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Was I raped?
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Basically. Was very drunk following row with husband. Stormed into town. This man appeared out of nowhere. talked me into getting into a cab with him. Arrived at a house was given a very very strong drink. Remember nothing after about three quarters of an hour. Remember leaving and him calling a cab and pressing £10 into my hand for the cab. Got home, discovered it was 7 hours after the time I had left - no recollection. Was very bruised and split 'inside'. Discovered 'stains' on my trousers. Next day - realised my wallet was missing from my bag. 2 days later, banged into the guy in the street - he actually turned on his heel AND RAN.
Yes, I'm going for STI checks. Please don't bother with hatemail - I hate myself enough. - do you think there was foul play?
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Meeeee!
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It sounds like the very strong "drink" you had was very possibly drugged. This is happening to women more & more nowadays. Rapists are getting away with it because the women can't recollect exactly what happened, are embarrassed & don't want to report it. Don't hate yourself, you did nothing wrong. You should go to the police & report it even though I can understand you may not want to. If you know what he looks like & the area he lives in etc then if the police catch him then you may stop him doing this to other women in the future.
May I suggest you seek concelling for this? I think that would help a lot.
Good luck with everything & never accept a drink from someone you don't really know unless you see a barmaid pour it/open it.
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well, the act of rape not sure. him stealing your purse/wallet most likley. taxi company may be able to help with pick up, drop off point. it might spark something in your own recollection. you normally don't get complete recall until 48 hours after an event. but something like a chance meeting, or a street might jog your memory, sorry for your dilemma, and good luck. |
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Wiked
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Yes from what you are saying I would think that there was foul play... it is a good thing that you are going to get checked and that you are even able to tell about it... not to say that what happened isn't bad enough but it could have ended up ALOT worse... but yes I think that you were raped and that there was foul play. good luck to you and be careful out there. |
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rick_wenham
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You need to speak to the police as soon as possible, from what you have said you were raped and probably drugged to enable this, You need to do this quickly. The longer you leave it the less chance there is of getting evidence, although the chances are most date rape drugs would be out of your system within 24 hours.
It is a huge decision that you need to make and you probably need to tell your husband, you will need to be properly examined by a police doctor, who will make a statement.
It is not a pleasant experience I am sorry to say, and it is a decision that only you can make, you will need to make a statement to a specially trained police officer and you can ask for a woman offficer of you feel more comfortable. This officer will guide you through the whole process from the moment you make an allegation.
Please please do not feel like you have done anything wrong and dont hate yourself, from what you have said you have been the victim of a calculated individual who set out to commit a rape.
Even if you chose not to go to the police I would personally advise you to seek some councilling on the matter rather than go through it alone, if you dont want to speak to the police, who can arrange councilling for bith you and your husband, your GP should be able to.
Not wanting to make a bad situation worse, I know you say you are being checked for STI's, ask for a pregnancy check as well, a lot of people in your situation dont think about that and a lot of the time neither do the medical staff.
Be strong and I wish you all the best in the decision you make, please remember that you are NOT at fault, no matter how drunk you may have been or how annoyed you were after a bust up, not giving consent or being to drunk or drugged to give consent is rape. |
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moijesuisunepommedeterre
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Yes. Go to the police, I'm so sorry I hope you are okay. |
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Jamie Paul W
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Possibly, have the sti tests and wait for the results! Also you may wanna go to the police if you are worried!
good luck and god bless x |
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winballpizard
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Erm.... yes.
Call the police. |
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danehotmail
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something definitely happened!...hope you got the police involved, the person who did this obviously new what he was doing by the sound of it and is most probably going to do this again!!! and already has...I'd do something about it!!! P.S. Don't hate your self hate and pity him... all the best Dane! |
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Dont hate yourself...Love yourself.
Yes, this is a crime, and you should have already contacted your local poilce. If you havent ...do it NOW! |
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shektor9
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id say yes |
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neakblue
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sounds like rape to me |
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danny c
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Yes of course. You need to go to the police. They have special police do deal with this. Dont let him get away with it. |
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prissy_precious1989
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yea you need to go to the hospital and get checked out, theres no reason for the guy to run from you if he didnt do anything wrong,
talk to your husband tooo maybe he can help you emotionally, and maybe a pastor because God can help anybody all you have to do is know Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior
God Bless |
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Hot Mom
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Sounds like it, you should call the police! |
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Newgran
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Sounds as if something definately happened. |
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Sci-Buff
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I dont mean to be rude, but its weird that you can remember his face well enough to spot in a crowd, but dont remember anything else that happened that night ... no .. ? |
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