Why is okay for people to?

Serenity71

Lori- I do ignore a lot of questions... and your right some are hard to ignore especially when you see the sarcasm in them.

Some people can have trouble with wording a question sometimes, I know at times I want to ask something, I don't want it to be offensive but at the same time I want it to be clear so i can find out how people feel or what they know on subject relating to adoption...Then I read it later and think ahhh I should have worded that better. So I try to add to it so the answerer can maybe get a clearer idea on what I'm asking.

My questions come from conversations in RL with people who say something and I think...what do people really feel or think about that?

Its a public place YA, you're going to get some idiot from time to time who wants to stir up trouble or antagonise people to make themselves feel better. I've never been offended by any of your questions or answers.

Gaia Raain

You know what would have been REALLY funny? If you had said, "I'm just trying to understand" at the bottom! LOL

These idiots aren't fooling anyone. But they're fun to have around, aren't they? Don't let them get to you.

Linny G

It's not.

But, we all know what their motives are. Its like idiots who make a racist joke, then say, "Oh, some of my best friends are________"

Its just a way of covering up their ignorance. I like the fact that a few a parents have "blocked" me. Awwww....truth hurts, huh? Make her go away, then I dont have to deal with it. Too funny.

Its so childish.

DevonChaos

I don't think they are trying to understand. I think they are trying to start a fight so they can feel self righteous when people get upset with them because they "were just trying to understand". Its a very passive aggressive way to go about things. Just like when someone says "no offense, but..." followed by something offensive. They just want to start up a big ol' fight.
I honestly try to keep it in the same vein as the question. If someone is truly polite and asks a question for their own self-enlightening, fine. If they are being smarmy and obnoxious, then I don't bother censoring myself in my answer.

ETA: Evidently the culprit got their question deleted.

aloha.girl59

It's not OK.
Some people just like to stir the pot.
Lots of trolls or high school freshmen in here lately. ;)
I answer honestly and with as little sarcasm as possible...most of the time. I figure if someone is going to ask a question, I'll answer it honestly in the hopes that he or she just might learn something.
Unfortunately, they usually just pick the answerer that agrees with them. Too bad they're ignorant.

almost human

it has nothing to do with asking a question and everything to do with using the Q&A format as a soapbox.

it is a way to get around the Y!A rules.

But by answering, we thwart their efforts and expose what charlatans they are. Stupid people out themselves, so let them come.

Besides - it's still an opportunity to educate and inform.

Kim

Ah yes, my favorite kind of question.

My second favorite is: "Who agrees with me that __________." (Pick your poison for the blank: 'birth' mothers should have kept their legs together; adoptive parents are child traffickers; adoptees who wish to search are ungrateful, etc.)

I especially love when the asker adds additional details which basically say "Anyone who disagrees with me is an idiot." Good times to be had by all on Y!A.

BLW_KAM

I find ignoring the question altogether works best for me.

It's similar to dealing with the class bully. If you ignore them, it takes all the fun out of it for them and eventually they will either go away or grow up.

We should create a pact. If the question is disrespectful or inflammatory, let's just ignore it. Anyone want to join me?

ETA: That being said I just broke my own rule and answered a question with the word "stupid" in the title.

Randy B

Probably for the same reason they load their questions or slant them one way or the other so that no matter what way someone answers it still looks bad. I see many "questions" that are in fact statements, rants or opinions with a question mark at the end of them. They always lead me to believe that the person knows the answer already and they are either looking to "stir the pot" or collect opinions that agree with them.

clarry

I understand what you mean. To be honest I wouldn't consider it too much..there are so many types of people on this site that of course there will miscommunication and misunderstandings...different levels of intelligence, emotional intelligence etc...If I was You, I would continue to answer as you normally do....some people will really appreciate it!

No God But Allah

there will miscommunication and misunderstandings...different levels of intelligence

As above mentioned

kateiskate

I would report it as a rant if I thought it was a rant and not a genuine question. But that's just me.

cassie

y is this stuff under adoption in the first place?

sizesmith

I know that sometimes, I've gotten a subject in my mind, and to some it might be distasteful, and to others, a real problem. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, we type things we don't really mean.

I have learned a lot from the other sides of the adoption triad in reading the answers to questions I've asked. As a result, I'm a much better prepared person to adopt again, this time through the foster care system.

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