If a man says "I wouldn't cheat on you, but if I did, you wouldn't know about it".?

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I would be concerned about this. His response should have been " I wouldn't cheat on you, Im just not like that"

zaorox99

either ur husband doesnt know how to talk to women or hes cheating on you, but eb careful if youre spying on him

mama

RED FLAG!! If he ever said that to me I'd definately be worried. Reevaluate yopur marraige. Ask him why he would say something like that.

Me-She

It means that the "Mind Games" have already started & if you don't (or can't) get him to stop this type of VERBAL ABUSE & game playing with you, then your relationship will continue to suffer. These types of remarks may seem like nothing to most people, but since you have already asked the Question, then his remarks have already started to destroy the trust you have (or had) in him. You should definately have a talk with him in regards to WHY he would attempt to use this kind of double talk & chance ruining your lives together, as this is a form of sabotage! You may need couples counseling to learn better communication skills, or you may need a Lawyer to get a Divorce if he keeps giving you these MIXED SIGNALS! He has, in his own way, given YOU a WARNING!

Dani California

I think I would be worried. It could mean that he's already cheated on you, or it could mean that he would if the right opportunity came along.

hsebersole

he is saying that he is stealthy and smooth normal male behaviour i would say the same to my wife. really. it is just a confidence thing.

Not Allie

Anytime a man adds, "but if I did...", then it means he's considering it or has done it. If he really wouldn't cheat on you, he wouldn't even think about what would happen "if he did".

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im going with the second answer.

LMCAPLE

D-I-V-O-R-C-E- SERIOUSLY GIRL. THATS NOT COOL...

Goose&Tonic

It means he's a scumbag.

turboweegie

It means that even if he did cheat, he wouldn't be one of those sad sack whiny cowards who would then confess his indiscretions so he could feel better, but would hurt you.

It means that he knows that there are some secrets that a person takes to the grave without ever sharing because the pain it would cause. Tis better to bear it and suffer alone.

I haven't nor would I cheat on my wife, but I do have secrets that neither she, nor any other human, will ever know. It's better that way.

pamperpooch39

If he truly loved you he would never have said this. He would not have wanted to make you worry. He knows that saying this to you will only make you feel insecure and worried. This is cruel behaviour and you don't do that to someone you love. If it isn't love and it's just the initial stages of a relationship you are in then he may just be trying to make you desire him more. We often play games with each other in the initial stages, but not when we are in love.x

Pix

Well he should not of said that but this means nothing!

The question should be to him!

It may have just been said in Jest?

jacksfullhouse

Call a private detective to follow him on days that you won't see him much. Don't call the detective from your house phone or your cell phone though. Actually just look him up and go see him, don't make a record of you calling him.

JOIN Tie Busters!

You have already been cheated on.

Turtle Isle

mine said that for months after he had another woman and house in another state for 6 yrs!..He is saying he already cheated .

orangemike

He is saying he is arrogant and secretive and willing to mess with your mind. He may or may not be cheating; but that is the least of your problems.

Elle

It means he thinks you are too stupid to find out :(

LeXi

he likes you but he knows he can get some else where if he wanted to

L C

Kick his butt and don't apologize. No really he needs sensitivity training. That was not intended to make you feel good about yourself. The only way to know what it means it to know your husband, would he cheat? Evaluate the situation, but remember the answer he gave you to that question if you find out that he is cheating.

sgoldperson

It would mean go look for a good divorce lawyer. Come on flat out saying If i did you wouldn't know it. Can he make it sound any more like he did. Get a good divorce lawyer and find a local detective/private eye and have them watch him for about a week or so. If he is cheating still he will do it with in a week likely. Sorry but it really sounds too much like he has or still is.

MamaOfTwo

I'd ask him why he'd say a comment like that? Matter fact, why was the topic brought up in the first place? Maybe he was annoyed with you asking questions.. maybe he was saying it to make you think.. or maybe he's telling the truth. He wouldn't cheat on you but if he happened to fall into someones crotch... guess what.. you wouldn't know about it.

A loving husband would not make this comment. It's your choice what you want to do about it. Talk with him more about it.

juan70ahr

By logic it means:
I will not cheat on you unless I can keep it from you.

or...

I will cheat on you unless I cant keep it from you.

Either way, the statement says that he is willing to cheat.

Psychologically it means:
A) He made a bad joke

B) In principal he will not cheat, but in theory he really doesn't think their is anything wrong with it.

or

C) He has cheated, is cheating, or is trying to figure out a way to cheat

He's your husband, I hope you know what he means, but if you don't then your marriage has problems.

ThePeskyWabbit

Yep, I believe that horse has already been let out of the barn----and he thinks you're either too stupid to realize it, aren't paying enough attention to him, or is very glad you live in your own little world so he can do whatever he wants to.

I believe that was you wake up call.

Celebriel

WOW!!!
It means that whether or not he could cheat, he is confident in his ability to hide everything from you, if he is that self confident it might be easier to catch him if he ever cross the line... don't ever show him if you are getting suspicious and just discreetly investigate ;)

sex.tigress69

It means as soon as you turn your back another girl will open her legs.

innereyeopen2u

It means he doesn't have a problem keeping secrets from you. Obviously a lot of people will jump to the conclusion that he is cheating, but that's not necessarily true. However, he is confirming that he feels confident you trust him to the point of not questioning his behavior, and it sounds like that's a power trip for him.

I'd be wary of anybody who acts like they have the upper hand in the relationship.

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