With so many American orphanges filled with children with no homes, should international adoption be banned?

Mom of two

There aren't any american orphanages. We use foster care and have for a long time...you can read all about it if you are interested...

mommy2squee

What orphanages? Name one.

America has group homes and foster care, but orphanages are a thing of the past. They went out with the workhouses.

stormwarnfm

My children, whom we adopted, have asked the same thing.

There are no typical "orphanages" in America...foster homes and group homes (aka: residential homes) and emergency shelters are what we have over here.

But anyway, the crux of your question...why are people going overseas to adopt when there are children here that need homes...well, it's a hard thing to deal with, BUT, it was hard enough to deal with 5 miscarriages, much less to be told I can only adopt a certain way or in a certain region.

We adopted our children from foster care, but if I had wanted an African baby, why SHOULDN'T I be allowed to give this baby a home?

No child is any less deserving of a good home, regardless of race, gender, or where they were born.

Becca

Why do people get so hung up on this??
A child is a child and all deserve a family and home. Of course it is best if a child can stay in the country which they were born but that just isn't always possible. Many countries will not adopt 'their own' cause blood is so important to them. Also many will not adopt a child who is less than perfect physically cause of the stigma attached to it.
Questions like this just really get to me cause all children are God's children and all deserve a home and if that means international adoption then so be it!

ETA: If we couldn't have adopted from China or some other country then we would not have adopted. Foster care adoption is just not right for our family. If IA was banned we would not have turned to the US then.

cubsnguns

Where are all of these American orphanages that you speak of? The U.S. typically uses a foster system where the parents have not relinquished their rights, so the kids are not adoptable because the courts and social service agencies hope to reunite the families.

TotalRecipeHound

No. The criteria for adoption domestically is often different than internationally. However, right now, some countries have a moratorium on infant adoptions because of fraud and possible infant kidnappings (basically sold for adoption by foreigners to bring money in). Also, there are no orphanages in the US - just foster care homes and group homes.

Adopting an older child can be fraught with problems. For instance, a couple I know (the wife was my coworker) tried for 6 years to adopt 3 different sibling groups. They were turned down because they moved about every 5 years due to the nature of hubby's job. Social Workers considered his employment 'unstable' despite the fact that 20% of the American population moves every 5 years. Eventually, they gave up domestic adoption and have since adopted 3 siblings from another country. That country's government continued contact for 5 years after the adoption and they exchange pictures and letters with the children's grandparents to this day (the kids are all in high school now).

MeerKat

North American kids are in foster care, and their parents still have rights. which they will not give up. Also adoption is now a four letter word, thanx to some angry people who would like to ban adoption all together. Some feel that a life in foster care is preferable to adoption. go figure. Also if adoption is allowed the birth mother usual wants to have some control in calling the shots on parenting issues. Not all adoptive parents want to be glorified babysitters, that all.

Wish I could be something

What should be banned is women who can't take care of the child they gave birth too..Thats what should be banned

jm1970

No, a child in need is a child in need, regardless of where they come from.

Also, as a foster care/adoption social worker...if a person cannot handle an older child and the needs they may exhibit, I would rather have them adopt a younger child from somewhere else.......it takes a very special person!

chelsea s

No. That would be implying that in some way American children are better or more deserving of good homes than other children. It is ethnocentric. All children deserve a loving family and good homes. Plus, there are many differences between domestic and international adoption. Adoptive parents should have the right to decide which they think is best.

â–ºBobBâ—„

we tried to adopt domesticly, it was IMPOSSIBLE! the myth that there are children in the USA with no homes is a media supported lie.

red&sassy

Yes, I think they should be banned. People are making money off babies in the blackmarket. Yes, couples should take from the pool here. There are alot of children that would love to have a home.

Huntersgirl

NO. Why should we deny any child a wonderful home.

Crucio

No I donâ€™t think so some people just want to adopt international its true there are plenty of children here that need to be adopted. However I donâ€™t feel someone should be forced to adopt from a certain place. In the end a child ends up with a home and family.

Cochise

The claim that there are myriads of American kids available for adoption is a myth.

Americans are very generous and adoptable kids are placed very soon after being placed in the "adoptable" category.

Amanda L

I would say no,because for one the orphanages in America are alot better funded and have alot more laws then the ones in other countries.second they make it almost impossible to adopt young children in America.

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