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♪ GOTH CHICK♫
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Now!! |
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SPONGEBOB
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when you go to jail for invasion of privacy. and tampering with another persons mail, oh did i mention it is a federal offense. |
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kaadbear
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Age 12. |
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Wizzard2
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Its not just that you shouldn't open it, it's more teaching him the concept of trust and privacy- its not easy to be a parent, but we have to teah them independance, as we wont always be here for them |
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ryn
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You should let them do it anyway,
you could ask them what it is when they open it.
13 year olds post normally just consists of appoinments and letters from friends etc |
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Cara B
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When he or she has earned your trust enough that you know he or she will make the right choices. |
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zerrick_king@sbcglobal.net
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You can stop now, but take a peek ever now and than stay up to speed. you are a mother i think. you need to know what's going on with your child. |
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Lyndsey B
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depends on how mature the are for their age? I would probably vet until at least 16 yrs old. xx |
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carol p
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you should have stop by NOW they are a teenager when are you going to let them grow up |
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If you know all your child's friends and contacts and their writing and post mark areas... why are you opening the mail?
If you have a reason to concern yourself with his/her contacts, you are wise to keep abreast of incoming mail... but should be overlooking... not opening first... you should be able to monitor with control, by conversation and openness, your child will proffer information... enough for you to know he/she is safe... you afford little information which merely provokes the "Invasion of privacy" brigade to jump in... but as any caring parent knows, that aint necessarily how life is.
We do have and should constantly maintain... a parental duty, to know who, where, when, why, what... exactly is going on in our underage children's lives, because they can so easily be at risk from predators today!
I'm for KNOWING and not wishing we knew after the event!
Much experienced parent of six adult kids... safely grown and gone:-) |
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simonc12345
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You should never open a childs mail. As long as he/she is able to do it for themselves, let them do it. If they do not understand some of the words, they will ask you what it says anyway. Sounds to me like you have already inadvertantly taught your child negative trust values. Sorry.
Better late than never though , next letter that comes through, put in on the breakfast, tea table at their place, and leave them to it. Stop being over protective, let the poor child breath. Good luck. |
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Millsy
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About 12 yrs ago... control freak!!! |
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Foxey
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Like right NOW!.
that is despicable. that you open your child's post. She/He will never trust you with anything, even the things she/he really should.
Actually you should have stooped the moment he/she was able to read. |
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fae
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oh my god how bloody protective are you? at whatever age they learn to open an envelope, I would say!!!!!! so, way back when they were four would be good! unfortunately you missed that deadline, so, NOW!!!!!!!!!! |
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Helen
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Choice is yours but beware your child will be lost to you sooner if you pry into things they dont want you to know .
Why not stop now and enjoy your child for as long as possible because much of the journey between childhood and being an adult would horrify a parent (if they knew) but is in any case perfectly normal . |
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mrs_blacktash2001
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would you let them open and read your mail?..i don't think so,if its their name on the envelope it should be opened by them...you really should'nt invade their privacy,they won't thank you for it!! |
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Bobbin
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At the age of 1 if you wish to encourage trust and respect! Are you a really bad control freak? Coz kids really grow up to resent that! |
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CxeLady
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Today sounds good to me! |
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badgerbadger
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I don't get it. I had penfriends when I was 10 and no one opened my letters...??? |
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*~WaterDancer~*
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When they can open and read them for themselves. |
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Dr. O'Pinion
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When you "Grow Up".
I can't believe that you ever opened them.
You must be over protective and extremely paranoid or both. |
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foo_fighters_fan_2002
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about five years old? or when ever their first letter is. You dont open other peoples mail. Theres not a double standard for kids and adults like most things. |
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carrie love
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NOW. My son is 11 and he shares things with me voluntarily, I don't have to snoop. Kids will hide things from you when they think they have to. How do expect to earn his trust, when he can't trust you to respect his privacy and he knows already that you don't trust him now. |
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hicham a
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13 years ago |
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iain d
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Yous should never open private documents as it is none of your business and shows a complete lack of both respect and trust by you towards your child. |
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lil fire cracker
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dont violate their privacy!!!!!
stop now |
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Andrea S
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you shouldn't open it no matter what age the child is if the letter or parcel is in your child's name. |
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Wise_guy
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steam them open read, and then reseal....this why you can keep tabs on her secrets, and fool her into trusting you |
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Little J
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I never open my daughter's letters ... Its addressed to her ... Unless I see something out of the blue and I would stand next to her when she opens her letter ... Mostly its from family and close friends she has ... |
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mad_knight
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As soon as your arthritis kicks in so much you cant physically manage it.
When this happens get a neighbour to help |
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