My boyfriend wants to be a cop?

trooper3316

Two concerns, first of all, being low in seniority, he will basically get an assignment no one else wants. I went through the WI State Patrol Academy, and assignments were based on class grades, since we all had the same seniority. Hopefully AK is similar, and good grades can help. Secondly, and of most concern, back up is far away in AK. I saw a job posting for Barrows that stated back up was more than a day away. The bright side... AK probably has a pretty low rate of assaults on officers.

Tapestry6

Yes, 3 years of separation he was in the Army stateside and overseas just as much stress too. We wrote real letters, occasionally talked on the phone it was expensive and neither of us had the money, he came home occasionally.
Mail is good we hashed out a lot of stuff about likes and dislikes, kids, etc. We did date other people during this time to make sure this was the real thing.
After that we got engaged and married its been over 20 years so I guess absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Andy-Roo

I'm in the same situation...my gf doesn't want me to do it either, but I want to be Dallas SWAT, so it's a little more dangerous. If you love him, you have to support what he wants. And, working in Alaska can't be too dangerous, so i'm sure it will be fine

TYNNAâ„¢

i am a cop and i had to do just about the same thing... i live in a little town in Maine, and my girlfriend didnt want me to be gone from home so much but i really wanted to be a cop so i went to a college (for like 3 .. well only 2 1/2 .. years) in a big city (portland .. ok not really that big .. but if u live where i do .. ITS BIG!!) but then i became a highway patrol officer and i see my girlfriend (of like 4 1/2 years now) every day and its nothing different than any other job except it is a little more dangerous than other jobs .. a police officer isnst even in the top 10 most dangorous jobs. so it is a little dangorous but not too bad... the most danjorous thing i have done in my career of a cop is .. i hav gotten into a high speed police chase and only going at like 75 MPH.. but i am a highway patrol officer whitch ppl go faster on highways so yea..

MrPotatoHead

a lot of people who said no on this question were voted down, but just in case you look at all those, I would say that many responses are incredibly offensive and I would like to remind people that you are asking a decent and concerned question, and that most people wish you the best of luck, regardless of what the future brings you two

perro.faldero

My fiance is a police officer and I won't lie, it can be a very dangerous job. He has been in many a risky situation. However, he works in London which is a very dangerous city. I could be wrong but can't imagine that Alaska is as dangerous!

I do worry about him but I also trust that he prioritises his own life above everything else. He would never willingly put himself in danger. If you sit down with your partner and tell him you are worried for his safety, I'm sure he will tell you the same thing.

As much as many people dislike police officers, the majority of them are good guys and gals who want to try and get justice for those who are victims.

If you would like me to answer any questions, do e-mail me.

MajorTom Â©

Maybe you can have him "arrest" you and give you a full body "frisking"!

faulty_cortex

If you want to stay together you will have to move with him to the new locations. If you're not willing to do that it's time to split up.

THE Cupid HATER

Okay...You and he are looking at a 2 or3 year engagement.
Q Do you both want to wait that long!? What happens if he washes out at school? Does he have some thing to fall back on?

Hope it works out for the 2 of you!

Dennis Fargo

He should become a cop.
Move with him to the village he is assigned to if you really love him. Marry him now.

casapulla2001

You are SOME kind of drama-queen.

Be happy he's getting up to do ANYthing. What kind of crime is there, in Alaska -- because I've YET to see/hear that 'bad boys' song/TV show or CSI:Alaska. What's the crime, he'll encounter? speeding? you should worry about him drinking & driving (on the job) or meeting other women, while away.. more than him actually being injured.

Kevy

I have a book to recommend you.

http://www.policelink.com/products/products/652-i-love-a-cop-what-police-families-need-to-know

The site is pretty good too.

sirtanaka

An alaska state trooper is a great job.

The responsibilities are varied and interesting, and not particularly dangerous:

1 reduce the impact of drugs and alcohol on communities through statewide drug and alcohol enforcement;
2 provide professional, effective and efficient statewide major crime investigations;
3 provide prompt professional proactive and reactive rural public safety services;
4 protect our State's fish and wildlife resources through enforcement programs;
5 enhance public safety through highway traffic enforcement and education;
6 provide quality statewide training.

According to Federal statistics there are more murders committed in Camden NJ than in the STATE of Alaska. Populations being similar in size.

So really this is more about dealing with your anxiety about him becoming a cop, and less about him being a cop.

If you're the "worrying" type, you're likely not going to like anything he does. He would have a 20times likely chance of dying being a commercial fisherman than he would as a cop, but that's just statistics.

If you're not the "worrying" type, it's more about what the job has to offer vs. the initial deprivation of your relationship.

Look, if you're serious and you love him support his efforts he'll only love you more. If you're worried about "what's in it for me", I suggest you cut him free. Being a law enforcement officer is a rewarding job, but the hours are long, and it takes alot of dedication.

gotta_b_kidding_me

My brother is on his second law-enforcement career (state highway patrol and now captain in the local county sherriff's office - he basically runs the jail), my uncle was a highway patrolman, my nephew is a cop in a big city, and now my son wants to be a cop, so I think it's in our blood or something.

I don't want my son to be a cop because a) it's dangerous but that's the selfish part of me - someone has to do it, but more importantly b) I don't think's he's doing it for the right reasons - he's all about the testosterone power thing, not about helping people. He's 18, so still a baby if you ask me, and I have plenty of evidence that his brain is not mature! I'm working on him and hoping he'll change either his mind or his mindset.

Of course it's dangerous, but it depends upon a lot of things (general crime rate, funding levels for proper equipment and training, ratio of law enforcement per capita, sometimes terrain, and even the skill of your partner, etc.)

You probably need to get some advice from a cop's wife vs. a cop for the questions that are troubling your heart.

sarah76

New bacon in Alaska, novel thought sounds fun, go for it.

thereturnoflickguineapig

I am a police officer in London and can tell you honestly that it can be risky but it is also a really rewarding job. There is an indescribable feeling to helping someone in need or stopping someone dangerous from causing others more harm.
As perro.faldero already said it is important that your fiance knows exactly how you feel about this. The only way to really keep a relationship going in any walk of life is through honesty with your partner. I wish you both all the best for the future and wish your boyfriend a long, safe and enjoyable time in the force.

paul s

im no cop but im a soldier and can relate as far as the distance and danger thing go. and if its gonna work its just gonna work.just let it fly and see where it goes. as far as the danger goes i assume it would depend on the places crime rate. you should be proud of the guy.

paulcondo

move to Ohio we need state trooper down here bad

Mix M

the best thing is to let him become what he wants...and to answer the part of it being dangerous..it depends on what his duties will be..because some have office jobs and some do patrol others do undercover work..it's all up to him. I'm sure that if you two are in love that both of you will find a way around the distance....Good luck and best of wishes to both of you

lrgestload

I'll take care of you while hes gone. Its not as dangerous as everybody thinks. ofcourse there is a risk level that is higher than the averae job but its still not bad.

Why dont you go with him to the village when he rellocates???