "another Mexican" . . . But I am actually of French descent. Everyone needs to fully understand what can happen when you adopt outside of your own race, if you are a white couple and you choose to adopt a non-white child. That child will someday grow up . . . And especially during his/her adolescent years . . . It may not be a daily picnic.

EnglishDenis

It is people like you with questions like that what is causing Racism. Mind your own business, ok

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