Would you love an adopted child as much as your biological child?

zena e. Yr eyes tell the truth

Yes I did .. I had my brothers child live with me for 5 years and I couldn't let the child go
when they came back for her..

Both my brother and sister in law were students in Europe. I am as close to her
today as my one . and she called me Mom too :) my two Moms.

You can love .. People leave home to Pets. ( ridiculous) How can you not love a Child?

Absolutely Love encompasses me All

parental unit

I would like to think that I would. However, I doubt that any parent would forget which child was adopted and which was not. The birth of each of my children is a distinct memory, I would imagine that the adoption of a child would be very memorable as well.

FlyingMonkeySwatter

Love doesn't blind parents to adoption that they forget. Myth. Total myth.

I do love my children. One is adopted and one is bio. It isn't a matter of "as much." I very much think of my family relationships as a description of a love of a different kind. I love my parents differently too. I don't know that you can measure love that way.

We love our children unconditionally and for the special little people that they are as individuals. Don't really know this is a valid question from my view point.

turkeybrooknj

I know that I could but have heard other people say that they could not possibly love an adopted child as much as a biological child. If you adopt them, they are yours and I would think of them as mine just as much as the ones I gave birth to. I don't understand not loving them as much but that is just me.

Nora

they are wonderfull people. i am not. . my own would come first.

Kalena

I was 20 when my dad told me he wasn't my biological dad. I started cry and he asked me why I was crying. I told him the truth that now he didn't have to love unconditionally anymore because I wasn't his. He wrapped me and hug and told me it was never a choice he couldnt help but love me unconditionally. I was his no matter what a blood test would say. He asked me if I loved him less knowing he wasnt my biological dad, and of course that answer was a big no. He said it was the same for him. He will always be the man I compare every other man to because he choose me and loved me no matter how much and how hard I tested that love.

Lulu Lullaby

There is something odd about the logic behind your statement "some couples love them so much, that they forget which ones are adopted". Does that mean that birthing a child is the ultimate and most sophisticated expression of love? So much that in order to love your child who is adopted you need to consciously or unconsciously forget that you didn't give birth to them? Because a) While I have no complains about the experience of pregnancy and childbirth, they never defined me as a mother or were the final, decisive statements on my relationship with my children and b) I have not forgotten how I came to adopt my children and I never had to passively shove the memories of adoption in order to love them and connect with them.

This is of course, my personal experience and nothing else. I know a lot of women who valued their biological bond with their children immediately and see childbirth as the highlight of their motherly experience and I respect that. My experience has been different. I loved all my children from the get go just by virtue of their existence and the excitement of having a life together, but my love increased exponentially and my role as a mother took a greater, moving shape once I had a chance to discover their little personalities and know them as individuals, not as an extension of my own body or family tree, but as completely unique people with their own dreams and virtues.

So, I love my children the same and that has never been something that amazed me or surprised me. Some adoptive parents find it surprising that they can love their children the same but to me it was not a big discovery. Having them near me and experiencing the world by their side has been my priviledge and most loving, exasperating, tiresome adventure.

That doesn't mean that I erase or put aside the trials and tribulations, anguish and happy moments that brought us all together. Their births and adoptions are my treasured memories and adoption is a valued, powerful journey, one that I cannot erase or would want to.

Taylor

Maybe.

Cody

can it eat an watermelon?

Cam

I don't think of my (adopted) daughter as my adopted child. She's my child and I love her more than anything.

chachibald

Without a doubt, yes.

Chelsey

Yes you should!

Lisa C

I love each of my children all differently, but I so much that I would die for each and every one of them. I have 6 biological and 1 adopted. Each of them have different qualities and attributes that I adore. I don't think I "forget" about my son being adopted but I certainly don't think about it. I can even safely say that I may even be more protective of my son that is adopted - for a reason I cannot explain.

I absolutely adore my children and I feel very blessed to have them in my life.

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