Should i report my friend?

The Hammer

Looks like you already did, I'm sure she will be getting a violation notice from Yahoo shortly.

Kelsey

yeah i would report her anonymously..
she might be stealing from you soon if you don't stop her.

Sweets

It's best for her if you tell. She could get into huge trouble when she's older and what she's doing is VERY wrong.

Windseeker_1

Be a friend and let her know that you don't approve of her behaviour but let her get caught on her own.

Shelley

Yes...you could report her anonomously or have your mother do it. Who knows she could take something from you one day...

Annie

Report her where?
To the police? I think that that would be overreacting. (Sorry if it was not your intention.)
Or to the school? That might be better, but I think you should phone her Mum. Her Mum can have a talk with her, but if she doesn't stop and it gets worse, then her Mum can tell the school.

Lauren : )

i would report her

tek

No, don't report her.

If you're her friend talk to her about it. Tell her you think she shouldn't do it and tell her she may get caught and get in trouble.

If it's that important to her, tell her you won't be her friend if she continues to steal.

Telling on her is a bad idea completely, regardless if it is anonymously because it could ruin your friendship. And why would you want to see your friend get in trouble.

The thing that everyone hates is a tattletale.

Kawaii (=^_^=)

Even though she's your friend, stealing is bad. You should report her, because it will help her problem.

Andrea J

Your friend obviously has a problem and needs help. Stealing is wrong and it is a big deal. If she won't listen to you, then talk to her mom or dad in private. Helping a friend is worth risking losing a friend. Some day she may thank you.

Joe A

Her stealing is probably a sign of some other problem she's having in her life and is stealing as a result.

Rather than turning your friend in to the principal, why don't you talk to a school counselor, explain the situation and tell them you'd rather remain anonymous.

You friend might need professional help, but she'll need your help too, so it's probably best if she doesn't know you were the informer...

pachl@sbcglobal.net

You've got to give her, "tough love", and tell her the problem is more serious than she imagines.

Tell her that, if she really doesn't have a problem, she can go, let's say, three months without stealing. If she balks, then you've got her trapped; she is tacitly admitting she's hooked on stealing.

I once worked in an office, and it turned out one of my co-workers was a kleptomaniac (compulsively steals things, for no good reason, even things she can't possibly use). I only learned later that she was the one who stole my wallet. It was a lot of work replacing everything, so don't put someone else at risk.

Besides, she will someday get caught. That is practically guaranteed, and could face jail time. You've got to explain to her this is not just some joke; this is serious.

Panda*4Ever

Is there any chance your friend is really a hungry person looking for food she can't buy? If so, buy her some. If not, talk to her. If she gets a thrill from stealing, you do need to report her before she goes down the wrong path. What kind of friend would sit by and let this continue to happen? Good luck to you and your friend.

*amanda*

well its just gum and a cookie.
but if its getting worse then you should report her.

Blind Divine

I personally wouldn't report her. Maybe she has a reason behind all this stealing? But from your description, I don't think her reasoning would be that big of a deal... because well, a pack of gum and cookies aren't really much. But still, stealing is wrong of course. Now if you happen to report her, there's a chance she'll get mad at you or she'll be relieved and thank you, depending on what kind of person she is. Try teaching her a lesson on your own instead of bringing the authorities into this. There's always a lesson for something, I'll leave that for you to decide what to do. But unless this gets to out of hand, then I would report her just for her own good.

alicethetitan

You're right---you should report her. And there's nothing wrong with doing it anonymously either. It will be better for her and the community, because it could get FAR worse, as you've already noticed. People who steal do get into the rush of it, as your friend said, and soon she could be stealing more expensive things, like electronics or even cars. She'll end up in jail.

You're a good friend. Good luck to you both!

Cheyenne

Do what you believe will be best for her and in the meantime not hurt your friendship.

Glory M

Report her. If she's really a friend, she'll thank you for helping her. Who knows how big it could get if she doesn't get caught, it's best to stop her now that it's just small stuff and punishment won't be that harsh. But if you wait till later that she starts with big stuff like money, punishment is juvie.

Grubby

That is a tough one. You could try speaking to her again, and if she still doesn't listen, you could let her know that you will have to talk to someone else about this. That way, you are not "betraying" her by ratting on her behind her back (she would probably figure out that it was you anyway). Maybe then she will agree to get help or stop stealing if she is able on her own, and you won't have to actually bring anyone else into it. But keep in mind if she does have a problem that she really can't control, she might end up stealing when you are not around. Either way, it might be best to let her know that you are very concerned and you feel that you need to let someone else know what is going on. Not to get her in trouble, but to get her some help and help her realize that it IS a big deal. It might start with a cookie or a pack of gum, but it is just a jumping off point for worse and worse behavior. Of course, as her friend, you do not want to see her go down that road! Another thing is, by your being aware of what is happening, but not doing anything about it, you are inadvertently becoming her accomplice, and you are also subconsciously telling her you support her stealing. It is really best to take care of this before it turns into something bigger and uglier, and destroys your friendship.

Concerned

Tell her that if she doesnt stop you will have no choice but to report her. If she doesnt stop she will be stealing other things that are alot more valuable than gum eventually. And if she gets caught she could get into serious trouble.

welchm53

If you do nothing and do not distance yourself from your friend, you may have a problem when people begin finding out what type of person she is. With you hanging with her, you'll also be a part of the finger pointing. It's called guilt by association. You can give hints by anonymous written notes, warning people to watch their stuff carefully. Also, you need to give your friend an ultimatum both to quit stealing and to come clean with what she stole. Let her know that you're not interested in being friends with a person who does that. Last but not least, once you tell her that, immediately begin to stay away from her, because she may try to frame you as revenge. If she wants to change, she'll eventually 'fess up. If not, she's good riddance. Best wishes.

Ash Ash

Report her becuz that is a bad idea to steal stuff and find a good friend that wont still i kno you dont want her to get mad at u but its a better way u tried but she didnt listen

webdemonOO

Should you report her to the police?

Consider the following.

1. Three strikes you are out. (Pettie Theft x 3) While laws do differ greatly between states; most states still enforce the "Three Strikes" death penalty... If it was a pettie theft, grand theft auto, armed robbery then the penalty would not have been death. (Different types of crimes)

2, While you are in a sense obligated to report these incidents to the poolice if cetain conditions are met, (I'm not an expert on this and cannot tell you what the conditions are) but have you not heard the story? Of a guy who stole bread and was caught 3 times and were sentenced to death? Does your friend deserve this?

3. Did you try speaking with her parents, guardian or school principle etc.?

purple_ocelot

shes young she will grow out of it and anyway its probably just an attention thing. if really loves stealing then she would do it like most people from the Comfort of her keyboard.

haze

Maybe she is poor and cannot afford gum nor cookies

CRISTINA

well if you want to lose her as a friend its a good idea

.....

How are you her friend if you want to report her?

Ted

No, don't ruin your friendship. She will got caught sooner or later and learn her lesson.

John B

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