Should I stay in UK or return to my country?

fantasia.

No.....better a king in your own country than a beggar in someone elses. You have respect in your own country and money isnt everything in life. Happiness with your own family and people is better than having money and being miserable in someone elses country. As you get older you will have less friends and be lonely. In your own country you will always have friends of your own kind and you will never feel lonely. Dont do it for the kids...they will marry foreigners and you will be even more lonely as you may not understand their way of life, their sense of humour and their traditions so you will be isolated. it is better they marry their own people and you will have a closer and happier knit family. good luck. I will sit next to you as i am not racist in any way whatsoever.

Butcher

where ever your heart tells u to go man.(kind of a really lame answer but i had to learn the hard way).

CHRIS

It is a delicate and important question, and the answer is that you are going to stay in the United Kingdom UNTIL you can be absolutely certain you have found a job opening which will guarantee you the same financial perks and benefits that you already have where you are. This is the classic "Don't burn your bridges" thing. Make certain you have the next rock to jump to, before you leave the one upon which you are standing. The second mouse gets the cheese. And there are probably a million other proverbs on this subject of making sure what you are going to (and want to go to, by the way) is every bit as good in all ways, as what you already have in the palm of your hand. Your children are gorwing up, so in a few years the whole nature of this question will change, and be a little easier for you to consider. I say you will be wise to return to your own country, and to your own countrymen, by all means, but not without first researching your position there so you are stepping preferrably UP into a really good job there instead of being stuck where you are. This is a polite way of telling you that it is a false assumption on your part that you cannot or will not do better in your own country than you are here in the United Kingdom. Good luck to you sifting through all this, and God Bless You for considering your children before yourself. Sent to you with good energies from Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old.)

TRUTHSEEKER

only you can make the choice of where to go. don't let people treat you like crap. stick up for your self.

mowerman

this country is not a bad place to live because we have all sorts here the natives are not all like the people you have met most will be grateful for the work that you do try the south west we need you here

Robert Abuse

Only you can answer this question. You get one shot at this life, obviously you are unhappy here, but your wife and children, how do they cope with living here are they happy ?
Take a measured decision, based on the happiness quotient of your family, because ultimately their happiness is your happiness.

I am sorry you feel alienated in my country, truly.

It is global economics that create these situations, we are all just people, how we take advantage of it all is up to us individually.

libbyft

Please stay!

Unfortunately England has an Islands xenophobic mentality, but the more people who climb into the melting pot the better!!

The only way we can become a true multi-cultural society is to integrate and accept immigrants.

The only way we can do this is if people like yourself persevere. If your children are raised with our children they will hopefully accept each other and within a generation things should really improve.

I'm really sorry that you have found us to be so inhospitable. It is something that I am truly ashamed of but hopefully it will change!!

janebfc

RS, your question moved and saddened me; but the answers here have actually really given me heart. Thank you for asking a question that gives the opportunity for the silent majority in this country to express our appreciation for you and other guests in the UK. I hope it has given you some hope too. There's some good advice here about thinking long and hard about your decision. About biding your time and giving yourself and your children the chance to benefit, whilst we benefit from the hard work you put into our NHS. If you work and save you can afford better opportunities for your children if you do decide at a later date to return to your home, but I'd like to think that in time you will get to meet more people like me and other people who've answered here and come to look on the UK as your home.

I do understand something of what you must be feeling, I spent some time overseas in Latin America and the West Indies and the sense of alienation at times can be quite striking but I made a concerted effort to speak to people and to give people a different opinion of me to those they had of white people generally. I'm not saying you don't try, but I'm wondering if there is yet more you can do to help you and your family feel welcome here? My local hospital has set up a group for the many nurses and doctors that come from one country (this is bugging me, I can't remember where - perhaps Malaysia but I could be wrong) and its given them more confidence to actually know they have friends who understand them, and in turn by opening up events to the wider community its really helped them feel more at home here. Perhaps its something you could explore at your work, I'm sure you're not the only member of staff that's come to work here from overseas.

Whatever you decide I hope you don't go home with a bad opinion of British people, but have faith in yourself and your family and do what you feel is right for you. Good luck.

Leogirl0804

that is a decision only you can make. Flip a coin tails you stay, heads you go. If after you've done that and it feels right, then follow your instinct.

sycamore

you can't change some people opinions (why bother?) but you are providing better opportunities for yourself and your family. you holding down a job in the nhs for the last 2 years and pay taxes, nothing more is expected of you. you considering going back for less pay because of how a few uncharitable people treat you. c'mon get a grip of yourself. eventually you will meet some descent characters (by the law of averages this will happen) and you will forget the last two years. good luck to you and your family in the future.

deadly

Up to you. Why not stay most of the British will be moving out soon anyway.

keny

If your not happy where you are why dont you try looking for a job in a different area if you`ve been in your job for 2 years you`ve proved your self competant so may be you could get something better than your doing now I would at least give it a try. i can`t see why your treated bad at work when i `ve been to hospitals it allways seems that there are more foreign staff than English Don`t care about the bus thing English people don`t like to sit next to anyone unless theres nowhere else and if a double seat comes empty a lot of times they move places its like any where else here some people are nasty and a lot are nice give it another chance and good luck

Robespierre

You didn't say where you came from. But sometimes it is better to have your dignity in a place where you are respected for who you are. In many countries, a bus driver has a lot of respect and therefore has pride in their work. Go forth.

msshy

What do you think is good for you,..go ahead!

ANTI_ISRAEL

My friend, your in the wrong place, come to our country the wonderful u.s.a , as long as you do as your doing in england, and get your paperwork done, you are welcome, your kids will get free food, and medical services if you become a citizen. THERES NO HOME IF IT AINT THE U.S.A!

arash

this is a hard decision . it is happening for many people who travel to a foreign country . first let me ask you something . how do you know your children will be fine ? what if you lose them ? i mean they will grow up and don't care about you . now here it is . you wanna stay ? stay but you should be ready for the day they don't give a **** to you ! that's a cruel world . and if you go back maybe they will regret that why you came back . it's up to you . you should see how big is this gap between your country and UK . if it is not that much . go home . by the way it is UK people that they are very cold heart . Good luck !

Eve

Change your job and, if you don't feel any better, then think again. Maybe you are at the wrong "social step". Find your like and you might feel better. Also, check if you actually make a statement with your appearance - if you look foreign and different, you will be treated as foreign and different. Adapting to life in a country means respecting and accepting the culture and the social codes - including accent, fashion trends, sharing the fun and the problems. Naturally, you cannot live in the same way as where you came from. So - think what would make you a happier person - sticking to your culture or adapting to the culture of the country, which is presently giving you a living. Good luck!

lexo80

I don't know where you're from, so I couldn't advise you to go back there.

Judging from some of the responses you've got, though, I don't know if the UK is a place I'd want anyone to bring up their children; if so many of the people are that downright rude/stupid/ignorant/racist, then why would anyone want to live there? Obviously many of them are lovely people, but do you really want to live around the rest of them?

Sorry this is no help, but without knowing where you're from I couldn't assess whether it was worth going back or staying. My own country (Ireland) can also be stupid and racist, but most of us wouldn't be quite so proud of the fact.

bringmesunshine is back!!!

The answers here show that not everyone in Britain hates foreigners. There is hope for this country after all. Please stay!

Jon C

The sooner you get out the better.

Rattler M

Are you still here?

Oh No!!!!!!!

I can't understand why no one will sit next to you on a bus or a train?????

I think you should go back, theres something your not telling us.

karlrogers2001

Stay until the kids are older then go back if you still want to.

fizz

I am British and an immigrant in another country - for me the thought of returning to the U.K gives me nightmares even though I would earn far more money.

If you ask most British people they would do anything to get out of the U.K and go somewhere better - if it was my decision I would go.

goodstuff2use4all

What ever you feel comfortable with. Actually if someone didn`t move over for me something could happen. I get along well if I can but don`t dis me.

Talfryn T

If people are harsh towards you here, stand up to them and give it them back, believe me its the only way. I was born here to English and Polish parents so even I at times suffered racial abuse. Stand firm and they will back down as most of the bullies are really cowards. Work hard, pay your taxes like a good citizen and save as much money as you can for the sake of your kids.
When you have achieved your goal you may return to your homeland and your children, to a good peace full life and will think that it has been worth it. I believe that you are model parent in wanting better opportunities for your children. Stand firm, good luck and may god bless you..

scott j

You dont say where you are from,but where ever it is. England must be better or else you would not be asking the question

Amanda K

stay
save like mad
go when you have enough cash to live on back "home"

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