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SAFTYZONE
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what a lying w nker...
do what you feel is the right thing to do if it feels right then its ok...
yes grass him up definatly as he fooled you..and will do the same if he gets the chance with someone else... |
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tan0301
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First off it takes two to tango... don't place all the blame on him by saying "he got me pregnant". Secondly, why can't he be a good man? You said he mislead you to think that. If he treated you well and provided for you then he still is a good man... just a good one that with held information. He can't force you to keep the baby, that is ultimately your decision, but it would be nice if you would take his feelings into consideration. If you want him out of your life, then tell that. |
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Michelle N
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I think you should have waited to sleep with him, You should have gotten to know him better, next you will be saying he gave you HIV! Its not only his fault that you got pregnant! And just because hes illegal shouldnt change the way you feel about him, if you loved him or liked him? Hes still the same man you layed down with,right? You should really think this through, and as for abortion, I think that would be murder, how can you actually think of killing a piece of your own flesh and blood? Your own little miracle that may already have a beating heart, little hands,feet, eyes in the making. The choice is yours, but please dont kill your baby! |
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Professor Oglevee
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Well you slept with him so deal with the consequences. I would not have an abortion because its not the child fault. Regardless if the child's father is illegal, he or she will need a father in their life. It takes 2 to raise a child. Think about it. |
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Micky
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As for your pregnancy,it's your choice,do what you believe is right. As for the scumbag illegal,call the police, tell them you found out the bf is here illegally and he's harassing you. |
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sara b
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whatever you do, just remember that at the end of the day, you will be the one living with the consequences. if you have the abortion, you would be the one with the possible emotional trauma that many women suffer. If you have the baby & keep it -- it is obvious that you would be the one raising it. This guy has shown his true colors as a liar and fraud. The fact that he lied to you about something as serious as being illegal -- he did not have good intentions with you. I agree with you 100% -- you need to get away from him! If he so much as threatens a hair on your head, you need to call the police and get a restraining order. otherwise just disappear -- change your cell #, change your email, change apartment/house so he doesn't know where you live, tell your friends not to talk to him. If you do have the baby do everything you can to keep him out of your life. If you don't want to get on govt. assistance there is NO reason to name the father... |
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arab_athena
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he lied to you.. thats bad.. and honestly you should leave him because if someone can lie to you and get into a relationship than something that starts from a lie will never end up right. You'll doubt everything now.. everything that ever happend.. you'll question it.. so dump him now... he deserves that...
Now as for your sutation... umm.. if you love him, its up to you.. regardless of what he did.. he did come out and tell you the truth.. maybe it was a guilty conscience that made him spill it out... maybe.. or maybe it just fear... but somewhere, he does love you to tel you the truth, (better late than never)... so its really your own heart..
i honestly wouldnt hurt the baby.. i'm against abortion and i would always forbit it. Its just wrong and God forbids it unless if you are in a bad sutation and your life is hanging in between...
..umm.. so thats my opinion.. i wish you luck.
i know you'll need it. |
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White Shooting Star of HK
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Don't answer his call, text message, and email
Get a restraining order if he keeps bothering you
Also, if you really want, get an abortion. that's your choice.......not mine |
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greyzone2
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it is your choice , wanna have an abortion ? do it.
and change the phone, or better threaten him to call police. |
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realdolby
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Tell him its over in polite terms,if he wont accept it then call the Police.Having the baby is your choice but maybe an abortion in your state of mind would be better.You can have one without consulting him,see your GP he will arrange it quickly for you.But you must act now on the 2 things. |
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irishlass
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You are not alone!
You act as if you are the only single mother in this great country... you are not. Sounds to me like he wants to stick around.
You act like he is the only man that ever lied to you... doubt it. I can hook you up with hundreds of American men that will lie and run when you tell them you are pregnant.
You act like you never loved him at all... love has no borders.
You can marry him and have the baby if you wanted to... you don't. |
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pal_013168
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To report any suspicious activity please call 1-866-347-2423.That is the number for ICE.It sounds like you could still care for this man if he wasnt an illegal?Have you thought about getting a passport and going with him to Mexico? I really hope you reconsider the abortion.Have you considerered adoption,there are couples that would be willing to pay for the medical and lawyer to adopt? Look in your phone book for an attourney if that is something you might think about.You could speak with a priest or someone in a church for options,whatever you decide I hope you think it through clearly and dont just make a immediate decision because you are angry.Good Luck dear,and remember everything happens for a reason. |
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Agent Provocateur
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You don't sound like any type of saint yourself. |
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It's easy, call the authorities and have him picked up. He will be out of your life then and you can do what you want. |
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CRYSTY
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the most important aspect to look at is LOVE. DO YOU LOVE THIS MAN? IF NOT.. THEN be selfish and leave him because obviously in the future you won't be someone he can rely on. so be upfront with him now |
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bjaymart
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Abortion in my opinion is an overrated form of birth control. You layed down and now you want out. Try adoption if you are really that self centered a great family would love to raise a baby that you are apparently too self fish to raise yourself get a life. |
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Eddy P
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well listen please
you can be together and get married and he will never be deported even you will not marry because it is very rare that in usa people get deported for something like that
but also i am sure he did that to give you no choice but to marry him after
i am sure he does not love you and he is just looking ro be legal here get ride of both him and your baby i hope it is not too late i mean how old is the baby? next time be carful |
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Kent-B-True
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So you don't know the history of the man you are sleeping with and now you wanna kill an innocent baby??? That little think doesn't deserve a mom like you. I hate when people blame innocents for the bad choices they made. Just my opinion. |
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Lori K
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I feel so sorry for you. It's easy enough to get him out of your life. A restraining order usually does the trick. I wish you the very best in whatever you decide to do in regards to the pregnancy. I'm so, so sorry. No one deserves to be deceived as you were. Thank goodness you found out what a skunk he is before you were in even deeper. |
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Francesca Thomas
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he has no rights to your child because he is illegal.
Go have that abortion.
call CIS and ICE, and tell them.
They probably wont do much through - thats the reason why the illegals keep coming, because the Bush government does NOTHING to stop them. |
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yellow_tofu
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the abortion part is up to you. you should know that there is a good chance that he is not going to be around for the baby and him being and illegal will prolly have a hard time taking care of the child. As for him being illegal, that is something serious that he should have told you rather early in hyour relationship. He cared more about himself then you by not telling you. also depending where he is illegal from makes a big difference, if he is illegal from england is alot different from being illegal fom mexico. he would have and easier time getting citizenship. |
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Ă‘usta
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What a bad boyfriend!
You should do what you want to do, about the baby, think carefully, it is not his or her fault being inside you. |
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alberto g
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Who's fault was that, I bet you that your family warn you about it, but you didn't listen, right. Now call ICE and have that son of his mother deported . |
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grumpyoldman
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Have the baby and give it to him, then tell him to piss off. If he wants it, it is a lot better than killing it. |
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Borat Obama
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Tell the cops he beat you and he'll get deported. |
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megs01
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Did he all of a sudden change when you found out he is illegal?? I'm not quite sure why everyone is saying get a restraining order, call the police, change your # and so on. Does he want to change his status? these things take time. But this is not the babys fault. and he is right about wanting to keep it. |
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