How would you describe men who refuse to pay child support?

netjr

What you describe is your point of view. I have seen the opposite, my brother earning a gross pay check of $1200 in a pay period and the DA's office taking $750 for child support leaving him $450 to live on. His car was repossessed, his credit ruined and he eventually ended up homeless, unemployed and unable to pay anything for his sons. Had his ex allowed him to pay, perhaps $400 and live off the $850 he might still be paying the $400 - but now he pays nothing and has nothing.

eldude

only 10k? I met a guy the other day, this is what he told me. He owed 50K in back child support and he worked 2 jobs for 10 years and got it caught up.
Regardless, I've worked with guys that quit their jobs when they got there checks because of the amount money taken out for child support. When you have 5 kids you have to pay for it adds up.
I think there should be intervention into the women's lives that want to have kids with guys that already have a few kids they don't pay child support for. But, everybody has the right to ruin their own life and their childs so really, there isnt' much you can say about them!
I think they are people with very serious problems including lack of respect for themselves or their children.

lfh1213

I wouldn't "say" anything. But my attorney would.

shirley e

I would say " see you in court"!!!!!!!!!!!

coragryph

In your example, he appears to have no valid excuse -- he just doesn't want to pay.

That's not always the case with every other situation.

M T Colaizy DDS - OFFICIAL

Deadbeat Dads get no respect. And that is a lot more respect than they deserve.

This question "answers" a lot of the questions posted in the SOCIETY/CULTURE category.

Kenzie

They can put him in jail for that...so do your research and give him a plea bargain.

stepup1895

Parents have a responsibility for their child and many times it's the parental relationship rather than the child is the result of non-payment. So I would say, fix that up and move on.

Justin H

As a father paying child support, I am absolutely disgusted by this. I have paid every penny of support I agreed to since before there was ever a support order in place.

I am also someone who grew up without ever knowing my father and my father was a "dead beat dad". In fact, I received more from him after he died (in the form of social security death benefits) than I ever did when he was alive.

It's one thing when a support order leaves a father in a position where he can choose to pay his child support or choose to pay rent and buy food - I have known people in this position. But it's quite another when a father refuses to pay when he clearly has the means to do so.

The Glorious S.O.B.

deadbeat dads

Barry auh2o

One word. Irresponsible.

Yak

That is a damn shame that men are not taking care of their responsibilities.

juicylechuga

i say he's a dead beat dad who sux and i think u should try to get them to extend the child support into your childs college yrs ...cause thats what my mother did and my father had to pay for my education until i completed college :) i graduated when i was 23

miss2sexc

I would describe him as a selfish human being.

Your son will one day be old enough to make up his own mind about the type of person his dad is and that is something that his father should be made to realise. Does he not care that his son will one day look back and see the struggle his mother went through due to all the selfishness?

pplz1st

when they can afford it they usually don't pay anything... but when they are too poor it is really difficult, and some women don't consider that the father their self never got any support from their father, and the single mother never got any from her father either. so that is why they are poor their selves and some women have hooked them into father hood,by lying that someone stole their pills or they lost them.So the guy has an even harder time trying to get a future going because they won't let them drive to get around and they take all their minimum wage away from them not allowing them to afford car or house.And some of those women have way more money in their families than the poor guy ,but won't help him to become a more productive father.

TW Mommy

It sounds like he is pretty worthless. I would keep fighting him to get the money that he owes you!

Crystal Blue Persuasion

If anyone ever needed a good lawyer, you do. He's a trashy SOB who doesn't think of anything but himself. Money doesn't give a person class.
I've never been wealthy, but I paid my ex double child support and helped her every way I could. I always tried to believe that everything I did for her, I was doing for my daughter. My ex and I are actually pretty good friends now.

kiwichickie

Dont say anything you're gonna regret. He'll use it against you for sure. If he loves seeing his child then start being "busy" when he wants to see him. He'll get the message.

jboufe

Sad, Sorry and Surley and pathetic. Mostly it's his lack of maturity and his selfishness. You see his problem is that he secretly wants you to suffer for not being with him. If he can't have you then he'll make it hard on you financially until you beg to come back and confess how miserable your life is without him.... Look at all the things daddy has and mommy has nothing. they are embecils (sorry for the spelling )but you get the gist of it. I'm sorry to hear that it takes the system so long to catch up with them. I wish there was an easier way to make them pay instead of waiting forever. too many women are facing this game it has got to stop!!!!! GOOD LUCK

Sabi:]

WHAT A RETARD...!!!!
SUE HIM 4 EVERY PENNY HE HAS..!!!!!!!

Jen

I would tell him " Pay your child support and stop being a dead beat dad, I don't care how much money you make, you're still a dead beat dad." If he enjoys spending time with your son then say "well, if it's just a guideline then I guess you don't have to see your son either."

That just makes me so mad. My dad didn't pay his child support either. As a matter of fact he is still paying it and I'm almost 25 and my littlest sister is almost 21.

My Mom just told him "well, you can pay it now or when the kids are all gone and grown and don't need it anymore, and I will just take a much needed vacation with my Husband"

you could try this one. It didn't work on my Dad but I don't know maybe it will work on your son's father.

I'm sorry that you and your child have to deal with that.
Take care.

by the way I agree with Kenzie.

Robert W

Sounds like a deadbeat to me.

lifetime rocker

I have head it be said that a man who does not pay child support can lose his parental rights. I found this out from a lawyer several years back when I had some family law issues that needed to be addressed. This is to say that consulting a lawyer might be in order to find out some info. Some things could change that would keep him out of your life forever. Keep in mind thought that you child's welfare is important as well because he might not want to lose his dad. This man is definately a deadbeat loser who lets money rule everything in his life and appearantly cares nothing for his son's welfare. What a sorry excuse for a so called man.

~Josie~

The obvious, he's a loser!! Your kids will realize some day what he has & hasn't done; that will be his payback!

m responsible

did you get pregnant to have a paycheck. any woman should way the consequences before becoming pregnant. who cares how he lives. live for you and your child....theres more to life than money!

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