Please help me explain something to my hard-headed girlfriend?

George L

Well, Alex, even though you're mostly right, do you really think being right will help you with your girl friend? Sometimes, discression is indeed the better part of valor, especially when it comes to women. But, live and learn my friend.

You didn't actually hit it out of the ball park today, though. A standing triple maybe. Having papers could mean any number of things, which would include your and your girl friend's answers. Mostly it means being legal. But green cards and naturalization certificates are both paper. So, better take a draw on this one. No one becomes a citizen automatically for marrying an American citizen, not someone legal already, or someone illegal. It takes three years of residency after the marriage to apply to take the test and qualify.

If you like, you can look this up on uscis.gov, print it off and show it to your girl friend. However, my advice is to know that you are right in most respects and say "yes, darling, you are right, as always." I think things will work out much better for you, if you do.

Loose Wheel

She is completely wrong, and you are mostly right. Marrying a citizen does not guarantee legal resident status.

notyou311

Maybe she's not too bright. You don't want to have kids who are stupid, do you? Move on.

troybuddy

Why would she question her man who's gone through the process and know's alot about it? Sounds kinda hard headed and somewhat of a beating. Yes sweetheart, your man is right. It's a long process with different steps. Having your "papers" or marrying a citizen does not make you an automatic citizen.

45 auto

Take her and go to immigration and have her ask the question then she will have the correct 1s>You have issues with her>

Thomas M

She's wrong. You're right about everything except the legal resident status for marriage to a citizen. Marriage to a citizen or green card holder gives a streamlined process to a green card, but doesn't guarantee that it will be approved.

soytokemonsr

I could tell you all the detail about this but it would be a long... story. In brief I can say. YOU ARE RIGHT, SHE IS WAYYY WRONG!!! Please visit this site to clear all tthis stuff.
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis
Green card means resident, not being american!!!!

bob h

You need to ditch the girlfriend if you both have such a great need to be right. Nothing you can do will ever convince her. Why would you set yourself up for a lifetime of this kind of misery?

Mama~peapod

On a work visa for example, you have a stack of papers, a paper to show you can work; a paper to show you can have a SSN; a paper to show you can travel outside the US. When you are a legal immigrant you collect alot of papers, as you already know! So you are right, the girlfriend is wrong!

For an illegal to get married to a US citizen, it does not give that person automatic right to a green card and US citizenship. Anyone can be turned down for a green card, especially someone who is illegal, even if they do get married it is NOT a guarantee. And yes on this one you are right, and your girl friend is incorrect.

reddcobalt07

Buddy you better duck and cover rightnow.

Daniel F

You guys have problems, It seems like you are more in competition with each other. That should be a red flag that both of you are not right for each other.

Heike P

I am also a legal resident alien and have to agree with you.I have been married to my husband who is an American citizen for 25 Years now and guess what i am not US Citizen.
By law i still have to apply for US Citizenship.Here is a message to your girlfriend.Girl "There is no such thing as automatic citizenship in the US."Unless you are born in this country you will only be able to become a citizen if you apply for it with the USCIS.You are still illegal even if you marry an American Citizen unless you get your Legal resident "Alien" card.I should know i have lived in this country for about 20 years now.I want to become a citizen,but at this moment i can`t afford $1000.00 .I have worked and payed taxes all these years also.That still does not make me an American citizen.I also gave birth to 2 beautifull kid`s and geuss what that did not make me a US citizen either.Dude i hope that i could help. I have a question for her "What papers?"My purse got stolen a couple of years ago and it had my resident alien card in it.When i called th INS office to see if there was any kind of back-up-paperwork i could use to show that i was legal resident alien.I found out that there is no such thing!

ellengerman

I married an American whilst here on a work visa. I was allowed to jump through the usual hoops to become a permanent resident. I am still not a citizen after 20 years. I'll get around to it soon (LOL). I just hate all the bureaucracy.

countryboy

It's to bad, but what you are writing about takes place everyday, the trouble is that it takes place in the offices that should be correcting these type of problems. Why does it take place- there are the same people from these countries working in the office in order to be able to get these people to understand in their language, and the message is still not understood. Take a sentence from any language, then translate it to English to give the right answer, not easy for some to understand. Read one of the answers being given as far as being married a number of years and still not a citizen, it's nice the old man wants to take care of her, but if he doesn't leave her what will be needed to live on, she will be another one you'll be taking care of America. Last statement- Why is it that a large per cent of people coming to this country find ways to take care of themselves, yet others find ways to get all their support from the people of the US?

MajorTom Â©

I think your are right. However, would you rather be right or still be able to sleep w/ her? Just a thought.

the absolutely vague fragi-nopie

She's wrong but if you want to get laid tonight you won't say anything about it.

bluddyhell123

dude you should marry that chick if you want to become a citizen.

Getting ready for glasses.

You can either win the battle, or the war.

In other words do you enjoy getting laid??

â™¥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~â™¥

I don't know why you can't just explain to her how it works but it looks to me like you have issues.

Instead of coming here and asking for help to "prove to her that you are right" Maybe it is better if you ask yourself why your girlfriend she seems hard-headed and why you feel you need to prove that you are right? Are you happy in this relationship?

~Sigy, La Senorita de los Cielos
[To Abusive Reporters: If I learn that this question is removed than I will write to answers-abuse@cc.yahoo-inc.com to support the asker and protest the removal]

midnitrondavu

If you marry a US citizen you will get citizenship. Having papers means both, you can just have papers to work, or to be a student, or to be here permanently. There are different kinds of papers.

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