Do you think it's ok for second cousins to date or marry?

Roxcy

My uncle married his second cousin. Their child, my cousin, is not deformed or weird or anything - we're fairly close and she's really fun and she's got her act together pretty well. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. The really wealthy do it all of the time so that they can keep the money and secrets in the family.

amit h

if both are adults so they are free to do what they want

little_kitten_prout

As long as it isn't going to create a genetic fault with any children and as long as its a willful marriage on both sides then who cares?
If they are happy together then thats all that matters :)
I mean think about it, say you meet this really nice, kind, funny, pretty/handsome girl/guy, and you fall in love with them, and then you find out they are your second cousin, apart from being shocked, is it really going to make much difference? they are still the same person and all the great moments you had with them are still the same.
people shouldn't worry about that kind of stuff unless it will effect their children or their happiness.

Mandy S

I wouldn't do it, but you know we are all brothers and sisters in GOD,lol. At least that's what I heard!

RicK Hill Jr

I don't think its very common, but I guess if its legal its fine. Who am I to Judge.

somrp2

sure, why not? even if sibilings marry and have children the chances of deformities (sp?) or mental problems are low. there aren't any problems with second cousins having children.

all that aside, if they love each other enough to get married, then they should- they'll be even closer because they were already family. :)

i don't get what's so gross about it. like someone said before me, most people don't even know who their second cousins are! so why does it matter? and besides, to all the people who were saying how gross it was- why do you care, they're not bothering you! be happy for people in love!

congratilations to the happy couple! :)

leah

its seems a little strange but its kind of funny because i had the same problem...recently i had some "second cousins" come into my life and i had never known them before i actually started kind of crushing on my 2nd cousin a little . I admit...strange, but since you dont really feel an extreme relative connection it makes it easier to love or crush on that person

its hard to explain...

Fancy New Beesly

well, i guess it's ok, as long as the two ppl getting married are okay w/ the pointing, staring, whispers, odd questions later to be asked by their children, and the awkwardness of marrying someone in your family... lol there's nothing wrong w/ it, its just not heard of. hope this helps! =)

HandyManOrNot

There are cultural taboos about this, historically related (no pun intended!) to genetic problems that arise from inbreeding. So, there are good reasons to be wary of marrying within the family blood lines.

European royalty regularly intermarried and their blood lines were all intermixed. They suffered from some serious genetic diseases, even insanity, as a result.

However, we tend to marry within our social or professional circles, and family is obviously one of the first contacts a person has when growing up. The genetic risk with second cousins is not real high, and this type of intermarriage is not uncommon.

I would not be comfortable doing it, but I wouldn't turn my back on anyone for doing it, either.

Will

That's up to the couple and their families if it's OK. I wouldn't do it, but then, I never thought well enough of any of my second cousins to date them.

Ben

Yes, it is. If you love your cousin, don't worry; just go for it, and congratulations.

Barry C

sure why not?

but can they marry if they are gay?

btw - we are talking about your grandparent's sibling's grandkids and you.

I don't even know who those people are in my family - that is hardly "close" on the family tree.

XxSeXyMor3nItAxX

its weird but i seen cases like this..this sometimes increases the chances of having babies to come with problems. its normal. in US it dont matter if you marry your second cousin.

RIP Peter. i miss you. wait 4 me

its legal, but its weird. i would never marry my second cousin. it would be soooo awkward!!

Marsyas' Mommy!!! :]

I think its gross, but i guess its okay because the reason you can't marry your 1st cousin is because of birth defects right? if its your second cousin i think the blood line is different enough or something like that.....I think its Okay but gross still, because either way its still FAMILY FAMILY!

Nicole

NO.I think its wrong cause they are already family.

dannyboy

Thats a little too close for my tastes, but hey, whatever floats your boat!

dusty2592

no that is soo wrong

CEO JasonP

I would never marry my second cousin, but whatever floats their boat I guess.

Rocky

I guess it's OK... BUT you never know about having kids. Apples from the same tree can infect one another very easily... LOL!!!

I think it depends on where you live. Most people don't even know what 2nd cousins are. I wouldn't go around telling everyone.

realrepublican

Yeah, right. You are banging your cousin, admit it. Your kids will have three eyes and a tail.

JERSEY GIRL

kinda wierd....

Kaitlyn!!!

ew.... no

Katy

its legal yes because inbreeding is less likely because they are a good distance apart DNA wise and because marriages and divorces but it is a bit creepy

phyrekiss

Thats WAY too close for me. Id have to say no.

AngelFace808

i dont know the difference cuz half of my family are cuzins :) but i dont think you should cuz they're like your cuzins kids.

gross

PrettySweetz

Yes it is legal...and extremely gross to me specially because even thought my family is huge, we are still very close. However, I have known of many people that really do not know their second cousins and do not consider them as family...
Better to get it on with a second cousin than a first cousin or a sibling...**gags**

dadoftwo

4th cousins or further away and its okay genectically.No chances for inbreed oddities.

HeatherUpNorth

DamYouRingDings

I think there's some confusion here about what second cousins actually are. Second cousins are *not* your first cousin's children. Your first cousin's children are your first cousins, once removed (and your first cousin's grandchildren are your first cousins, twice removed, etc.) If, for example, your father's first cousin has a child, that child is your second cousin. Second cousins share 2 great-grandparents. Since every person has 8 great-grandparents, there's enough genetic variation that the chances of genetic anomalies in children had between second cousins are really slim. The problems arise when cousins (of any degree) marry each other over many generations, like many of the world's royal families do. There's a reason why so many royals of the last 30 years have been marrying commoners. Genetic science has developed enough for them to definitively know the consequences of marrying within the family.

John

Its alright dude.cousins are relation made by god so its not our cup of tea.our work is to love.you can love ur cousin sister as sister or love her as a lover.bcz second cousin is quit far realation.birth defects are totaly negligible!i am also suffering from same situation

anna

my mom and his mom are first cousin i never expect that this would be happen to us we falling in love together and we are second cousin we promise that no matter what happens we will not broke up just beacause of our relatives what im going to do?

anna

I LUV U JENNI

my nan's sisters daughter jenni shes like my age 18 always bin quite close,but i just cant do it anymore i love her so so much but i no that it will never happen n i just go to pieces,think its time i told her how i feel,why cant we choose who we fall in love with

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