Why don't the white folks discipline their kids in public?

joe

Black, white and other colors aside, this is a really good point about all kids in public. People do spend entirely too much time worried about a thousand other things instead of being good parents. It drives me crazy to see children running the show in public or in peoples homes. It seems as though a lot of parents are afraid that their children might not like them or want to be their kids friends. They will have plenty of friends in their lives but only one or two parents, WAKE UP YOUR KIDS NEED PARENTS!!!! It is their job to test limits their whole lives and it is your job to define those limits every day. You can do this with love and patience but they also need discipline when they push it too far too often. Kids are happier when they know their boundaries because they know you care. Parenting requires above most things simple common sense yet it escapes so many. God bless and good luck.

reaganite27

Political correctness is destroying us all.

amnesty sucks

Racist statements are not nice. Besides, if ANYONE disciplines in public, a nosey twit will report them to CPS!

Still Beautifully Conservative

Um, why is this in the immigration section?

tangerine

Actually, I've seen some black parents who let their kids run wild and don't discipline them. There are bad parents of all colors!

celticfiddleplyr

I dont think its white mothers in particular. I believe and from what I witness, parents just dont reprimand they children in public because basically telling the child to behave doesnt work with them because they are not afraid and rarely listen to their parents and parents are afraid to spank their child for fear of being reported by someone. When I was young if my mother told me to behave in a store I would because I would fear the punishment later that I know I would get. I only had to be told. Our society today is creating a bunch of little monsters that have no control or self discpline because we are told to reason with them instead of teaching them the difference between right and wrong. Then when these children are so out of hand, we are told they have ADD or ADHD and need to be medicated.

missy

its all races....either they are embarrassed to discipline their children infront of people(incase someone says something) or they just dont care!!!!

Commandant Marcos

Same here in Mexico but there isn't any "white folk" here.

Anne

I live in South Florida and both non-Hispanic whites and Hispanics both let their children run amok, so your posting that only whites have unruly children is on the mean spirited side as well as untrue

mintgirl79

Its not a racial thing, I see kids running wild of all races every time I go out. Even my kids tell me, Mom if I did that you'd kill me.

A lot of people just do not care about the upbringing of their children.

Typeset This

yes... i see what you're talking about and i always think to myself... "somebody should knock some sense into that kid"... but when i actually see somebody disciplining a child, i always think that the parent is being abusive...

peacelovelauren

Wow I don't know what "white people" you have been around. I am white and my parents would NEVER allow us to act up in public. The white people I've been don't have to reprimand their children because they know how they are supposed to act in public. Texas must be different from California.

baby_menehune13

its not strictly for white people. Their are parents of all backgrounds who do not discipline their children. You should look outside of Texas.

blade_lord

I know you haven't seen me in public then. My son and daughter don't get to run around when we go out to stores and what not. They stand beside me or their Mom. As far as reprimanding them in public, well I'll admit to giving a few free public spanking shows now and again.

Just because you are in public does not mean you get to turn a blind eye till later, on what happens around them.

I have seen it done with people of all colors and a lot of Nationalities, so I know its not a white only problem. Its more just a bad parent problem I believe.

summer

your right. i work for wal mart 3rd shift stocking. i see mexicans all the time at 2 3 4 o'clock in the morning with their kids running around the store. the parents all they do is have a committee meeting in the isles and chat with other mexicans in spanish. while we are trying to work, the brats are running down the isles screwing the shelves up. whats up with those parents? if that's what you want to call them. they act like kids are born to act like animals in public. we are left to watch the brats so they don't get hurt and the lazy parents wont sue us.

buck

and you honestly think this is white kids only???!! you really need to take the skin color out of the equation and look again. Or maybe notice that at least the white kids are with their parents.....can you say that about all the kids at the mall or where ever

Lori K

Parents, in general, tend to make exactly the opposite mistakes that their own parents did. We "baby boomers" had extremely controlling parents who believed in strict discipline and punishments....we, as a result...tend to be stressed and overly anal. We don't want to turn out children into "us" so we are overly permissive. (Why do you think we became "hippies"...rebellion, baby!)

I'm guessing the next generation will remember their own "borderless" childhood and teen years and will be much more strict with their own children.

Marilyn T

Yes, I seem to see all kids going crazy nowdays but yeah,white people do seem to be more worried about what others think and their kids are a pain to be around.
My mom had 6 kids and believe me we didn't even get the chance to ask for anything in the store before she cracked us one. If we talked back, it was out to the car now for a whiping.
We were a "white" family but my mom was raised by her grandmother who was 100% Mohawk Indian.Maybe that is why she didn't take any stuff from us.At least we knew where we stood with our mom, I think kids are confused nowdays and are testing their limits more and more.

delina_m

I do (not by screaming or slaping). But I don't know if I qualify as white. Although my kids are blonde and blue eyed, we are Mexican...

Mom and dad could discipline us with a sight! I'm not that strict but I keep very good control.

sharia_vigilant

Be careful with that. I have observed this with every race.

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'Kinder & gentler' parenting is to blame.

jojo68m

I see it all the time and it's not just the whites.
Back when they rook the Bible out of school and past laws you couldn't spank children , it went crazy.When I was young my Dad busted my butt every time he thought it would do some good. It didn't hurt for long and I always remembered not to do it again!!! I think there is 4 kinds of corporal punishment a spanking, A whipping, A whooping, And a beating!!!

spdesai7

I used to work at a bookstore and I saw the same thing with black parents.
One black woman came in with her son and sat down reading a book while the boy ran all around the store pulling crap off the shelves. And every few minutes the mom would say the kids name, "Joohhhhnnyyyyy," and say nothing else. Hello, stupid! Calling the kid's name isn't going to do sh it unless you say something after it!
And there were many, many more stories. But all were blacks.

thebestofjudaspriest

HAHAHAHA...that happens alot in my state, city, county, etc..
You do see a lot of - either white spoiled rotten "throw away" kids that think they are above the law and do whatever they want, with their destructive behavior. On the other hand, you also see lots of poor white kids who are owned by the government and mom's without dad present, and those poor white girls who are raped by their own fathers and end up having up to 6 kids. Doesn't the government provide birth control for those low income mothers?

Iviebelle

Mabye it is a Texas thing, or mabye you only see with racist eyes.
Yeah, that's probably it. >:(

Paula Revere

That's funny. Where I live it is only the white folks who discipline their kids. Pedophiles could have a hay day with all the little latinas running wild unsupervised.

This question truly reflects how 'white America' feels deep down inside. I've noticed that many didn't even answer the question, instead they turned the tables and made a very racist comment on African Americans and Hispanic. Go back and re-read. We are no further along now then we were 100 years ago. IT'S A SAD SITUATION!

I am a juvenile corrections officer. 75% of our juvenile population is white. I honestly can't tell you what inmates are worse, the white kids that molest their little brothers and sisters or the minorities that like to rob and steal. I'm just stuck!

rrichards2k3

Like many who have responded already, you must be careful of saying it is white folks who do not discipline their kids, because the way that question is worded smacks of racism. Nowadays kids of ALL colors behave unruly, in part to a lack of courage and self-esteem by the parents to punish their kids, whether verbally or physically, and if the parent tries to discipline, especially physical discipline, they run the risk of having someone call "Child Protective Service" on them for "abuse". This is not abuse--kids need discipline to learn that they will not get everything that they want and to have respect for others. Discipline shows them that they cannot always have their way, I suspect this is why we have a lot of deranged postal workers, school shootings, and overcrowded jail cells because the parents allowed them to unrealistically think that they can do whatever they want and the world WILL NOT let them do that, they get disappointed and subsequently, cannot cope. Also, I think because of the relativism and political correctness in the 90's play a role as well. Though many want to say that there is no right or wrong--just do what you wanna do, that's simply untrue. There MUST be some right and wrong and consequences for actions or else you will have anarchy, and civilized society can only exist when everybody agrees on rules that respect everyone's God-given human rights.

highriselather

how did you get 6 stars for this one? when my kids were young they acted a fool many times at stores.thats what kids do . i always waited till the car to let them have it. they learned not to .but it took time. i guess white folk arnt into humiliation of their young like the rest of you. i see someone hit their child in public.i make a effort to bump into them hard then tell them to watch where the f their going.

jessica avelar

yeah because it seems that they come up to you a cuz word and their parents don't even say anything they just should say anything at all!!!

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