Why do you suppose we get thumbed down when all we do is answer with our person truths as adoptees?

Freckle Face

I don't like it either. If someone is just sharing their life story why the thumbs down?

I try to give just thumbs up. If i don't like someones answer i just skip over it. (no thumbs) If someone is obnoxious then i give them a thumb down.

ETA: Sarah B... Please stop talking. You just keep digging yourself in deeper. Not trying to be mean.....we've all done it at one time or another but seriously stop. Go back and look at some previously asked questions, you might learn why.

BPD Wife

I love Phil's response! : )

We all get thumbed down. People have emailed me to tell me that they simply give me a thumbs down because I sign my signature using the word "miracle". Even though I have changed it to reflect that it is what "we" consider to be our miracle, I still get the thumbs down. It used to upset me, but now I just laugh at it.

I think as long as people are speaking their opinion or about their own situation and state it as such (rather than saying that "all" situations are that way), they shouldn't get the thumbs down. But when people try to say that everyone feels a certain way or someone is down right rude or insulting, then they deserve a thumbs down (in my opinion).

Ed C. (SFECU)

Some people don't want to see that there are things lacking in an adopted person's life simply because of adoption.
If they accept those personal truths that are not all happy then they may have to look at the adoption process differently. Like maybe it needs to be accountable to all people affected by it and reevaluate their own views on the need for reform.

I personally appreciate both the happy and sad side personal truths that accompany adoption. But what both say is important & I personally don't thumbs down anyone unless it is a truly abusive statement someone makes.

ADD: Phil's answer rocks!

snowwillow20

I think it's rude. Unless the person is telling a big fat lie, I don't thumbs down. Just because your opinion isn't mine doesn't mean that it's wrong.

Jennifer L

I don't thumbs down responders for sharing stories, positive or negative. I think it's important to look at other perspectives and get some different stories and opinions.

I do thumb down mean-spirited, insulting answers like... say... how international adoptive parents are buying children. That'll get a thumbs down. Or how infertile people are master manipulators who only want to con women into giving them their babies. Yup, thumbs down there.

So please, trying to justify venomous responses like that as "truths" and "education" is ridiculuous.

sunny

It's a downer. People like fairy tales.

Hollywood knows this--happy endings always make more money than sad ones.

Samone

Heaven forbid we have stories that arn't all rosey & peachy keen.

Pap's only seem to want to hear that they are doing a great thing, that their saving on of us lowly lil adoptees.

Don't you know you should be grateful not hateful?

me-wa

I think you got thumbs down because people adopt this child into their home as their own flesh and blood, and your answer said that family was not good enough and you needed a lifetime of therapy anyway. I think that offends some people who wish that they could have been adopted instead of live with their birth parents who abused them their whole life and they felt unwanted. I think adoption is wonderful thing and I plan to adopt a child, and I dont' think that my child should need a lifetime of therapy because I choose to adopt it. If you were not adopted, you could have lived as an orphan and I think that your answer came across as not having gratitude for you family and a loving connection with them. It sounded kinda bitter.

I hope I didnt' offend, I just said why I think you got thumbs down. Even those raised by their birth parents often need a lifetime of therapy. And many kids that are adopted are well adjusted. So I think your answer was offensive to some.

Crucio

Every body thumbs down things. For various reasons some they donâ€™t like the person who answered so they just thumbs them down with out even reading the question. In some cases they disagree with what the person put. In cases of someone sharing their life experiences I think all should get thumbs or person can just be neutral on a subject and not do either. However that does not happen.

rachael

you know-the truth hurts. wah, wah. no one wants to see sleeping beauty not wake up or cinderella fall on her face at the ball.

School Nurse

It is rare to see an answer to ANY question answered by ANYONE that doesn't have at least one thumbs down. It's not just the adoptees who get thumbs down, my dear. I doesn't mean anything other than people are reading your answers and either agreeing or disagreeing. You're totally anonymous so use that to your advantage and speak your mind.

Heather B

Because adoptees are supposed to be happy
and grateful dontcha know! LOL

ps I heart Irish! I hope when I find my Dad he is as cool as you!

LaraSue

Probably for the same reason that others in the "triad" get thumbed down when they tell their experience, or their truth.

collegechicksellers

i see adoption as a beautiful thing through it my little sis has a real life and one in general and she should be more confused then anyone i mean she's black and we're white but she is happy

Kes

you probable thumbed down people who have had good adoption experience

lady_of_rats

wait... so you would rather have grown up in foster care or by people who were resentful of you for being born?

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