Why is adoption not an option for many people?

Independ"ant"

Are you asking why do people sit on wait lists for years for a baby to be born and relinquished when there are living breathing children in foster care being ignored because they are not babies or under 5 yrs of age.

Kazi

In what context? Not an option for pregnant women? Or not an option for people wanting to become parents?

I'm an adoptive mom of 2, so it was an option for me and is obviously an option for a great many other people as well.

But it's not for everybody.

Crucio

Are you asking why some couples donâ€™t think about adopting even though they are clearly having fertility issues and have not been able to conceive a natural baby?

The truth is that adoption is not for everyone not everyone can love a child that is not biological theirs. For some couples though they might want a biological child when it comes down to it not being a possibility for whatever reason they want to be parents and so they will try and adopt. There are some couples who either want biological children or no children at all. Some couples may not be able to afford adopting even more if they spent years trying to conceive a natural child and had to use various fertility treatments those arenâ€™t cheap and they do add up. Some may think that the wait is going to be too long which can often be the case if they want a healthy infant fresh from the womb even more a healthy white infant. My friends Aunt and Uncle were on a waiting list for about 9 or 10 years before they finale decided to adopt from Russia and got a 2 Â½ year old.

As far as people wanting to adopt babies many people just want babies perhaps they feel they will have a stronger bond with their adopted child if they adopted the child when the child is a baby. They probably want to go through all stages seeing first step, hearing first word, even getting up in the middle of the night to do feedings or walk a sick baby around, being able to have pictures from the time the baby is placed with them which in some cases can be right after the baby is born.

It also goes back to what many people have said here about prospective adoptive parents putting their desire and want to have and raise a baby first. As said adoption should always be about finding a home and parent(s) for a baby, toddler, child or teen who needs them. Not finding a baby for a couple or person who wants one.

sugar baby

Why do you think that everyone wants a baby, no matter what?
I know a lot of couples that do not have or want children.

I do not know why people do not use adoption more. I think that people do not want a part of them out there somewhere so they do not want to give their child up.
Also with the advanced in fertility treatments more and more couple can have babies and do not need to use adoption.

Green<3

I dont quite understand the context of your question, so im going to help you as well as i can.

*If you are refferring to those who did not intentionally get pregnant and choose alternatives other than adoption it could be for many reasons:
-It could be too hard on them to give a baby away that they carried and gave birth too.
-they wish to raise their baby themselves
-they do not want to go through with the pregnancy at all, or may even be in danger if they do (sorry to say but as a teen i knew many girls who's parents would have beat them or put them out if they were pregnant)

*If you are reffering to choosing to adopt rather than to get pregnant themselves
-I personally look forward to being pregnant, it is just something that i have always wanted to do. It is an experience that is totally natural and rewarding. However i also wish to adopt a child in need one day as well.
-People are adopting more these days than in the past accually, Its almost dare i say it, a "fad" nowadays.
-Many people just cant deal with the wait and the process of adopting. In some places, especially the US the wait on the adoption list can range up to 8 years for a baby.

coleblondehead

Sometimes they want a baby but its not the right time, they want a
carreer first, an education, the better prepared you are in life the better
equipped you will be to take care of a family and all it requires.
For example, do you thing the Oct mom though about if she was
ready financially to bring 8 babies in this world, no she was selfish,
she tought about her own needs. Some people just dont have the
money it requires to fulfill a childs needs, its very expensive.
I only had 1 child, and have been working 2 full time jobs raising her
now that shes 20 yrs old ive raised a young lady that want to go to
medicine, so im still not finished and im 45 yrs old, im very proud of
her, but it takes sacrifice/love/money, hopefully she will become a
valued member of society, but I cringe at the tought of the future of
those 8 children what will become of them, so its not just, Oh I think
ill have a baby or two today, in todays economy you really have to
think why you want a baby and can I afford it, can I give it the attention
it requires, I see a lot of todays parents just have throw away kids,
the minute they have a problem with them, they throw them out on
the street, to be somebody elses problem, todays society is very
heartless and cruel, my daughter has brough home friends sometimes
and told me can she stay over for few days, her parents dont want her
WHAT? DONT WANT HER? Shes not a puppy, shes 15/16 yrs old
this is a crucial time in her life. In society, thats the question, as
parents where are we going? So if youre thinking of adopting, just
think good and hard and if you have the commitment of raising a well
adjusted person, I commend you. God bless!!!

aaronelguapocr

I believe that adoption should be an option for everyone.
Many people want to have their own children because they think that they'll have a greater connection with children born to them. But that connection can also come through adoption. The connection comes through love, not birth.

Julia B

I don't know. I would love to adopt a baby but as I am single it just won't happen. I just want a child and I don't care how old it is or what color or age. I want to be a mom and know I would give a child a good home.

I'm Sober

people shouldn't be stealing other people's babies.

Cindy D

Because so many teens want someone to love them, and they think a baby is the answer. Also, they are clueless as to the time, money, and WORK involved in taking care of a baby, and they can't really imagine being committed to this child for longer than they've even been alive!

GEE-GEE

I think a lot of people believe its a lot harder and more expensive then it really is. I have had a great experience adopting. I would recommend it to anyone.

mama t!

if you are talking about a woman choosing abortion over adoption, this is my take on it.

theres nothing i hate more than to hear a woman say, oh if i get pregnant i'll just abort it, i couldnt adopt it out after carrying it for 9 months and giving birth, i'd be too attached!!

im sorry, but i was attached to that baby the moment i saw it on the ultrasound.

ugh

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