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lone butcher Spartan remembers
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Let me put it this way:
a) They don't know that you aren't abusing your kid so they need to be careful.
b) Questioning is not punishment. .
c) I'm sure it's hard to raise an autistic child, but do remember to try and not let your emotions control your actions.
d) Nothing wrong with a good spanking on the butt, just make sure it isn't the face and it isn't with any foreign object.
Nope, haven't met your son. Neither have social services met you or your son. That's why they're being careful to make sure things are okay. |
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William T
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Just explain what happened truthfully and calmly and I'm sure you'll be fine, you did nothing wrong after all. You may later find that your son told a version of the events that differs from what actually happened to the person who reported you. |
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jo*
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They have to investigate all cases properly if a child speaks out, but unfortunately innocent parents get scrutinised as well. Hopefully, they will see the truth. |
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B0uncingMoonman@aol.com
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Of course they have to check. How do THEY know you are not regularly abusing him.
They are only checking, after all. |
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Buddha
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You have my sympathies. The world has gone mad. I am sure that it is very hard to raise a child with autism. |
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Terry H
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Sadly, where making rules regarding child behavior and punishment is concerned the inmates are running the asylum
I was brought up in an environment of love and care by my parents. If i did something wrong I would be disciplined. Sometimes, not often, that would mean I got smacked. No brutalised, but I knew about it. I am sure this helped to instill in me a sense of right and wrong which has carried me through life - so far.
These days it is unthinkable to even verbally correct a child/teenager who is blatantly doing wrong - many would stick a knife in you without a second's hesitation.
Children need discipline, they need to be taught about right and wrong - we are not doing it these days. Something needs to change. |
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floppity
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That's awful, talk about a nanny state! I hope it all gets resolved, they're just getting silly now. |
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Cheeky Monkey
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Why that is just terrible!
But I don't think being questioned is exactly a punishment.
And after some of the recent mistakes the SS ( sorry, social services) have made, I suppose they do have to be "extra careful". |
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El Scott
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Being questioned does not equate to punishment. Punishment would be imprisonment, fines, fees, community service, or some other sort of court ordered sanction.
Anyway, to get to the heart of your question, which is really "Why is the system getting bent out of shape about my husband spanking his child?" After all your husband did not smack your son, he spanked him. A smack implies that your son was hit in the face possibly by a closed fist (which is wrong). You see, liberals (usually ones who have no children but somehow managed to write a book on child care) decided a long time ago that spanking was bad. They can't understand that a spanking is usually, actually fairly painless and is more embarrassing to a child then painful. It shows the child you are displeased with him and gives him an immediate negative consequence to his action.
Anyway they have decided that what happened may be child abuse and must investigate in order to make sure your child is safe. If they failed to act and your child was seriously injured or killed later then the involved agencies would have a lot to answer to.
Just answer their questions openly and honestly. There is nothing wrong with dishing out some spankings when needed.
I was spanked as a child and I spank my child from time to time. It is a form of discipline, nothing more. I grew up to be a pillar of my community and a non-criminal and plan on my son growing up the same way-disciplined. |
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dscharge
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smacking bad behaving kids once or twice is not a crime. Actually it helps in their personality development.
I've been smacked once or twice (not regularly) when I've done bad things and when I deserved it.
Not allowing the parents to smack their children once in a while when they feel right and the torture then the social services put the parents through gives the false sense to the kids that they are untouchables in any way what lead to yob situation we have now :P
I understand that they are just trying to protect children from the notorious child beater parents but this is going too far now. |
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me
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Social services is a waste of government money... they have caused more damage to families by ripping them apart for nonsense before they even investigate than they help. I have seen too many cases of this. I think they need to get rid of the whole program! If a child is being seriously abused call a cop- its their job. There is nothing wrong with a spanking it teaches them that there are consequences for their actions from the get go. |
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Blasé
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I can really sympathise with you. Seems Social Services only act when it is a stranger who does the reporting! I reported a taxi escort for smacking my autistic child last July................no police action, in fact no action as far as I know. Just more work for me, it took a long time to trust my child with other people and now I cannot allow my child to be taken to school by taxi. I have to do the 60mile round trip! Ahh well suppose it saves the government money!
I wish you all the best and hope is all resolved without to much hassle.
Social services should know better, Autistic children need firm boundaries and discipline just like their peers, more so in fact. We just have to look harder for a suitable punishment that they can understand. |
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crazyasia02
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Everyone is so paranoid now adays with people abusing their children, i do not agree with what they are putting you through i also know what they are putting you through, a very close one of my friends slapped her daughter because she called her a F***ing B**th and was screaming at her mother, she later went to school and told the councilor that her mom beats her, she had 3 kids and every single one of them were taken into foster care and she was charged with child abuse, this was not a fault on the police department, at the time we had a very big problem with our Child Protective Services they were often taking children from parents that they had no reason doing that to, and leaving children with people that really have no reason ever having children (sorry but that is the truth) anyway she eventually got them back after a year and a half of struggling except the oldest one which was 16 at the time she said her mom beat her refused to go back to her house, she filed reports on CPS also got a lot of other families that had been mistreated by them for no reason, they ended up firing everyone that worked there and hiring all new people (that's how bad it got not one single person was kept.) |
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Captain Willard
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We had the same problem (bi-polar child) in Texas. Child protective services visited our home, interviewed us and said spanking was allowed but not with a belt or switch. It's kind of unsettleing having the government interfere in your family's business but that's the world we're living in these days. |
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Amy G
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There is nothing that suggests to social services or whoever that you arent hitting or abusing your son on a regular basis. I think it's good that they are looking into things, especially after the incidents that have happened recently. If you havent done anything wrong you dont have anything to worry about and hopefully the situation will get resolved. |
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biga87718
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I became a daddy at sixteen and I was a single parent. I had no problem smacking my kids butt when she earned it. She turned out perfect and social services were never an issue. I think if they would have shown up on my door I would have ran them off! She's nineteen years old now so I don't have to worry anymore about that kind of stuff not that I ever did but if I see her act out I'd probably smack her butt again. You did the right thing and don't feel bad about it. |
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Piers W
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I'm with you. social services never get it right and the police aren't ever shaw on what to think these days. Even a child with autism needs to learn manners and a smacked bum is a good way to do it as I well know from when I was a child. Time out rooms don't work. |
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Guru
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Welcome to the New and Improve Hall of Justice System of the USA
Parents lost control of their children a long time ago
now we dare not hit a kid~~even under duress
Once there is a report of physical violence or suspected abuse the
*Authorities* can kick it to a higher level
I hope the police bought your version~~and now it is your husbands
turn to face embarrassment and humiliation as cops have a strange
mentality~Let us hope you have a good interview as I lost respect for the
authorities a long time ago~~tell your husband *don't let them push your
buttons* as they will try to get him to lose his cool~~they want to see if
he has a very bad temper~~I guess you did OK~~but now it is time for
your husband to be interrogated~~good luck~~you have enough problems
with a child of autism~~I hope the law sees that you are not taken for
granted by the *system.* |
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ambg4920
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They don't need an interview. Tell them they are more than welcome to drop by and do their interrogation as soon as they have a warrant. If they don't have a warrant, as every law enforcement agency is supposed to have, then don't let them in. |
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bails
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You cant physically hit a child anymore, you can be prosecuted. Political correctness gone mad, though for the parents that get away with torturing their children to death............who knows what to do for the best. If your children turn into criminals due to lack of parental control it'll be your fault. Its a minefield |
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#2 due 14th september
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If your son has autism why would he smack him? Sorry but that is wrong
Hitting a child will just teach the child violence is ok, smacking isn't the answer
If you cant handle your son and lash out just because he's "hard work" then maybe its a good job social services were called! |
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TRAIN HARD LIVE WELL
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You can't hit children. Take something away form them like a computer or games etc.
No disrespect but anyone who hits a child with autism needs to seek help. |
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Mrs Edward Cullen x
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Well, even smacking a child once is like abuse, illegal. x |
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