I was adopted illegally - what do I do?

Sean JTR

be careful

if you love your 'parents' then don't go reporting them

london lady

As you have grown up here for most of your life, you should be entitled to the right to be able to stay here. You were takenhere without your knowoledge or say so, but yet have created a life here. If you went to the Authorities, i think they would give you biritish citizenship. Dont blame your parents though, they were probably only doing what they thought was right to protect you.

Goodluck

123456

they love u maybe ur life before them was bad and they were doing the best for you
they were ur parents all this time thought and they obviously love u so dont be mad at them turn to them and talk to them about they will understand

likeicare2007

Yeah, if you love your parents don't go reporting them....

But that is yet why there are so many problems with the world today and so many unsoved crimes becuase people love somebody and keep their deep dark secrets when a crime is commitited...

Personally I would have probably said the same thing but I can't becuase my parents commitied a crime and I told on them but I guess they were asking for it...

You are now 21 years old and only you hold the key or answers to your actions and what you do....

My best advice would be to come straight out and ask your parents why this happened? and what options you are left with? what they can do for you?

It's all a turn of the key you hold within your heart and soul...

Make a wise choice and Good luck sweetie, sorry to hear of this!

KNOWALL

They did you a favour ! Be greatfull

lostkuri

I think what you really need to do is try and talk to them and find out all the details.

geronimo

sue them for abduction and kidnap

HELEN LOOKING4

Get to CAB and ask them. Citezens Advice Bureau.

ALLEN B

You have no memories before the age of 7? Strange!
Why not ask them why they did it?
It never crossed your mind that your parents were not real simply because they've been parents.
You already know your options, report to the police or not........ that's not something you need advice on..... follow your heart!

nena_en_austin

talk to a professional what to do about it...
Because you need a proof of where you really are from...
And your parents should help even if was illegal what they do...
If you want to travel you will need a passport so...
If you want to ha a passport you need a proof of birth certificate or an adoption papers...
etc...You got the point...So satrt with a LEGAL advice...

Bunts

I cannot answer your question on your national standing.

But I married a girl who had a 3yr-old girl. She grew up to know me as her dad, and at 19 she knows no different.

I have always wanted to remain her dad, at the same time knowing in my heart that she should know the truth. How do you tell the love of your life that she is not your daughter?

It takes a stronger man than me to tell someone you have brought up from a tiny kid to woman-hood that she is not really your daughter.

But at the end of the day, you must remember those people loved you to the extent that you didn't realise that thery were not your proper parents.

My heart goes out to you....

Alias Smith & Jones

No matter how you feel about your parents and this situation, you need to talk with an immigration attorney. Your status as a citizen is in jeopardy - you need to make sure you can't be deported.

Deal with that and resolve it, THEN deal with your parents.

Good luck!

Jamerican

Be honest with yourself if u knew this a long time ago would you have stayed with your illegal adopted parents or your real parents. I know that your illegal adopted parents must have invested a lot in you so please dont turn your back on them. Trust me you will need them. Even though they are not your blood parent they are still the only family you know.

Ronald M

Don't break the law or they will deport you like they did to Ozzie Osbourne, when he peed on the Alamo

Unicornrider

You need to speak to a lawyer, what your parents did was classified as child kidnapping, an illegal adoption is illegal, since it never went through channels and your adoptive parents just went ahead despite and knowing the total devastating pain it would cause your real parents..
Love does not steal. Love goes through all the channels necessary to adopt the right way. Being a birthmother I feel strongly about this.
They did the wrong thing by stealing you, your real parents are probably thinking you are dead, and they have the right to know this is not so. They are your birth parents, after all.
You need to know where you were taken from, and when and work it from there - good luck!

Sonell

Do you love your parents, have they done you any harm by bringing you up or have you had a better life because of this. If you think they've done a good job raising you but their only mistake was not to tell you that you have been adopted don't you think you owe them silence, at least to the authorities. I am sure you don't want your parents to end up in real trouble. I agree what they've done was not right but they did what they thought was best for you, Go and find out who your real parents are and why they gave you up, but remember who has been by your side, loving you all your life.

Good Luck honey, this can't be easy on anyone

Libby F

I'm sorry I can't offer you advice, I don't know who the best place would be to go to. I'm sure you wouldn't want to hurt your 'parents'. Are you interested in finding your 'real parents'?

All I can say is don't go through it alone. Ask your 'parents' for all the information they can give you, and if you don't feel comfortable with them helping you, then lean on your boyfriend for support.

Good luck hunnie, whatever you decide to do x

smelly

U should be gratefull, not everyone wants to adopt a child>

Lacey G

You need the help of an immigration attorney immediately. I'd help you but I don't know where you live.

Edward T

I imagine your parents really wanted a child and that this was the option that seemed best for them at the time. With out knowing more background I couldn't say more.

However all though this will change the relationship you have with them, it won;t make them love you any less and i hope vice versa (i'm basing that comment on the fact i assume you're generally satisfied and happy with the way they raised you and your childhood- if you're not then ignore it)

In terms of what you'd do,

1. I would see a lawyer / get legal advice to discuss your rights and what status you have in terms of citizenship,

2. I'd also see or atleast speak to a counciler as that news must be a huge shock and i would imagine that it will help you come to terms with it.

3. Finally speak to your parents, ask them for as much information as possible the more you know about your past the more it will help your situaton

(with out wanting to seem cruel, you could probably sell your story to a newspaper as that type of story would be of interest to a lot of people and would be a healthy amount of money for you to help with any costs this will generate for you)

Good Luck

First off, don't be too hard on your parents. They love you. They CHOSE you. Whoever gave you up, most likely wasn't able to take care of you, or raise you properly. They loved you enough to give you up so you would have a better life. As for as the illegality -- make sure you know all the facts before you do something you may regret. You are currently a happy, healthy adult. This may not have happened had you not been adopted. As for why they never told you -- maybe they were afraid to. Maybe they were afraid they would lose you. Talk to your parents about it. But, please don't sever any times with them.....I'm sure they do love you.

Zee

Find and register on Black/Gray market babies website, then contact adoption locaters asap, and yes do press charges, it is your birthright. I was also illegally adopted and stolen from birth parents do what you need to do to find the truth for you, the people who are responding are stupid, they are probably not even adopted just do this for yourself and your future children!! Good luck

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