Why do so many people want to adopt baby girls, but not boys?

punxy_girl

You're right. Girls are much more sought after than boys in the adoption process. And as someone else mentioned, boys are more desired in when having a biological child. Part of the reason that girls are desired and boys are not is that boys carry the family name. For men the carrying on of the family name/genes is often very important. The girl children-not so much. In adoption research it has been found that maternal grandparents support adoption in general far more than paternal grandparents probably for the same reason. Sad, sad, sad....

Heather B

I don't know. But the answers here are sickening, like you're choosing a puppy or kitten or something. We are talking real life human being, folks

IJToomer

Could it be that girls are more available than boys? My parents adopted two girls and a boy - but my mother told me that she specified that it didn't matter if she got a boy or a girl - she ended up with a girl. This was way back in the 60's and early 70's.

A former co-worker of mine adopted two girls from China - but, given the situation in China (from what I hear) that is just expected - she and her hubby really wanted a child, so again: It didn't matter if they adopted a boy or a girl....

Kim

The most plausible explanation that I've read is that women usually "drive" the adoption process and many women dream of having a daughter. I'm not sure if it's a childhood fantasy of dressing them up and having mother-daughter tea parties or what... but for some women, having a daughter seems to be a *big* deal. I know several families who adopted girls after giving birth to a string of boys (but I don't know any who adopted a boy after giving birth to several girls.) I also know several families who have *many* (bio) children... because they kept trying for a girl.

I also think for some people, the first knowledge that they have of adoption (especially international) is about the little girls in China. And once "girl" gets into their heads they continue down that path and request a girl, no matter what program they choose.

Dory

When I was approved for adopting I said that I would have a girl or boy, but as I had two sons the panel approved me for a girl so that our family dynamics wouldn't change. The boys would still be our oldest and youngest sons I then said I would have a sibling pair and they just happened to be twin girls.

Susan

I guess you aren't writing from China

Jayne R

We've just completed an adoption preparation course and this question was asked and the answer given was that there is a misconception that boys are harder to raise than girls... In reality adopted children come with their own unique behaviour because of their often tough start in life; it's not gender specific....

Caring girl.

That is a very good question. I don't know the answer but if I were ever to adopt I would have to let the adopting agency decide if it would be a boy or girl I had. if they refused I would have to have one of each.

ragdolltb

don't know. i want a boy.

MrsG-2B-6/19/10

Personally, if I were able to adopt, I would adopt either.

martha a

I agree with Kim, woman are more 'in charge' of the adoption process in most cases, and woman tend to want girls. In our case I just always wanted a little girl, and so did my husband. (or was he just trying to be a good hubby because he knew I always wanted a girl!?)

I don't know why I wanted a girl so bad, my mother daughter relationship with my mom isn't that great, and hers with her mom wasn't good at all. Hmmm, Hope I am not trying to break some psychological cycle of some such. Or yet, maybe it is good that I am aware of that family dynamic and that awareness will allow me to break it!

RoVale

If you're referring to China, it's because girls in that country are often abandoned, due to China's one-child policy and a cultural preference for boys. As a result, orphanages are filled with them. However, one thing that isn't often mentioned is that these places also have handicapped boys and nobody seems to be adopting them.

Maria

How do you know thats the case?

redpeach_mi

i have never heard of people who go through the entire adoption process, spend countless years on a list, money and emotional drain, just to request one gender or the other. not to say that it doesn't happen though.

crazykiaray23

it depends on the couples...what they're looking for...

Crucio

I also think it just depends on the couple. You might have someone who already has 3 boys and wants a girl. Or maybe someone has 2 girls and wants a boy. Of course sometimes couples aren't picky and will take any healthy child they can get regardless of the gender.

surlygurl

I wanted to adopt a girl because I thought a lot about how hard it can be for a girl left alone in the world to protect herself. Considering the ways women are exploited and abused around the world and in various settings, I thought that if providing a stable home for one girl and teaching her how to protect herself from being exploited or abused could help at least her, then I would choose a girl. It's true that boys also suffer, but the power balance of society is set against women and I definitely took that into consideration in my adoption effort. As it happened, I was put in touch with a birth mother and agreed to adopt the child not knowing the gender, although she turned out to be a girl. If I get a second chance to adopt, I would be happy to adopt a boy.

DeadRaven

Well I would love to adopt a baby but I want a boy because they're cool and easy to take care of.
Maybe other people adopt girls to save them from finishing in the streets someday or things like that. Since people happen to have the concept that boys have more chance to make it through a life with traumas and not be so affected by it. Girls tend to do things that can risk their life, like maybe falling in hands of men or people with bad intentions. I guess...

Smoochy Poochy

do they? my aunt adopted a two year old boy ten years ago, she has now just won custody of his half sister who is 18 months old.
I hope to adopt in a few years when we have a bigger house, I have no idea how I will choose, because knowing me I will want them all.

Christine

No idea! I am a mother of two boys (well one is due soon) and I would NEVER trade them for the whole world... or a girl for that matter!! My best friend has girls... and oh they are so whinny and bratty... and ugh!

No offense I know some girls aren't like this... but I LOVE MY BOYS!

If I could adopt (rather than EVER be pregnant again) I would!

Taja

This is only an opinion.

sunny

Because most men don't like the idea of adoption.

They have to be talked into it by their wives.

If they do adopt, it's easier for them to raise a girl than a boy--they don't have to pretend as much about an heir, giving a boy the family name.

stormwarnfm

Yes, there are many people who want to adopt baby girls vs. baby boys.

Those that I have personally heard of that desire this want to because they are afraid a boy will be too energetic for them.

Also, many couples who have children seem to have biological boys, and then want to adopt a girl so the moma can finally have her "little girl" without taking a "shot in the dark" and hoping for a girl when they've already had 2 or 3 boys.

We adopted a boy AND a girl...full brother and sister, and ages 9 and 10.

Ms. Lise

I am partial to girls. My sister on the other hand perfers boys. Just depends on the person. My father wanted me to be a girl and my mother wanted me to be a boy so hey.

Olivia L

Because the adoptive mothers might feel they will bond better. When I am older I want to adopt three boys from France,England and Australia and I want to adopt 2 girl from China and Africa. I also want to adopt a child in the US and Romania.

StArZ

so not true
but i think its cuz pigs can fly
not sure
gimme best answer :D lol

kcdude

That's not really factual.

Megan

I think the reason is girls are so cute, you can dress them up in pretty dresses, put bows in their hair, have tea parties, play with make-up. I'm a mother to a boy, and let me tell you, I would NEVER trade him for a girl! He's so awesome.

chicken_council

because they wanted too

~BadBoy~

girls r more cute, lol

AStone

We are just starting our adoption process and we plan to adopt a girl (Maybe 2 girls if siblings) and to be completely honest the only reason I'm set on it having to be a girl is the fact that I have 4 boys. I love them very much but I do want a little girl in our household.

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