Will any body actually adopt a 13yr. girl?

Lori A

Do you have any relatives or close friends who's parents you have bonded with? You may not even have to go through adoption but maybe consider guardianship instead.

I'm sorry your father spoke to you like that, he shouldn't have. Teenagers are difficult for parents to handle sometimes.

Try asking him if he really meant it or was he just frustrated at the moment?

snowbarbie

Somebody would, but that is not the point.

Your father should NEVER have said what he did. That is a terrible thing to say to a daughter, no matter what she was doing.

I have 3 children, 2 step-children and 3 grandchildren, many foster children - and I have NEVER said anything mean like that!

What he said tells us more about him, than it says about you. He has problems which are nothing to do with you, so please don't take what he said to heart.

If you can, talk to an adult you trust - your mother, teacher, an Aunt or Grandma.

34 Weeks Its a Girl!Due 06/18/09

Yes. He does not have the right to talk to you like that. Can you talk to a school councilor about this? Its verbal abuse.
Good Luck and hang in there hun

Good People Here JJ

I hope this wasn't real...but if it is. I'm sorry you're having to deal with an mentally abusive parent.

Don't let anyone tell you - you aren't wanted.

:O)

snowwillow20

Sometimes people get mad and say things they don't mean, it doesn't make it ok. What about Grandma? Is she available? An Aunt you can talk too? If he is mean to you, hits you or is verbally abusive, you need to find help. He simply can't abuse you.

Jen

I WOULD ADOPT A TEEN.
ALOT OF PEOPLE ADOPT OLDER CHILDREN NOT EVERYONE WANTS A BABY.

Amy J

I am totally up for teen adoption. However I can not just adopt some 13 year old off the internet. You have to call child protective services or the police but it deoesnt sound like you have a very good case. Read some of the posts by the people who went through foster care and grew up without their birth family. It's always greener on the other side.

Kitty

I'd adopt you, unfortunately I'm 15.
I'm sure my parents would, too. Actually we were looking into taking a foster kid. [=
Don't worry. When I get older I'm looking specifically to adopt someone in your age group. I can't be the only one.
But your dad might have just been mad. Just in case, though, know that there are many who would not mind at all.

gablueeyes1978

i will adopt you and i am so so so so so sorry he said that to you.don't believe for a min that you are ugly and i hope things get better.or i will adopt you

Serenity71

Lori's right in asking if you have a family member that you have a bond with. It's not that people don't want to adopt teens.

(I would but we would have to have some sort of relationship first, after all if they have lived in a good foster home for years and love the family why should I step in, the foster family should be able to adopt the child.)

There has to more to this in what your asking in your question. He had no right to say that to you, or make you feel unwanted or unloved.

Teachers do care more than you think about the kids in their classes, if they know there is a genuine problem they will help you find the right kind of counseling to help you through the situation.

Hang in there. (Is dad going through a hard time at work and taking it out on the family? Does he work very long hours in a tiring job and you just happened to push the wrong button at the wrong moment?)

If its been going on for some time it needs to be addressed and fast. I hope you find someone in to turn to, try and talk to your mother again. Surly she wouldn't want to truly lose you.

Anne B

I'm so sorry your in this type of situation - but if you're in the city, there's lots of resources for you to get support. Go to the Y, or any city office as a start.

friends R gifts we give ourself

lot's of people will adopt teens-i have a 3 month old so we aren't going to adopt a baby when we adopt; but you have to understand it's a long process and your parents would never give you up deep down they love you. trust me i grew up with and alcoholic abusive father i left home at 15. i was luck i never had to turn to anything bad to make money, i did get married at 17 though and yeah he is a great man and he makes me happy i never had a chance to grow up. i don't even remember why i wanted to leave now. people say stuff in anger. unfortunately it's going to scar you for the rest of your life. but you need to know you are worth it. you are special and you're gonna be someone one day. that's more than you can say for him. sometimes if there's no one you can talk to it helps to talk to a perfect stranger, one you'll never see again. maybe on face book or myspace or such site. good luck honey. just try not to take it personally.

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