Is it abuse if I won't let my daughter see her grandmother?

Marie R

No it is not abuse to prevent contact if you feel its doing more harm than good to the child. abuse falls under physical or mental abuse. denial in order to prevent problems would not fall under child abuse.

Carolmerel

Absolutely not! Infact you are more likely to get into trouble with CPS if you willingly allow your child to go to a place where you feel she is not safe. Its an unfortuneate situation between you and your mother but you have every right to decide who/what/when/where your daughter visits with someone - - infact it is your obligation. You are doing just fine.

naimad z

if crying is emotional abuse then every parent should be contacted to social services. if your mother did something you don't approve then you have the right to make sure your daughter doesn't see her, and if they send you to court then say it was only in your good intentions for your baby.

Leogirl0804

Who the hell is social services? You are the mother. How is the grandmother bad for your daughter. You have every right to raise your daughter. If your mother wants to go to court to get visitation rights then let her do it on her nickle. Distract your daughter, she'll get over it. Your mother appears to be a little controlling and abusive herself.

Kids are simply not good at judging character because they inherently love most everyone. Your the mother and well capable and are doing the right thing as you see fit . Grandmother had an opportunity to act in a fit manner and blew it for herself , good for you for standing up I say.

lrmrss

what did she do

BiBJ

It's really sad that in this country, USA, that a parent has no choice how they raise their children.

If she gets social services involved, it could get ugly. I would suggest moving out of state before she gets things started.

You mother & her lawyer are full of it!
Protect your child. I don't think TN has "grandparent rights law"

Im a killer

Of course it isnt..no you wont get in trouble for it. The grandparents have no legal rights, she's making it up about the lawyer.

Heinz M

If you have good reasons for NOT wanting your kid exposed to her, you are OK.
Kids sometimes cry when they don't get what they want. That is no reason to give in, unless you don't know what's better for your kid, than your kid does. Hopefully, not likely.

Vaz

She is your child, and you have to decide what is best for her. You obviously have your reasons for not wanting her see your child and they must be pretty good reasons to have you make this choice. If you are protecting your child, then no-one can 'force' you to change your mind.

pokerkid80

I know nothing about the laws on this matter but I don't see any possible way a law states you must let your daughter see her grandmother. The grandmother has NO parental rights over her and therefore has no visitation rights. I could be wrong but if this is true I'm moving to canada. wat a joke. lol

k. sizzly

no its not abuse ur not physically hurting her

danidlor

It all depends on what the reason for not letting her see her grandmother is. I agree that Taylor S needs to get real.

kehkohjones

That does NOT sound truthful on the part of the grandmother that it is "neglect" or "emotional abuse" but... think about your decision to deprive your child of her grandmother's love and nurturing. That grandmother is not gong to be around forever and not only you but your daughter will regret this when she's older.

Be around when they're together if you think harm will come to her or if you think that the child may be tuaght inopporpriate things.

All grandmothers think their role in life is to spoil their grandchildren. That's the way it's been since who knows when.

Don't wait until your child is older and holds it against you.

The answer should be 'no', but I've seen the social services system screw up so many times...

Regardless, though your mother can have you investigated (anybody can have anybody else investigated, it doesn't mean you'll get more than a home visit and/or telephone call); you have a right to withhold visitations with her grandchild for no reason. If you have a reason, even better. Your child sounds young enough to forget the regular visits; before you know it she'll cry about something different that she wants, like a toy.

Do be prepared to explain your reasoning to your daughter some day.

Laura A

I'm not sure of the legal side of this issue even though I've heard of grandparents rights to see their grand children.If the child is not being mistreated I'm not sure I understand what the harm is.Sometimes as parents we are overly protective and thats not a bad thing ,these days you cant be too safe.The concern I have is it sounds as your mother and child have bonded.
The denial of access to the childsgrandparent can be very shaking to all parties involved.If the emotional upset is worth it and possiably a court battle then stick to your guns.I feel that you have to be careful in these situations because we as adults might understand but the little children dont and its hard for them to process this denial.Im not sure what your issue with the grandparent is but if you feel your child is truly being harmed then by all means stand by your decision.I seriously doubt social services will do any thing about this.You are not abusing your child ,you are just tring to protect her from harm.Remember it does sound as if your child has grandparents that loves her too and I'm sure your baby girl must feel the same about them or she wouldn't be so upset.I would try and work out something for all concern,even if it ment the grandmother could only visit with your daughter at your home when yourself or husband would be present to keep an eye on the situation and to step in if necessary.Its important for children to have a relationship with their grandparentsMaybe family counseling would help.I'm sure you feel you are just trying to protect you daughter.I hope I gave you something to think about and I hope you find a solution to your problem.GOOD LUCK! NONNA

kanga

You have not said what your mum has done? If she has done nothing, she has rights as the child's grandmother and can drag your selfish little **** to the family law courts to gain access visits. Do not use the baby as a pawn otherwise you are guilty of emotional abuse to your child too. All children have the right to know their grandparents. They bought you into this world. That baby is their blood too. Grow up.

Hemlock

Taylor S. how old are you? Your answer sounds like your a little child that has no clue to what there saying.

K sizzly there is more than just physical abuse. Go back to school.

Ms.Cook

You should have provided more information. Who are we to tell you what is wrong or right? However, if you have problems with your mother, then it is wrong to prevent your daughter from seeing her. As I said, we don't know what really has happened. It is a little premature to say YES or NO. If there is a real problem, a serious one, then you should talk to the Social Worker, or, just go with your baby and stay there while she visits her grandmother. Don't let your personal problems with your mom interfere with your baby's life. It has NOTHING to do with it. Good luck.

fr_chuck

Tell you mother to go mind her own business and you don't have to let her see the baby if you don't want to.

Of if you do, do it only when you are there, and leave if your mother acts wrongly.

No babies cry because you don't buy them everything, because you spank them when they do wrong and more.

You mother appears to be a trouble maker at this point, I know she may think she is doing right but no. Many people never let the grandparens see the baby.

*SeXyLiOuS*

she has the right to see her grandmother!!!! but u wont get in trouble if u dont show the child to ur mother...

Taylor S

i hope you get in trouble thats just mean

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