Why is it that people talk about adopting animals but no one ever talks about adopting children?

Keine Kinder

Pets love unconditionally.

My girlfriend and I adopted a dog. We hate children.

While I respect your wishes to adopt, rather than to add to the already overcrowded earth, I think you are making a mistake. I am 41. Most of my friends have children. None of them are happy about it. Sure, in public, they will say they are happy, but in private they will admit to their mistake.

As a result of not having children, I have a white collar job, and have traveled the world. I plan to leave my estate to an animal charity. I would not give money to any human. Why would I never do so? Because when you give money to a human, you just handicap them (and make their situation worse than before).

Richa

because pets like dog r more faithful and other pets are less expensive, wheras a child has lot of responisbilites and cost more...

Lady

There are a lot more animals that need adoption than there are children, that is for sure.
Adopting children is a very large responsibility and most agencies have some very specific qualifications. The qualifications for adopting an animal can be almost nothing.
For people who want to adopt children, many people want babies. There are not many babies that are available for adoption. Older children can have some serious issues, that people are more worried about taking into their own house. These fears may not always be rational but there are many stories out there about problem children raised in the foster care system.
I wish more people would adopt children but adopting animals is much easier and usually a shorter term commitment.

StacieG

I don't really care for the "adopt a <fill in the blank>" programs (adopt a dog, adopt a highway, etc). I am all for people going to the humane society and rescuing a cat, dog, gerbil or whatever, but it's not adoption...<sigh>

We adopted two girls (sisters) from South America. They are our daughters & we're thrilled that they're in our family. We also provide foster care here in the states. it's wonderful & we'd love to adopt another child (this time from foster care).

I also think that some folks' priorities and values are really messed up. People care more about spotted owls and manatees than they do the children who are here! Argh!

<off my soapbox>

MissM

Huh? Lots of people adopt children. I guess the reason more people adopt pets is because adopting a pet involves going to the pound, picking out a puppy, and paying $45.00 to make it yours. Adoption of a child involves the LONG process of finding an available kid, thousands of pages of paperwork, home studies, psychological evaluations and a much bigger payment of between $10,000-$35,000 to finalize it all.

Once you start the process of adoption, you will discover that all of the "needy kids" you hear so much about are REALLY hard to find. Infants are out of the questions, and older kids in foster care are frequently still legally tied to parents who do nothing for them, but who refuse to allow them to be adopted. It is a difficult process and only those who are truly dedicated to the idea can get through it.

So the people who should be talking about it, those who are dedicated to the huge commitment of procuring and raising a child who is parentless, are talking about it. And those who aren't are mature enough to realize that they do not have that innate calling to adopt.

Ceiling Cat

People want children that carry their genes. It's a selfish, evolutionary desire. An animal is always adopted; you can't produce your own animal.

Crucio

For some people adopting animals is much easier and less costly, you can go to the shelter and get a dog right then. Sadly some people donâ€™t want to be raising someone else â€œkidâ€ so if they cant have their own theyâ€™ll do with out, then their pets become their â€˜kidsâ€™

Adopting children sometimes scares people because of the time frame that the birthparents can get the kid back. It can be anywhere from a few days even up to a few months. Not sure what agency told the Angie that birthparents could come back at anytime to reclaim but that absolutely not true at all. They would have a time period but they couldnâ€™t come back say 2, 3 + years later to reclaim. The only way they could is if the adoption process had not been done properly thatâ€™s why ya want all your Tâ€™s crossed and Iâ€™s dotted.

Adopting a critter can be good even more for people who want kids one day, it allows them to be solely responsibly for another living creature. I hope to adopt kids someday but Iâ€™ll adopt some doggies and maybe Kittens too , because Iâ€™m an animal person and my life would be empty if I didnâ€™t have a least 1 dog .

melissa s

people talk about adopting children all the time, maybe not the people you are talking to

Hopi

Here's a great article on respectful adoptive language-
www.perspectivespress.com/pjpal.html

Angie B

It's not that people care more about animals. My husband and I can't have children. We've adopted a greyhound and now a cat. Since we've heard the devestating news that we can't have our own children, we decided to go back to school to further our education. It's difficult to keep up with pets, much less a child.

We did look into adoption at first, and we were told there were no babies available to us because we're white and all the babies for adoption were something other than white. Then, we were told we could adopt a child, but the child's mother or family could come back at any time and take their child back. This was about five years ago, so I'm not certain if laws have changed; however, the thought of raising a child for several years and then losing that child? That's devestating to think of what that child would go through and frankly, we've had enough heartache for that to happen to the child or us.

We don't have our priorities mixed up and it hurts that people think that way. I just know for a fact that no one will ever steal my dog back and break my heart. Perhaps, someday, when we have excellent jobs and can afford to go to another country, we'll adopt a child from Russia or China. However, until we can afford to do such a thing, I'll have to cuddle with my pets. And right now, that will have to do.

There are people who care more about children than adopting animals. Maybe you should hang around different people. Everyone has their passions and some people its animals

Im ok UR ok

1)its easier $50& its yours unfortunatly they dont ck u out
2) mentioned above its cheaper just the [ beginning] process is over $10,000 in the u.s
3) it IS promoted u r so wrong: kfc(kentucky fried chicken), Wend's, delilia on magic radio are just 3 buisness that premote adoption & there are more perhaps you live in the woods, Im sorry ,you dont get around
also even those who are handicapp they make it hard to adopt here in the u.s.

hopefully this educates you some

Tina Goody-Two-Shoes

Funny. I thought it was always the other way around. It's just the fad nowadays to say you are "adopting" a pet.

*[|Babyâ™¥Dust|]*

Im not really sure what your talking about...because on here people talk about adopting children and babies all the time...i think it is you who has your priorities mixed up there!!!
and besides that...since you brought it up...how many children have you addopted!

Still Me

It's great that you are thinking about adoption at your age! But you are somewhat misinformed!

Thousands upon thousands of people adopt every year! And the numbers are growing! Fifteen years ago, there were infants in the U. S. who had to wait years to be adopted, or remained in foster care forever. Now, there is virtually no infant in the U. S. who is not adopted immediately after birth, or when legally able to be adopted. The very rare exceptions are the sweet angels who have multiple severe physical and mental handicaps and have to be cared for by medical personnel throughout their lives.

There are parents who wish to adopt babies who are physically ill, mentally delayed, medically comprimised, deaf, blind, HIV+, etc. Parents hearts are sooooo big, and many find a special calling to parent severely handicapped children, as well.

So, let's look at the facts. The 500,000 children who lanquish in our foster care system in the U. S. are older children, large sibling groups and children with many severe medical and emotional challenges. THESE are the child who so need to have parents. Very capable and strong, educated and prepared parents who dedicate themselves to these dear children!

And of course, the need to adopt infants oversees was created by the demand of mostly U.S. parents who would accept only a white child. Even as late as 15 years ago children of color were passed over in this country while parents flocked to Eastern Europe just so the child they parented had white skin. This created a flux of babies available for adoption overseas, and many were being pushed into the system illegally or immorally. Those poor birthparents were, and are, sometimes paid to relinquish their infant, or given $50 to feed their 4 starving children at home if they will give over one. Some are forced, or bribed. Eventually, the demand slacked off a bit, but the babies kept coming! You see, not all in adoptions is sugar and spice! There is racism, bribery, coersion, desperation, and greed in adoptions, too.

I applaud you for your feelings. One day you will make a loving and informed parent!

Because animals don't scream at you, tell you that they hate you, rebel against you, it's cheaper, and babies aren't being killed in adoption homes-animals are.

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