Why would a person adopting 'block' adoptees from answering his/her questions?

SpeakTruthToPower

it is my experience in 66 yrs of life that people who do not want to face facts; who only want to hear the positive to reinforce their unsupportable positions, block out any opinions, or truths, that do not match their own. These people obviously are not suitable for adopting children or they would be using known, and proven, and legal adoption methods and would not have to discuss the matter on Y!A with only those who agree with them.

they need to adopt a therapist for a few years or analysis, but not a baby or child. it is very sad they won't listen to an adoptee... they could gain a world of knowledge, expertise and experience and know what to avoid.

Thank you for asking this question.

bugwales

because they are afraid of the truth...adoptees(like myself)can tell them the truth about how the child will feel,what that childs emotion will go through when they find out there adopted....people like this carnt face the truth...they need to get there heads out of the clouds and come down to reality

reichy

They either feel it's a biased opinion or they don't want to hear the truth.

Possum

I'm not 66 - but I wholeheartedly agree with the first answer from Jean.
Well said!!
That's why I gave a thumbs up for that answer.
That's what the thumbs are for people.
If you agree or disagree with the answer - you use the thumbs.
It's not rocket science.
Or some mystical thing.
It's about opinions - and that's what Yahoo Q & A is about.
Sheesh.

Great question.

:o)

Elizabeth

Some people just can't handle the truth. It messes with their rainbows and sunshine.

Julia B

I would say its ignorance on their part.

Joy M

I think it has to do with the fact that some adoptive parents see adoptees as having magical abilities to heal them. They hold out this hope and resent those that might dash it.

I find this attittude very common but not universal.

Isabel A

Ha Ha! I'm one of the banned ones!

It makes me giggle.

I also agree with Jean. Some people wouldn't want to know the truth if it bit them on the nose.

julie j

You know how ostriches stick their heads in the sand? It's a lot like that.

Heather B

Definitely anti-adoptee

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot

I blocked two people who are high on the "best answers" answerers because when they answered my questions, I felt insulted, but not quite over the line of "being a violation." in other words, they were I guess patronizing and back-handedly insulting.

Justice

Well, honestly I think Y!A may be more of a site for sharing opinions than for people really seeking information or researching. So I'm guessing that a person might 'block' answers that conflict with their preconceived notions.

It seems like some of us can dish it out better that we can take it. That's just what it looks like to me. I'm not an adoptee but apparently I offend some sensibilities here as well.

Crucio

I think they are most likely blocking people who will be of no help. People who will just belittled them for adopting tell them to have their â€˜ownâ€™ or keep trying for their â€˜ownâ€™ or just go with out children after all its cheaper.

What truth? All adoptees have different experiences you canâ€™t tell someone that their adopted child is going to fall on one side of the spectrum or the other because you simple donâ€™t know. All any adopted parent or prospective adopted parent can do is prepare for any scenario. Take me as I have said before I have had very little issues about being adopted I have no desire to find or located biological relatives. I am hoping to adopt one day. I know that a future adopted child might not have my same experience/feelings/peacefulness over being adopted.

That they might have issues being adopted or want to seek out biological Relatives. Iâ€™m fine with that I respect not everyone falls on the same end of the spectrum. One reason I have started reading some experiences from other adoptees those like myself who have had no major issues and others who have. Because I want to be able to be a little prepared for any way a child that I might adopt one day would fall. Be able to help my child to the best of my ability or at least be able to understand their feelings a little.

Look at eyetwinkles on here who is looking to adopt. I think she done a great job of wanting to learn things that can help her adopted child, help that child be able to learn some of his or her birth heritage. She has even said she would collect all the information she could on the childâ€™s birthfamily/birthbackground Despite this many people give her a thumbs down when she is just trying to do what is best for her future adopted child. See both sides of things, good, bad and in-between. Most who give her thumbs down hate adoption or at the most infant adoption. This poor woman should be praised, she is doing more then some parents looking to adopt will do.

Petra

Because your not giving advice here..You have very one sides posts and absolutely zero interest in showing or helping others deal with their adoption or helping others prepare for their own upcoming adoption. Your only reason for being here is to rant and rave and contaminate the rest of us who desire to understand their own feelings and get ready to helping the children they plan on bringing into their homes.

darcymc

are you talking about your self? is some one blocking your answers?
if that is the case, i can say that i find your posts very one sided and on the verge of ranting. you dont give opinions you preach
you are right and everyone else is wrong
that is not an exchange of ideas
now take your bat and ball and go home
imo

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