Would you let an older couple adopt.?

Adopted Jane

Eeek Watch it Im 41 and I will be 50 when my son is 10
Currently I look in my middle 30's.

I think stereotyping for OLD is a little cliche these days when people are having kids when they are older, ie putting careers first etc
I had my first at 36
I had no choice, I didn't meet the right man until I was 34
Would I rather my children be 20 when I'm 50 ? you bettya but life isnt always on demand as to what we want...

My parents were old they were 41 and 43 when they adopted me but they were a *older* 40 set...if you get what i mean...

Anyway I do however think, in regards to the askers question, that late 50's and early 60's IS Too old to be starting out adopting. They need to be raising the child they have and looking forward to being grandparents..

Although they do say that kids keep you young ....although ....they also say kids give you grey hairs

ROFL so I have no idea !

Maybe they should just keep on fostering for the next 5 years

Doodlestuff

I don't think it is reasonable to raise an infant from your early 60s. I think your parents are just out of luck. They should have considered adopting additional children before they got to the age they are. Providing foster care is important and a way for them to help other children and focus on YOU, their chld.

If your parents want to adopt an older child and can't find one within their own county, they should consider contacting surrounding counties. My relative adopted a daughter, who was 7 at the time, from a different county. Her only issue was her health and lack of parents. She's a wonderful little girl otherwise.

Finally, I would add that my grandmother had a son at 52. He was an adult before she died. Wouldn't have changed a thing. There are many grandparents who raise their grandchildren quite successfully. My hats off to them. I just don't think it fair to an infant to deliberately give them grandparents to raise them when they already have one huge knock in life (no parents) against them.

opedial

Hmm, we had always had 40 as a bit too old to start raising an infant, but to each their own. But to have a 60 year old adopt a newborn....They will be 80 when the child is 20!

What I think is great is people in their retirement years fostering. What an excellent thing to do! They could specialize in infants if that is truly what they want to do.

samira

that's too old. sorry.

IDK!!

Funny how they don't want an older kid, buy they want a baby to have older parents.

Just like "older kids have issues" so do older parents. Hea;th problems, less acitve. It's just not fair to chose a 50 or 60 year old to raise a newborn. The kid would be caring for that parents before they're in hugh school.

My mom is 49 with a 10 year old and my sister has to deal with the effects of my mothers aging. kinda sad. I couldn't even imagine if she were 69-75.

Santa's Lil' Helper

While may not be the ideal situation for a young child let us not forget their are many grandparents doing just this is the United States. I am sure Canada and abroad is no exception.

Crucio

My Aunt was nearly 49 when she adopted (private) her son, her husband was a few years younger then her. My parents were in their early 40â€™s when I was adopted but theyâ€™ve always looked younger then they actually are.

Of course a healthy person in their 60â€™s could still live at least 20 more years or more. People seem to be having naturally children later and later, there was a woman who about 2 years ago had twins and she was like 63. Not mention all the kids being raised by a grandparent(s).

I donâ€™t think there is anything wrong with your parents just continuing to be foster parents and giving stability and love to kids who need it for a short time or long time. Good Foster parents can make a big difference in a kidâ€™s life. If your parents want they might look into the Fos to adopt program.

HappyMomAnna

We were told when we adopted children from foster care that the "rule of thumb" was to add a year of age for every year over 40 of the youngest parent.

Meaning a 42 year old would be logical to place a child no younger then 2 years old with.

In our state this is not a policy or a law however we were told it is a very honored rule of thumb when placing any child who may be adopted.

And to be honest I am 39 years older then my youngest child and now a 45 year old mother of a 6 year old... I look ahead and I know that HIS life expereinces are going to be MUCH different then my son who is 25 years old expereinced.

I went camping and slept in the mud when my oldest was 8 years old--I had a hard time last month sleeping on an air mattress inside of a school building... bones hurt and the idea of cold wet mud is out of the question for me now. I can be the "First Aid" lady at day camp but, not going to lead a pack of 5th graders to the top of the trail by the waterfall... Just isn't gonna happen.

There are other ways I am a better mother now and other ways my older children had different expereinces because I was younger...

I love being a mom--but, don't believe I would adopt an infant when I am in my 50's. I believe that is a selfish step. As it stands now I know my younger children will have me for LESS of their lives then my older children do...But, I am confident that baring a horrible accident or unforseen illness my little ones do have the chance to graduate from college, maybe get married and maybe have children before I die....

If I were 56 years old right now with a 6 year old--I am sorry but, I would be spending a lot of time trying to figure out how to apply for social security and where I want to have christmas parties for my Grandchildren -- the children you will give your parents when you grow up and start your family.

Just my personal feelings--but, I like the "rule of thumb" our state uses... it seems to have been a wise measurement for me personally....actually, in retrospect I would have said 39 years age difference was about 4 years too many but, that's just me....

sizesmith

I'm a 41 year old woman, who has an almost 8 month old adopted son. Even from when I was 22 to now, I can see some differences, where if I were in my 30's or 20's I'd be even more physically active, however, above 50 is a big difference! I've many times been accused of being my son's grandmother instead of his mom (I look a lot like my avatar, I can turn a head at a construction sight, and have been ID'd to buy liquor in the past 14 years!). There are kids who can be adopted that are a little older, but mentally have much better health than some of the harder to place kids. My social worker has told me that he doesn't place all the kids on the websites, because he knows there is a demand for some (this sounds cruel, and don't give me a thumbs down, he actually said that yesterday). Their wisdom, knowledge, and stability should help them through with adopting an older child. At their age, I don't think it's fair for the child. I know that even if you adopt in your 20's you could get hit by a truck, but they'll be 70 when the baby graduates, and kids need FOREVER parents, not just through graduation. I'm 41 and still enjoy talking to my 96 year old grandma! I can't imagine being 27 and having to bury parents.

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