Would you rather be adopted abroad or stay in an orphanage?

Leah

I would far rather have a family than stay in the orphanage, even if it means moving really far away. I don't have anything here that it would trouble me to leave behind. And the part about gaining a new family, well, for me that would be pretty much like heaven.

Mei-Ling

Very, very few children in orphanages actually do NOT have any parents whatsoever.

So, to answer your question, I would have preferred for social services to consider placing me back into my parents' home - as they had been capable of caring for me.

â™£Lash Catâ™¥

hmm i really dont know. I would have a hard time adjusting to a new climate thats for sure, like i moved from minnesota to africa i would have issues for sure with the weather but thats not all i would have issues with i would miss not knowing my culture and not knowing my language. I would long for ppl who were "like me" and it would be even harder if i wasnt given a choice in the matter because adoptees are not given a choice. nobody asks them this question when they are taken from there home and expected to be ok and grateful to have a new home.

Honestly i would prefer neither. I feel like in real life there are more options then the two you have given me to chose from

monkeykitty83

Assuming I had no parents or relatives who might eventually be able to bring me home (in some parts of the developing world, orphanages are basically used as temporary care by very poor families,) I would rather be adopted. I would rather have a family to love and care for me.

But to be fair, I'm an immigrant, so leaving my culture for a different one probably doesn't seem as problematic for me as it would for some people, because, you know... been there, done that, and am fine. It's obviously not the same, but I am certain my experience is influencing my thinking.

I think this comes down to priorities. For me, I would want a family, whether related by blood or not.

cantstopLinnyG

Really? Only 2 choices? Hmm, ok, Ill play. I would rather stay in an orphanage. At least I would have a common bond with the other urchins.

I love the game "Would you rather" .

Your turn:

Would you rather sleep with Freddie Krueger or Michael Meyers?

Would you rather survive a nuclear war only to become the podiatrist to a race of mutants, or smell the cheese?

Would you rather be mechanically induced to scream at the top of your lungs for an hour, or have your eyes glued shut for a day?

Would you rather be forced to preface everything you say with the phrase "Tuck it in" under threat of being slapped, or have a magnetic head?

Would you rather be born with a refrigerator on your back, or have an elephant as a close, personal friend?

Would you rather have 15 nails hammered into your tongue, or have your saliva permanently transmuted to urine?

Would you rather have needles for leg hair, or have flares shoot out of your nose every time you say the word "the" (ouch).

Would you rather lose your keys three days in a row, or have your dog eat your birthday cake?

Would you rather have the power of invisibility, or be able to produce sparks from your fingertips?

Bella

Depends on the person, I guess. If you're a baby then adoption is best. You don't really know your culture yet, and parents is better. I know lots of girls who have come to the U.S. at an older age: 10-14, and they're still happy here, but they miss China sometimes. I'm adopted from China, I'm 12 years old, and I'm perfectly happy and fine.

myst1998

Neither. I would like to stay with my family and not be kidnapped and placed in an orphanage by persons unknown.

This actually happens.

Sophie

Adopted :-)

Angela R

Despite what many people on here would lead you to believe, there are many children living in orphanages around the world who have no hope of ever returning to their families, whether it be to death of parents, social issues making single parenting nearly impossible or laws limiting the number of children allowed, or the same kinds of abuse, neglect and abondonment we have in this country. Many of these children, if not adopted, will remain in the orphanage in sub standard conditions until they "age out", with no family and nothing to their name

Even in decent orphanges, the lack of one-on-one caregiving, and growing up in an institutionalized setting can lead to serious attachment disorders, and other issues that can follow the person through out their lives.

Of course it's best to remain with one's biological family if possible, and reasonable, however if I had been one of the many children for whom this wasn't a possibility, I imagine I would have prefered to have a family, even if that meant moving to another country, and would hope that my new family respected my birth culture, and allowed it to be part of my life.

michyme

If those were my only options I would rather be adopted.

Heather B

I'd rather stay at home, with my people.

Erin L

Well, I think we need to work a lot harder for those not to have to be the only choices. Sometimes they're not

If those're truly legitimately the only choices, then it's no question, I'd reather be adopted abroad. And I say that acknowleging the very grave losses, which you mention, that occur. Being raised in an institution, even a good one, really screws, I mean really screws, with human development in truly tragic ways, and I do sometimes think it's not acknowleged enough how important it is to do what is possible to get kids out of institutions and into families. I think we do need to concentrate on helping get kids out of institutions while we are working on fixing root problems that lead to institutionalization and try to make those families that the kids go to be ones in the same country and culture.

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