How can I stop a staff member from bad mouthing me?

sarah1962

confront him in a meeting room, with a witness there, or go and speak to your hr department, make a complaint against them, it is more than likely they are just jealous of you, all the best

Jim

Is this person a subordinate of yours? If so, call him in with a witness and give him a counseling sheet about his lack of respect for authority and unprofessional conduct and then if he keeps it up and you can get it documented that he is doing that sort of thing, fire him. If he is a "peer", try telling him that his negative talk about you has gotten back to you and that you want him to stop and that if it doesn't you'll notify your superiors of his conduct. If he is your supervisor, try taking him aside and tell him that his talk has been counter productive for the company and you feel it not only makes you look bad, but also calls into question his leadership ability with the rest of the staff, and if that doesn't turn him around, go over his head with the same argument.

si_kleeg

beat the crap out him

mikehunt29

Who cares? Let him talk. It only shows his own insecurities. Let your work ethic and ability do the talking for you.

tempest

Confront him.

illusions

Ignore it. You see, people try to get a reaction from you and, if you ignore them, you've won. Those who know you will lose respect for the person gossiping.

sasha

Speak to your team leader

Sweet Lilies & Lavender

Talk to him, and let him know that you don't appreciate what he is doing. He is obviously jealous of you. That is why he is bad mouthing you to other people. Hopefully those other people know you better, and will dismiss his comments about you. If after talking to him, and letting him know that you want it to stop doesnt help, and he continues to do it.....I would let management know that you feel he is saying things that could hurt your charactor.

firefly

If you know you are up to scratch, it's very hard to do but when he starts, think of something pleasant and quietly smirk to yourself, this should quietly and effectively undermine him. If he does ask what you are smirking at look surprised and reply pleasantly, so sorry did you speak?
Difficult I KNOW but over a period of time he will look a complete 'Pratt', you should come out of it smelling of roses, as you've not really rocked the boat, no complaints etc. just quietly got on with your job.

vdv_desantnik

talk to your line manager about it, this is misconduct

karen a

confront him about it in a pleasant way in frount of another member of staff who has the respect of everybody...people who talk **** behind peoples backs go to pieces when confrounted...if they were strong they would say what they had to say to your face

Jellicoe

If you have got to hear what he is saying then so have your managers. If you want to convince them that you really can handle the job, you're going to have to manage the situation by confronting this character. "Jim" explains a good way of going about it in the absence of any established procedures in your organization. The one thing you cannot afford to do is to ignore it.

joevette

Make him eat his words prove him to be a liar.

GAVIN E

well If you have an union rep within your workplace speak to them.

If not log an official complaint to your Personnel department and state that you want this individual reprimanded for his actions.

Northern Lad

Confront him in car park, and kick the sh1t out of him.

Flaco

Does the company have any confidential help lines that you can get some quiet advice from? The HR department should have some suggestions ...?

levindis

You have two options you can request your company instruct this individual to stop discussing you on work time or you can bring a defamation of character or your state equivalent in small claims court. You would then challenge this individual to present reasonable cause for this conclusion plus a reasonable reason for communicating it to others. Also you will have to illustrate how you were damaged by these comments.

The Original Highbury Gal

You dont need to say anything, let your management feedback/reviews do the talking for you.
I know it's upsetting when people bad mouth you, this guy obviously has some issues and has picked you as his punch bag.
You know your good at your job and your fellow co-workers must feel the same judging by your feedback reviews.
Try and rise above his nasty comments and it wont be long before people will see him for the nasty little man he is!
Good luck.

aresee

If you think its defamation of character and you're unhappy about his comments, you've got to speak direct to him and sort it out between you.

katy

learn to manage your staff and that wont happen

Everyday's the same again...

You don't say whether he is a peer; superior or member of your staff. You need to tackle them in slightly different ways - but in each you need to maintain a level of proffessionalism. Talk to them on a 1 to 1 basis; keep calm - you are on a fact finding mission - not a rant/rave. You need to plan what you what to say; but you should cover:
1 - what his behaviour is
2 - state you don't like it
3 - what you'd like him to do instead (ie come to you with any probs)
4 - when this will start from

Good luck

PAULA J

You can either:
a) go through the approved route - use the companies grievance procedures.
b) tell him you've had enough and you intend to go through the companies grievance procedures or
c) wait for him in a dark alley and thrash it out with him.

Whatever you do DON'T allow him to treat you like this, he's just an idiot and you don't have to put up with it. seek advice from your immediate superior and if you're not satisfied with whatever they come up with go to the top.

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