Would it be best to give my baby up for adoption?

Grace M

You should do what is right for your child. And they way you are talking sounds like you would be a great mom, but, at the same time, a child needs more. He/she need to be cared for properly.
Just think that if you did put your baby up for adoption, it wouldn't mean you are a bad mother, it would be the exact opposite because you are thinking what is best for you baby.
I would suggest adoption for this child. Because there are many families that would love your child as much as you do. And they wouldn't judge because of your decision.
If you want to talk more, here is my yahoo id RmmayGrace

Goodluck! I know you will be alright.

Crucio

Lori since your three weeks to your due date I would just see how you feel once your baby is born and then you can make your decision. You donâ€™t have to make a speedy decision by that I mean you donâ€™t have to decided pronto after the baby is born you can take as much time as you need. There is aid available if you choose to parent your baby.

Of course if the father is against it and wouldnâ€™t give up his rights then you canâ€™t place the baby for adoption.

Gaia Raain II

Why can't you give this baby what s/he needs? The only thing babies need is their mother. There are services to help you feed, clothe, and shelter your baby and yourself. You can do it! Check out this website:

http://www.girlmom.com/

They're doing it. You can, too. I hope you find the support you need to keep your baby. You won't be young forever.

Sarah

I would read up on adoption and learn about it more, so you know about adoption itself, and also know about what alternatives there are to adoption. Also read up on government support to see what you qualify for, if you choose to keep your child. Best to have both sides covered incase of a change of heart.

Wait until the baby is born and give yourself some time to settle down and let your emotions settle as well.

In the end remember that adoption is permanent and raising the child is a life commitment.

Alyssa k

To tell ya the truth. I couldnt tell you.
I thought for me to give my son up when I was 14 would be the hardest thing!! And it really is the hardest thing But Now That I am 16 I feel comfortable and I sit and think of how i could of never taken care of a baby. even though then i thought I was ready. Its hard! But its comforting that your baby will be in good hands!! And if you believe that it is the thing to do, Dont name him as the father to the adoption agency, ONLY if you believe that he would not be good for this baby either! Like I said its hard! But very comforting!

lemon

I think you should do it!! Your aunt and uncle would be very happy, and you would be too knowing your child is safe, and you will even get to see him or her. The guy should sign the papers

myst1998

No one else can give your baby 100%

No stranger can ever be the same as YOU, the mother who brings this child into the world. Your baby hears your voice, your heartbeat and that brings him/her much comfort. They are aware of your feelings; the chemistry is fed through the umbilical cord and sub consciously starts to feed his/her feelings of self worth.

When this baby is born and thrust into a world of noise and bright lights, he/she will be wanting you, his/her Mama. He/she is not aware of your age, your capabilities. All he/she wants is to be with Mama.

Adoption can give your child a flash home and things; strangers who might love him/her (not guaranteed in adoption) but you can give him/her a home, a heritage, history, true identity and love.

It will be hard. If you have family support it will help. Society wants you to believe you are too young and unable to care for your child. I have a close friend who became a mother at 16 and her son is now 8. He was kept and the whole family rallied around her to keep him in the family. She is now a Social Worker committed to working with disadvantaged teens. This shows it is possible.

I hope you think about it seriously. Adoption hurts. Alot. And not just you, the mother.

Here are some websites to browse:

http://www.cubirthparents.org/booklet.pdf

http://advocatesforpregnantwomen.org/

http://www.keepyourbaby.com/

http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/adoption_damage_to_children.html

http://mystere1998.blogspot.com/

Suggested reading:

The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier
Journey of the Adopted Self by Betty Jean Lifton
Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig
Death by Adoption by Joss Shawyer
Secret Life of the Unborn Child by Thomas Verny

Harriet

As you're so close I think you should wait and see how you feel once the baby is born. I can tell from your question you're definitely not sure yet. You don't have to decide now...try parenting for a while and see if you think you can handle it, or if you feel like giving your baby away. It's up to you. But as you know if the father won't agree to it you won't be able to. As to whether adoption within the family or not is best, I'm not sure because I've heard different things. In general I think it is as the child is still with their biological family, but it really depends. Good luck.

Harriet

Fotomama

I am posting a link to an agency which not only arranges adoptions, but they provide help and support and counseling to birth mothers.

I think that your mind is going to the right place. Most children of teenaged parents end up living in poverty. They have a higher incidence of drug and alcohol abuse, crime, incarceration and becoming teenaged parents.

Take a look at this site, get ahold of them, see if they can help you too.

cantstopLinnyG

A baby only needs and wants to be raised and loved by his or her natural parents.. You do not have the right to tell the baby's father he cannot raise the baby. It is HIS baby, too. Giving the baby to other people will make the baby's life harder. He or she already knows and loves you. Please educate yourself on what adoption will do to you and your baby.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QOZGwqHVnKs

http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_facts/adoption_coercion.html

http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org
http://www.amfor.net/acs
http://www.origins-usa.org
http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm
http://www.keepyourbaby.com/the_primal_w...
http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index....

Nicole K

there is so many families out there that would love to adopt you child, You can always have an open adoption if you wanted to stay involve in you babies life. You are young and unmarried with a full life ahead of you. If you are serious about this then look into it. My husband and I are military young and would give you baby a loving home. and would allow you to stay in contact with him. Good luck and god bless and if need go ahead and email me my yahoo id is nklodt

Philippa

If you're having doubts don't go through with the adoption. Just because you're young doesn't mean it will always be tough and it you can still have a good future, having a child doesn't stop you from having a good education or job. If you decide you still want to go through with adoption do it because you honestly bnelieve it's best.

Yarr

Babies need a LOT more than just to exist in the same place as their mother. To say otherwise is moronic. Just do what you feel is right.

shirley n

no no no no because that baby is going to wonder who s/he morther so no all it is doing is tearing a part of life away so dont if you want or baby to that so no no no BEcause its doing it to me now sodont please dont because my birth mother did it to me and I never seen her in my life so dont do it for every kid out there who wonder about there mom ok please and my birth mother name is Cookie Garnes and my twin's name birth name is Reba Mae/May Garnes and Mine is Leigh Tein Garnes So no

minnie

UHM HUNN HONESTLY THE BABY WILL HAVE A HARDER LIFE.... NOT KNOWING ITS MOM... LEY AONE DAD KEEP YOUR BABY YOU DECIDED TO SLEEP WITH THE GUY AND ITS NOT FAIR THEBABY SHOULD HAVE TO SUFFER FROM YOUR DUMB JUDGMENT AND INCONCITERTE BEHAVIOR... NOT TO BE MEAN HUNNY BUHT SERIOULY YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WHERE DOING AND NOW THAT YOU HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY YOU HAVE TO FESS UP TO REALITY AND DILL WITH WHAT YOU CAUSED.... ALOT OF PEOPLE WOULD SAY THIS IS MEAN BUHT YOU KNOW DAMN WELL ITS THE TRUTH!!

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yeah if your problem is money the government will always help you out. But if you still wanna go through with an adoption you could talk to an adoption agency they will know what to do.

I wanna be like the pretty girls

i say you give the baby to your aunt & uncle, because you'll get to see it alot

Big Baba

http://adoptionnetwork.com/?GCID=GOOG&KEYWORD=baby%20adoptions&gclid=CP_ZkpHF2JkCFR0SagodGnz7XA

Devaughn M

I would not recommend an "interfamily" adoption, or any other adoption for that matter. If you decide to adopt inside of the family you will have to watch the child grow and develop. This process is hard on most women and they wind up suffering from depression problems for several years or even the rest of their lives. If you do adopt the baby out....scope the scene....there are a TON of couples out there that are unable to have children. They would be blessed to have your child. **NOTE** Try checking the newspaper.....Sometimes CHRISTIAN adoption agencies will advertise for particular couples. These agencies have EXTREMELY strict guidelines and will not let your child go into a bad home.

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