Why would you give your baby away?

Creampuff

I couldnt do it but some people feel the child would be better off with other people.

teddy

I would only if i was completely desperate. I can see why some women do, in the past it was considered that if you had a child out of wedlock, it was worse than murder, so many young women were forced to give up their child, thank heavens that doesn't happen now, at least in most western societies.

kemzie

would never give my kids away.never.

Wishmaster

some people are left with no other options. it is the hardest thing a mother can do and is also the most loving thing a mother can do.

Drop the phone

Well, praise yourself lucky you never found yourself in a situation where there is no other way out. Trust me, it breaks the mother's heart as much as it would break yours.

*Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's

I was taken from my mother and step-father when I was 4, thankfully.
Now a mother of my own I could NEVER ever bare to be apart from my babies. It would physically destroy me.

â™¥Amber is a New Momma

because it is in the best interests of the baby.
and you arent selfish.
sometimes its not all about you.
maybe if you raised the baby you wouldnt be able to care for it properly and give it what is deserves.
somebody else could.

Weed

Unless you have been put in that situation , you cannot answer that question, & until you are in that situation you would not truly know what you would do,

I carried a Water melon!!

Unless you have been in that situation you will never understand why. Maybe having a baby was not right for them, but couldn't go though with having an abortion. I always hope that people are sensible enough when it comes to "making baby's" and know all possible outcomes x x

Dave F

stolen,tricked,all sorts of slimely ways,not all are "given up" willingly dear.

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This is one thing I will NEVER understand, im not judging those who do but I just personally couldn't give away my own baby and IF I did want to I know for a fact my family wouldn't allow it, i just dont understand it and am really interested in what answers you get

noot

I could have done when she was newborn i was suffering with bad pnd and self harming as a result.I found it hard to hold her cause i felt like a crap mother and anyone else would have been better for her than me.But now I'm ok and i could never give her away so I'm glad i didn't xxxx

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because they know they cant be the mother the child wants ..
they cant support it they cant raise it ..

because they feel that they deserve a much better life than what they can give them .. so they give it away to a suitable family that can raise it right !

mianjl001

i know i could never do this, as long as you have family, there is no reason, if given away, all her life she will wonder why you didnt love her,you will always remember that look the day they brough her to you, that little smile will go thru life,always wonder about her or him.

jojo

some people can just not cope with the strain of having a child at that point in thier lives but probably couldnt go through with an abortion! its helping other couples that have a stable family life and want children but are unable to conceive. Its not as if the person is heartless for giving their child away they are just doing what is best for them and especially the child! xxx

Mr. Know It All

I wouldn't, but it is still better than an abortion.

Lori A

For those of you who do not know I am Rachaels nmom. I loved her father very deeply and still do, he is my good friend today. She would have been fresh meat to my family, there is no doubt in my mind, especially after talking to my female cousins. Incest was rampant in my family and although it sounds like I got the worst of it I was not alone.

Bizzi91 is absolutely correct, damned if you do and damned if you don't. I took my chances with don't, and it worked. She got everything I hoped she would and more. Now she has her father and my self too.

If you think giving a child away would rip your heart out (which it does) try thinking about all the abuse she would suffer if you kept her. Knowing it was happening and not being able to do anything about it. If you report them guess what happens???

Better to give than to have them taken. It was just a little easier for me to swallow being my choice not theirs.

suli2009

yeah darling that is truth ..

diddysmummy

For the best intrests of the baby in most cases. The parent(s) feel that the baby would have a better life with other people. I think in 99% of cases, adoption isn't selfish and would even consider it to be a very brave choice. I don't think I could do it personally but I would never judge people who choose to.

Still Me

As a mother I can't understand why you put that ridiculous avatar or photo or drawing or whatever it is on your post, either. But then each of us makes our own decisions.

Just because YOU cannot see making that choice, doesn't mean it is wrong for others.

Believe me, women have very good reasons for choosing adoption. And if a woman is able to make that decision, then perhaps it is the best one for the child.

LawComm

Well "I" wouldn't. But I respect the ones who do it for the right reasons. If you have made the decision that you couldn't raise the child properly for reasons of age or finances or your life situation, then by all means give someone who "wants" a child that opportunity.

LOVINit

Because some women can't afford to take care of the children. Some women just simply have unwanted pregnancies & aren't prepared for raising a child.

crissy

you wouldn't but sometime there might be a bad situation were the birth mother just has to and if it wasn't for these mothers not aborting the child and choosing adoption motherless women would never get that chance to be a mother i have 6 and couldn't live without mine

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Well I'm not a mother.
But, I did a study on this a few months ago, researched into adoption and abortion as well.
My results were that often a baby is given up for adoption because of the mothers welfare. Not saying she is an un-fit mother, but because she had problems that aren't yet resolved.
A major thing I looked into was women who were raped, most then went on to either abort their baby because carrying a rapists child was too much for them. Or, they carried the baby, but when the baby was born, they couldn't bond with him/her - purely because of who the baby's dad was. ( Which I was told can be seen as post-Natal depression. )
Its a pretty sad thing when you look into it.
However, I don't think people should judge because of their decision, a few of the people I was doing the project with were very immature and had a very nasty attitude towards the women who put their baby for adoption, or aborted their baby.
I also concluded that if the baby isn't going to be loved because the mother feels she can't, then the baby is better off with a family who he/she isn't biologically related to, but they will love him/her.

LaraSue

It is very easy to judge people when you have not been in their situation. It is a heart wrenching decision, and I know it is one not made lightly. Women who place their babies for adoption should not be made to feel guilty for their decision by anyone. Only one who has done it can know the personal cost and the reasons for their decision. They need to be respected, not vilified.

Silverbyheart

When I gave my child to a family that couldn't have children it was the HARDEST thing that I could do. I did it because the situation that I was in would not have been a good one for the baby. I wanted her to have the best life she could. She's very happy with her parents and I don't regret what I did. I have an open adoption and she knows that she was adopted and she knows who I am. Yes I had days where I wanted to take her back but I'm glad I didn't. I'm not saying in anyway that she would have been bad off with me. I just didn't want to put her through what I was going through at the time. I love her and miss her very much. I'm happy she's with two very loving people that are very grateful for me and her.

After reading others peoples responces to this question, i would like to add something. I did not throw my child away, I would have loved to raise her, I didn't do it to avoid responsiblity, I did it out of love. I love her very much and I wouldn't change what I did. Yes it was the worst type of pain that I could have ever felt. I don't regret it.

linda

How could I do it? barely 17 boyfriend 30 wife died had 2 kids. When I became pregrant he left me. Mom kicked me out. What would you do couldn't get a job {7 months} couldn't drive had no car. we were so poor we could barly make it. so I went to welfare they talked me into givng her up. it was in 60's.

Linda

I gave my child up becasuse I couldn't keep her. I found her 11 months ago. She had a great life and one day will accept me[ I pray]. she is 45, My daughter that my husband and I had has adopted 2 children who I love very much and works with adoption services. I also have 2 granddaughters by my first daughter even though I have never saw them my love for them is great

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