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The process goes like this, however, I just wanted to make sure you're asking for your mother, because it is illegal to adopt a child and give it to your mother.
1st of all: For foster care/adoption-there is an office within the DHS offices that specialize in this, and you fill out an application, give them proof of income, pictures of your home, etc, to let them know all about you. They'll come do a home study, making sure the home is clean, but doesn't look like someone gave it a once over just before they worker got there, and they'll measure the bedrooms if there is any doubt about square footage, as there has to be a certain amount for each person in the home. Everyone who lives there will be under some scrutiny, and will have to undergo criminal background checks, and checks for elderly and child abuse. Then if she passes all that, she'll probably be as a foster parent for a while, and matched with a child appropriate to her. The cost is very little, although the state is a little more specific about home improvements, and even if you rent is fine.
If you go through an agency, there'll be lots more costs involved, but this is often the only way to get a healthy, domestic baby. They'll run the same background checks/home study and interviews.
Third: If you know of someone who is pregnant and can't keep their child, you can go to an attorney who handles adoptions, and they will draw up the paperwork, the birthmom will sign the consent forms, according to your state's laws, there is a time (ours is 10 days-some go up to 1 1/2 years), that the bmom can change her mind before the adoption is finalized. At the end of the 10 day(?) period, there will be the 1st court hearing, the judge asks a few simple questions, and the temporary adoption decree will be drawn up. At the end of all waiting periods (ours is 6 months), an additional visit from the home study people (their # of visits vary from state to state), and there will be another court hearing and a final adoption decree ordered.
There are many things that can slow the process, so patience is a virtue in adoption. We chose private adoption, because it was the easiest, fastest, and we were allowed to adopt a newborn baby, even though I'm 41 & dad is 43. Also, they don't measure your stairways, etc, so the home study is a little easier, although they did deeper on criminal checks (We had nothing to fear). I was also surprised to find out that something like a shoplifting charge or non-violent crime far back in the past does not count against a person. They also check and make sure there is a stable job history.
The rewards are great, but some people can't take the rejections that adoptive parents go through. When a bmom changes her mind, or the state changes where they put a child, it takes a hard emotional toll. It's like you have lost a child to death, and unfortunately, it's even harder in some ways, because you might know of the situation the bmom is going through and know that the child might be placed in harms way, and there's not a @#$ thing you can do about it. Good luck. |
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