Why is it more likely (as far adoption) that Caucasian parents are?

"more likely" to throw their pregnant teen daughters under the adoption truck compared to other races?

Is it due to distorted religious beliefs, money, a way to rid their feelings of shame or embarrassment because of her age or not being married, societal pressure from the circles they live in, not wanting to be involved or deal with that side of parenting or because of the corrupt influence of agency's and the pro adoption organizations trying to normalize adoption who are focusing on whats in highest demand/$ from their clients?

I know women of all races and religions have relinquished as well as how we all have common or not so common issues within our own particular cultures. What I've noticed (living throughout North/Central/South Americas) and have read in research articles on culture within cultures it appears that Caucasians are not as supportive of their daughters/sons in the event of teen pregnancy.
In most cases of unnecessary infant adoption there is a lack of or no familial support to say the least.

African/ African Americans/Asians and Hispanics (to point out a few) tend to take care of each generation out of love and respect as if its the norm. Its not uncommon for 2 or 3 generations live together and support each other as in siblings or grandparents/great grandparents taking care of their grandchildren without going through the extreme measures of adoption. They step up to the plate and support each other although they may not agree that teen pregnancy was wise.

On a basic level....how is conditional love with your child a good thing and what has caused Caucasians to turn away from the unconditional familial bonds that other races continue to have when the issue is teen pregnancy?

I'm Caucasian for the record.

MamaKate

I think it is a cultural difference. I notice that families of other races tend to have a greater number of multi-generational households where extended family are more active participants in each others' daily lives.

Rivkah

Most children up for adoption in the United States are not Caucasian. Your observation is significantly incorrect. Black, Hispanic, and Asian families don't support teen pregnancy any more than Caucasian families. The population with the highest percentage of abortions per capita in the United States is African-American. As far as South America (where I happen to be *from*) most children put up for adoption are either black or mestizo.

Serenity71

Over the last few decades western society has become less and less set up for looking after the next generation in the way we used to. We tend to move away from parents and other family so it becomes more isolating in some cases. I'm a bit old fashioned when it comes to family. I tend to look out for my mum, and sisters and help out where I can.

I think the drive for family preservation in Aust has made a difference in some ways when it comes to single mothers and their parents taking on more with their daughters and sons when it comes to grandkids. And in others not much has changed. (From what I read here.)

There are still some who feel ashamed of teen pregnancy and refuse to help their kids through it on any level because they're scared of what others will think.

(Judge away is my saying... I stand by the people I love, not through them out because they aren't perfect especially when it comes to your family.People walking around with their little rule books have no hold on me, they aren't God but he loves them too. Isn't that suppose be the christian way of life-helping family and those around you to improve quality of life. We are meant to have a strong sense of family and community and work to keep families together where possible throughout generations.

So what happened along the way? The 1950's ideal and the the perfect family image took over... sweep the it under the rug and put on mask and hide away the sinners...ugh, so glad I live in Aust now and not back then.

Jennifer L

Really?

Do you have any stats to back up this assertion?

aloha.girl59

I think Mama Kate hit it on the head. I live in Hawaii where the majority of the population is at least part Filipino/Japanese/Chinese/Pacific Islander. Many of these families live in multi-generational households where everyone takes care of their own. I work with a 25 year old Filipino guy (American-born) who leaves work at lunchtime every day to diaper and feed his grandfather. At least one of his sisters is unmarried and has 2 children -- they all live together and take care of each other. I'm sure that part of that is because housing is extremely expensive in Hawaii and everyone in the household contributes to the rent or mortgage. But I know it's also because Asian people tend to take care of their own.

When I was a PAP and taking my MAPP classes through DCFS six years ago, we were told that there were very few Asian children available to foster/adopt because families with Asian backgrounds keep their children within the family.

Good for them! :)

Alexisbelle

I have read this whole thing, and can't help but think that you are generalizing. I don't think all Caucasians as a whole have made the decision to NOT stand by their teenagers when they are pregnant...

Sarah

It really depends on the individual family rather than race. Though race can partially play a part.

(I'm Asian)

I know some Asian families who will rather you abort the child, or encourage the father (if it's their son/newphew..etc) to walk away from the responsibility or deny the existence of the child. They won't mention adoption, but they encourage abandonment nonetheless just in a different form.

23 year old texas female married

Coming from poor and middle class blood I am caucasian as well, I would never force my teen daughters to relinquish their babies. I personally would never encourage them to get married either. As I tend to view most men as self centered irresponsible verbally, mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abusive. My daughters will not be allowed to marry as teenagers.

I only really recall during the Baby Scoop Era that white women were the prime victims of forced adoptions. In today's culture We find more white women raising their children be that single or co-parenting and even married. A lot of agencies would rather white girls relinquish their baby as there is a high demand for a white baby.

HappyMomAnna

I don't think it's more likely to be honest. I just know way too many parents who have not only been supportive of their unwed pregnant teen or young adult daughters and sons. It is Not abnormal for Caucasian grandparents to Have the Grandchildren for periods of time--sometimes years. It's almost abnormal for the Caucasian people I know who have grandchildren NOT to have the grandchildren and often the adult parent living in their households for extended and/or prolonged periods of time.

I only know ONE grandparent who has had a grandchild adopted. And even they have supported their daughter with the 2 more children she has had. They never didn't support her in every way they can.

My father and step mother raised my step-sisters children for over 10 years when she went down the wrong path. And during the past several years worked for her to take her children back.

My mother and step father had my brother and his 3 children live with them for years and years after their mother decided she didn't want to be a mother and left her husband and 3 children.

My sister-in-law has her 25 year old unwed daughter and nearly one year old grandchild living with her. She babysits while my niece is finishing college.

I don't believe that "Caucasians" don't have the values you seem to think. My Aunt is living on the same property with two of her cousins...The property has been in the family since before the Civil War. Both of my cousins live on the property too. Everyone does their part and a few miles away my mother lives on her chunk of ground. My brothers are both there to keep her property and prosperity going.

We have never had a child in our family placed for adoption as far back as anyone could know. My husband's family is an immigrant family and the grandchildren are the first generation of Americans. My sister in law was a European White woman who lived with her parents and raised her daughter for years and years. My husband and his brother continue to support their sister. She was never married--she had one baby and 2 abortions. It was sad we lost our niece when she was 12 to a drunk driver... but, no one doesn't support each other.

I rather resent the over generalization that White people don't take care of their own and we kick out our pregnant daughters who don't place children for adoption? I have never seen it happen. It didn't happen to my mom when she gave birth to me in 1963 before she married my father. No one even suggested adoption.

I don't understand this question because it doesn't even remotely resemble the life I have lived for 46 years or the white people I know. And I grew up in San Diego and thought I was Mexican until 3rd grade. When I was a minority I didn't even notice because my family had the same values as the Mexicans I lived around we just went to different Churches.

I really don't understand what you are talking about and don't know one family that has ever thrown out a pregnant woman for any reason. I have never known one family that said their child had to give up a baby for adoption in order to have the family support. It's just not something I have even seen happen so--wonder where on Earth you live so I never move there...

QuestionKing

You must have many friends, to know all the caucasian parents, and indeed people, who are out there. Lucky you to be so popular.

I personally would never throw one of my daughters under a truck, adoption or otherwise. Are you quite all right?

BLW_KAM

I believe it has more to do with the American culture than individual racial cultures.

We are independent. We generally do not live in extended families. We honor self-sufficiency and frown on dependency. We expect to raise our children and retire in Florida or Arizona. We really don't expect to be raising our children's children.

This is a common way of life in America, good, bad, or ugly.

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