Divorce Is it fair???

starbabytwinkle

Its very unfair - I sympathise with the innocent men who are taken for all they have got.

Weatherman

OK

1) She can't use the 18 year old to get anything, at that age you are no longer responsible for his upkeep.

2) If you can prove that she is the reason for the marriage breaking down then she will probably get less, especially if she is now with the person she cheated with.

darkdiva

The law, especially British Law, is not fair. Remember when there was a law that surviving women could not inherit property? Remember when the person upon whom the property was entailed, could throw out the surviving female family members into the hedge rows before the dead male's body was cold? Maybe the new laws are compensation for the past.

disturbed

No, and it will never be.

ozywadle

You are wrong. This feminist court system is a star chamber. This is not law. The rule of law is well established, dating back thousands of years. When my son was taken from me the judge made new law, on the spot. "Judicial discretion" he called it. When I presented real law, the kind made by the legislative branch of government he said that was "old law". This is tyranny, under the color of law. Destruction of the family for profit.

As one reply stated, maybe you should go to court and fight for custody. Over my dead body. Don't make me come over there. This system is rigged, socialism under the guise of "best interest". If you believe their lies you will be forced to fund your own demise, paying Child support, taxes for womans shelters, psychologist fees, lawyers fees. The list goes on. Is government the best place to raze a child? The family is the best place to raise children.

S Csparky

i know how you feel it hppend to me
lost my house had to sell it and get
half she did not pay a penny for it

if i get marred againg i will have
a draft drawn up whats mine
with my solicitor is mine

to be honest i would not tie
the knot againig the law is
on there side

paul t

Its happened to me as well , as a man marriage and living together is not an attractive proposition . the law is totally on the womans side . All of these laws have come about because when they are made by man hating women mp s only womens groups are consulted . mans groups are not included because of the gutless male politicians . Hopefully the group Fathers for Justice is the beginning of us men redressing this very unjust and unfair legal system

Apples to Apples

When it comes to children, divorce is never fair. Unless you live under King Soloman rule and cut the children in half, neither party wins.

dze

... its the same in the US ... a woman can just decide she doesnt like u anymore and move in with the next shmoe and take the kids/house/dog/ everything and force u to pay her ... divorce laws should be such that if a person does not have a legitamate excuse to divorce like adultery or proof of mental illness against their spouse ... if they just want to divorce without good reason then they should leave empty handed ...

Afi

Its fair. Ask yourself why she cheated on you. Could it have been that you had done it to her once?
Maybe you didn't pay her much attention. Maybe you just came home from work everyday and fell asleep in front of the TV after dinner.
Could have been quite a lot more things why you are now in the position that you are in.
Just take it on the chin and hope that next time around...You will come back as a woman.

atom

no, it never will be its hard to spilt your life in two

#1 auntie

Divorce is NEVER fair for the children. As far as the adults, ANYONE who cheats should not get ANYTHING. If one is unhappy in their marriage and children are involved, you step up, be an adult, wait till the children are of legal age and then do what you need to do. Hopefully some conversation and counseling will be a priority. Adultery is a lazy and uncaring persons way of getting out of a marriage. If you really need to be with another person that badly, leave the marriage first.

Sorry, I get emotional when women and men think they can have their cake and eat it too at the expense of children. What a HORRIBLE woman. I hope she does not get the children or the money. Good luck to you sir.

bob

it is impossible to lay blame in a divorce case, that is why we don't even try.
Use a good lawyer and you will only have to pay for your kids, not for her.
Who's forcing you to move miles away.
I'd clean toilets if it meant being near my daughter

william c

Family courts always side with the woman because they are supposed to be the one to nurture the children while the man is expected to support the family. While today those rules don't apply like they used to they are still viewed that way by the court. Pity the woman and punish the man. Anytime a couple break up there are always plenty of other men waiting in line to rescue the poor abused darling. It's usually not long before the rescuer needs rescued himself. We live but do not learn very well.

Chuckler

There is one predictable thing about life; It is never fair.

D B

No it is not fair. the only justfication that I can see if if the woman stayed at home to raise the children. Just make sure you find aplace with bedrooms for the boys for when they come to stay. Hoever, unless your 18 year old is still in education you should not have to pay maintenence for him ; if he goes to uni suggest he goes to one near you or finds a job in your area. ditto the younger one until he leaves education.

uksawatdii

No....I left my ex Wife over her Constant Drinking and coming home about 2 in the Morning when the Pubs closed at 11

and was Divorced for my Adultery!

I never even had an affair

wrjones559_1999

I have no idea. It's like that in the United States too. They usually side with the woman and I know several men who are the better parent. I'd just try to get a good lawyer, sue for full custody of the 14 year old. The 18 year old is considered an adult.

Susie D

Daumn - I did something way wrong.

I divorced my ex-husband with the ethics and morals that I run my life with, and I was the one who got screwed in my divorce. He took half the property and left me with 75% of the bills!

Women don't always make out like bandits - there are pathetic weasley little men out there who are just as bad!

UrielR

I stongly believe that all MEN in the US and Great Britian FIGHT for what is right!!!

Men need new laws protecting them also!!!

I experienced a divorce also , and I got taken advantage by the system. Woman always have the upper hand, and the men are second place. New laws or changes need to be made to equalize this unfair justice.

But first Men need to protest,write to their lawmakers and not give up for what is fair!

Lord Onion

I sympathise with you pal.

It is just not fair. Good luck!

strawbarrycheey

Nope, try filing for custody for your children then have them pay child support.

Dan The Man

Because the woman will say you didn't give her enough attention, you treated her badly, you didn't buy her enough stuff, and you spent too much time at work, and she had no choice but to cheat.

That is why, Yes, it's not fair, but it does happen. Just like most things in life, they are never fair.

zodiac man

Yes. It is fair, cause noone wants to be tortured all their life.

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