If your boyfriend hit you and you called the police and he goes to jail can you drop the charges or no?

johnny chaos

As people have said the answer is no. The state is not the complainant and they are the "person" who is pressing charges. You however can be a witness for him if he takes it to a jury and you can help him be found innocent. If he hits you you need to get a new boyfriend or have him go through treatment. good luck.

Stephen M

You can drop the charges. However the police may choose to lay their own charges. In any event, its time to move on. you should get out now while the getting is good.

dakota29575

It depends on the state, but if he really hit you, you need him to be punished so he knows it isn't ok.

Lord Vader Sith Master

No most states, to protect the victim, have made it so that the victim cannot drop abuse charges. Besides, you deserve better. Any man who hits a woman is a COWARD. You can do better than that. Drop him like a bad habit and move on. There is someone out there for you who will not hurt and demean you.

naturegirl

it's all up to the judge now

fr_chuck

no, you can no drop the charges

Emma B

Yes you can, but why would you, or why should you. However, in the UK the police will still persue the charges.

NATIVE NEW YORKER

IT'S UP TO THE DA.
AND IF YOU DROP CHARGES
YOU ARE CRAZY......

patti duke

You can refuse to co-operate but you do not get to decide if charges will be laid. Police make recommendations to the courts and the DA decides if they will be accepted and pursued. Without your co-operation success at trial is unlikely so charges would likely be set aside. Having said that, why would you not want to pursue this, no one should be using force against you unless you are threatening their safety.

miss m

You can drop the charges but you shouldnt and you should use his time in jail as an oppertunity to get your stuff and get out. Once an abuser always an abuser.

joeanonymous

It is up to the prosecuting crown attorney. I have seen many victims ask the crown to drop the charges but most of the time they won't. Victims often change their minds because they are afraid or intimidated by the abusers, or the abuser has sent them flowers and has said sorry. It's all about the cycle of abuse. I bet this wasn't the first time he hit you.
Talk the the crown attorney and explain your reasons and see what happens, don't recant your statement because you could get charged with making a false statement to police (public mischief)>

speedysundevil

you can drop the charges, but why would you want to? If he hit you, he needs to learn the consequences. Also dump him, you can do better.

guineasomelove

Yes you can but why would you? Why let a man get away with hitting you?

elaeblue

Depends on where you live in some states a police officer can press charges if he/she sees that some domestic violence has occured. Then the girl/victum cannot drop the charges.

chocoholic

Depends where you live, in Canada, its a mandatory prosecution. Its not in your hands to make that decision once authories are involved,

His Old Lady

You can drop the charges, but that doesn't mean the State will not proceed to prosecute. It's also depends on the influence of the arresting cop--I've seen them burn people after everybody else said "okay, we screwed up, we don't want Aunt Cindy in prison for life just because she hit Aunt Grace with a bag of sugar, so back off." It didn't matter.

You wasted the cop's time, he thought he had a felony conviction under his belt, he still wants it. Depends if your guy was arrested for a misdemeanor or actual assault charges, too.

Once the report is filed and photos are taken, once he's been arrested, too bad, okay? There's no turning back. It's up to a judge. Your willingness to forgive and forget might carry a tiny bit of weight with the judge, but he may also feel he's protecting you by giving your boyfriend some time. If your boyfriend has a prior record, you can pretty well count on no mercy.

Most people also don't know that these days, to cover their own butts, cops WILL make an arrest of some kind during a domestic situation. They can't operate like they used to---they can't just answer the call, get you two to stop squabbling, then leave. The boyfriend could have another beer and decide to squeeze your neck until you shut up, and the cops would be liable in some states. So someone WILL go to jail, to break up the tussle.

I'm with the rest of them on this one. Yell and scream all you want, if you're still immature and thrive on drama, but if the guy pops you, he's a loser. My husband has been in federal prison for 26 years. Check out his web site and tell me if you think he's a wimp. Never hit me, tho. Real men don't have to.

Good luck to you, whatever you do, sweetie.

Sheila B

um I am sorry your bf hit you,please do not drop the charges for any reason.Please get some help also,your bf assaulted you out of fear,insecurity,under the influence whatever,but he needs to be treated also .Domestic violance is rampant and it sets civility back years.Everyone should be held accountable for their actions,you are setting yourself up to send a message that it is ok to hit another human being.Good luck

jodi g

Nope. You'd be pretty lame to even consider it! Once a guy hits you he will continue in that behavior.

James P

Unlikely. Prosecution of domestic violence cases generally does not requier the cooperation of the victim. The state can prosecute on the victim's behalf, even if the victim does not want to follow through with prosecution.

Beautiful Disaster

Was there a visible mark from the hit? If so--they will not drop anything on the deadbeat.

terry a

in most states you can not. but if you can he will still be prosecuted by the state they will require to testify,if you refuse to do so you may be charged with contempt of court,lie charged with perjury or filing false police report.

jerofjungle

In some states you have no choice in the matter but there are a few that will allow you to drop charges.

i'm susan

so you want to drop the charges?
what are you going to do the next time he hits you? and the next after that? and the next after that? what about when you get pregnant and he keeps hitting you? then when he starts hitting your kid?

go on and try to drop those charges......let me guess......he loves you and won't ever do it again, right? just keep telling yourself that honey, all the way to the grave.

Blue Steel & Lace

In most states, No.

Most states are now the "victim" in a domestic violence arrest, and you are just a witness. This is to keep you from dropping the charges.

BTW - if your boyfriend is hitting you, it only will continue to escalate. Domestic violence ends one of two ways:
The abuser gets help - or-
Either the abuser or the victim dies.

Make him get help before you take him back, or better yet, move on.

dancingfool229

it's up to the prosucuting atty

They typically honor the wishes of the victim unless there have been multiple past incidents

Why would you want to drop charges though?

firewomen

You can choose not to press charges, but why would you want to do that?

ha ha ha ha lol

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