Is there something wrong with my son?

Bryan from Microsoft

You will not get in trouble with the law and they will not take your child away from you because you are not abusing him or anything like that, the school might make him see the counsler a few times a week and reccommend seeing a doctor to make sure everythign is fine with his health but you are not going to get into any trouble with the law and you will keep your son, i hope you are NOT abusing him or they will take him away from you. He seems like he just doesn't like school or doesn't really care about what is happening but i understand becuase i have a daughter and she doesn't like school and she gets into trouble a lot but she doesn't have any kind of disorder or anything, kids these days do not like having to go to school waking up early in the morning, but i promise you things will get BETTER!

ratedsadie

of course not.
if he does have any of those things it is not your fault. those are chemical imbalances.
maybe have him analyzed by a professional...if these symptoms are all true it does sound like something serious, although boys do love to get attention and provoke people..especially most teenage or preteen boys. there is a chance he might be feeling the need for some attention.

try taking him to a professional.
if there is something there it does not mean you did something wrong,.

dekkerman2002

First off.....school social workers are different than the type of social workers you are thinking of. Most school social workers are able to provide parents and families with information and links to agencies within the community that may assist you with problems your son may or may not be having. It sounds like you need to take your son to a medical professional and have him diagnosed. It is hard to hear information from the school about your child, espcially if it is not good news. But most educators are very helpful and want the best for your student. I think it is better to know than have your child go through life and not have anyone ever inform you that there might be problems.

Michael44US Army

My dude talk to your son
I got in trouble with child service and its not good
Don't let escalate to another level

toocan

Is there something wrong with my son?

No-there is something wrong with his parent(s)

babeyyy___x3

they will definietly not take him away because he has ADHD

anso.sicotte

No.
However, they have to make sure he is not a danger to himself or others. he might be depressed or have ADHD. However, teachers are not able to determine that (I am a teacher)
In order to have an accurate diagnostic your son needs to be taken to a doctor (medical doctor) and maybe to a psychiatrist.
There is no definition for "crazy" as far as mental health goes. "Crazy" does not mean anything.
Please take your son to a doctor as soon as you can and talk to the doctor about what happened and tell the doctor your concerns.
Talk to the doctor with and without your son. it is very important that your son does not get "labeled" as anything.
A doctor is the best person to diagnose your son. If the family doctor refers you to a psychiatrist take your son there as well.
Please understand that psychiatrist treat people who have a mental problem. That is the same thing as a doctor treating someone for diabetes.
We need to stop stigmatizing people who have a mental disorder.
Again, do not use the word crazy because it has no meaning.

Baby G

No, the school social worker helps to find ways to help you. I know that it's difficult to look into these things, but you seriously need to speak to your doctor, see if there is anything that can help. Be open to him taking medication. He may be bipolar (just a thought from someone who is dealing with this). I'm no expert, so you need to take your child to someone that is.

natalie

Your not abusing him i hope. That sounds really strange that your afraid of losing him.... Have him checked for ADD. Not trying to get him help is neglecting him which is abuse.
Good Luck.

aly

that is definitely adhd, take him to your doctor and find out where you can take him to get tested for it and then they can get him on medication to help all of this

amalia b

maybe he's going through something hard in his life... or maybe he just doesn't care, don't take that too personally. or maybe he's just looking for attention. i think you should talk to him

laura â™¥ â˜®

maybe he does have ADD, but i wouldnt rush to conclusions. i mean, is a little boy and little boys are known to be very hyper. also, maybe your son is making a scene in class for attention? im not sure, but you should talk to him.

patchouli4279

How are his grades? He may not find his classes challenging so he acts out in boredom. There could also be personality conflicts between him and his teacher. You just can't learn from someone whom you just plain don't like or a teacher who demonstrates a dislike of you.

anisah

i don't think they'll put you in prision because you kid thinks he's stupid though he defenitly needs a morale boost. trying involving him all the things he is good at

spottedtalon10

He probably just has ADD or ADHD. Just keep a close eye on him.

Colt 45

They did the same thing to me when I was younger in Elementary School. They thought I had ADHD, depression, schitzophrenia. I went to a psychologist with my parents. His diagnosis was that the curriculum was not advanced enough and it was boring and too easy. I was not crazy, I just wasn't challenged. Subsequnetley I am now a Police Officer and have been one for 5 years. My parents sued the school system and got a settlement. Take him to a psychologist, if he is fine then sue the sh*t out of the town/school system...A lawyer would have a field day with that case!

shutuppauface

To be honest, you sound more concerned about yourself than your child's well-being. It does seem like he may have an attention deficit issue, possibly brought on by poor diet, lack of exercise and stimulation, and not enough positive reinforcement. It also sounds like he's getting negative input from somewhere. No kid feels they "deserve to go to hell" unless someone planted the idea there. Consider switching churches.

I suggest you BOTH see a counselor before they can assign a social worker, because if you are pro-active and really want to help your son, you'll do it on your own. Once he's in the system, your options dwindle. However, he might finally get the help he needs.

dymond

No they wont take him away or send you to prison.They will force the issue of doctors and psychiatric evaluations to determine if he is ADD or depressed.If you don't comply with the testing then they may take it to another level and threaten you with removing him from the home.NO ONE can make you medicate your child if you don't believe he would benefit from it.

Windy

ADHD is usuall inattentive behavior, impulsive activity, very energetic, short attention span, trouble focusing, etc. You aren't in any kind of trouble. There is probably a good chance you will get some help. Hopefully, the school will assess him for any kind of learning disorder. If they don't mention it, you need to. They can find out what his learning habits are like and if he is ADD or ADHD. It's nothing to be ashamed of. You learn to deal with it. They cannot put you in jail unless you are beating him, doing drugs, putting him in danger. If they contact child protective services, good! They can set you up with counseling, a tutor, health insurance, after school help. Use them for assistance. Don't be afraid of them. If your son needs help, they can help you get him diagnosed and on a med to help him.

ya_girl_ya

no, you will definitely not go to prison. You should bring him to the doctor and see what he thinks. There are a lot of medicines out there that can help. Trust me... my brother has ADHD and once he takes his medicine he is fine:)

i hope everything turns out okay!

eentweedrievier2007

Goodness, that could be ANYTHING that made him say that, from getting a math problem wrong, to having a bad day, to questioning religious convictions, to drinking too much caffeine/consuming too much sugar.

Your school counselors and teachers are not qualified to make medical diagnoses. Only a medical professional can diagnose ADHD/ADD. Do -not- allow the school to recommend medications.

Rockford

It could be something as basic as his eyesight. If one eye
strays out, he can't focus or read textbooks, will seem
scatterbrained and inattentive. This was my problem, didn't
figure it out till I was about thirty.

Try sitting the kid down and asking him if he knows what's
going on? He may or may not be able to give you some clue.
Could be emotional stuff, peer group stuff, bullied, feels
strange around girls, ie. puberty.

Could be some mood problem? Any history in the family?
Try to get him in counseling, or as a start like others
suggested, get an evaluation. Maybe not rush to get him
medicated, but over time if symptoms persist. Try counseling,
talking with him time to time, spending time together where
you can observe him and see what you think?

*maddy*

If I were you, I'd bring the son to a counseler or psychologist outside of school to get him evaluated. That why it won't be biased, then you can see where to go from there.

He's probably still pretty young--a lot of those things can be pretty normal in a kid.

Also, see what's going on the classroom. If he has a bad teacher she could've triggered those outbursts. Don't believe everything the school system says!

rainingonme

Well have you been mentally or physically abusing him? IF NOT NO! But he does sound like he is having a problem and the sooner it is taken care of the better. Missing assignments? Well that falls a little on your hands because you should be checking his home work to make sure he is doing it. ADHD is common and can be treated if taken to a doctor and diagnosed. All children take time LOVE and money, guidance........... It is ignorant to think one is crazy if they see a counselor or therapist and there are a lot of ignorant people in this world. so please find out what is wrong with your child and do not let others influence you. Your child can be successful in life if he is treated. Do not disregard your child education or problems. He sounds like he is down on his self and needs some self esteem. I have heard parents tell their children they are stupid and will never amount to anything ....... This is damaging to the child and their self worth. There is nothing wrong with being emotional. Emotions is a natural feeling and should be taught that it is normal.

for a vegetarian world!

no they woupd sooooo not get put in prision he jst might need to keep going to a councler

PIKA

talk to the boy he may be upset about something , or just want attention. I think it was wrong for him to get in trouble, so don't get mad at him. just ask him whats up.

kidoumarux00

try goin to the doctors and check him up and im pretty sure your not going to prison unless he said something? idk?

bmoc2525

Listen to all the chemical control advocates on this site and you should have a good little robot in no time.

Do some parenting and you'll have a child you can enjoy for his entire life.

Find out what your son is up to and the reason he is acting out and deal with that. Treat the cause not the symptom and you'll get further in the long run.

Don't listen to these morons telling you to medicate your child.

Kellebelle<3

low self-esteem. I know it seems as though this is the answer to everything, but if other people have outwardly thought him to be useless or unworthy somehow, he'll have convinced himself of this too. just try to be supportive of him no matter what he does, and he'll probably stop acting out because he'll realize he doesn't need to for attention.

Hanny

If you are not being abusive to your child the thought of anyone taking him from you should not cross your mind at all. You should take your son in to a psychologist to get evaluated just for your personal peace of mind on the other hand if he does have a problem that would allow you to get him the adequate help. I think ADHD is over diagnosed on children and that professionals are too quick to send a child medication. Sometimes a child needs attention and training at home to learn the proper behavior in other places such as school. Teachers don't have enough time to tend to each child's individual needs and are very quick to give up on a child when a parent is not involved. I am not saying that you aren't involved but offer your child all the solutions that are available and don't rush into anything until you know whats affecting him.

there's nothing "wrong" with your son. he could have some disorder.

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