Is it morally/ethnically wrong to date someone who shares your last name?

Scott F

Only if your related to him/her, would it be morally/ethically wrong, though many people will believe its wrong or have misconceptions, possibly thinking its incest

Yesugi

It's just a name.

She's not your sister, right?

Leogirl0804

It should be simple enough to determine how far back the gene pool is. What if their name is Miller or Smith. Jeez there are gazillions of them. No it would not be weird, it would just be a coincidence.

Agent H

As long as they're not your relative then it's perfectly fine to date someone with the last name.

buttercup

The last name does not matter. Look at the phone book
and the number of Smiths, so one Smith could marry
another Smith and neither family have known the other.
Blood line is a different matter, however. I'd steer away
from marrying someone in the family line (sister, brother,
cousin, uncle, aunt, etc.)

waia2000

In some places it is considered unacceptable for first cousins to marry. As long as the person is not a first cousin (or more closely related) there is no problem.
-w-

it is me

the only drawback is that if you get married your bride may want to keep her last name

Lil'Menace

That's another way to just keep it in the family =)

cantcu

How we can rationalize why we do things. Yours is a classic.

If she is related, and precluded under law, you could be criminally charged and your marriage annulled. Some states allow 2nd or 3rd cousins to marry!

I would try and find someone outside of your close family relatives. You have a high risk of genetic issues when you inter-breed!

Lupe

If they are not close relatives, it is ok. U just need to find it out. What's wrong loving a person who shares the last name. IF it is wrong to date or love someone just for that, many vietnamese people can't get married cos there are some very very popular last names here. Moreover, it depends on you, if u really want to date with someone, you would do it without doubt.

Ken C

So, if you had a son, would he call you Uncle Dad???

shabushabu

If anything, it makes economical sense. You wouldn't have to file for a name change, fewer documents would have to be modified to reflect the new marital status, and no one would have to have their name re-learned. This is becoming more and more common as fewer and fewer people modify their last names with marriage as they used to, with only about 50 last names holding the bulk of all last names. Most often there are not even family ties based on last names in the U.S., as many names were assigned at the time of immigration to the U.S. and many many many persons received the same name. Don't worry about it, it isn't a problem at all.

tehabwa

It's not a good idea if they DO have close family ties; but most likely they don't.

Of all the people with a given last name, very, very few are close relatives.

I would imagine that, with the really common names, it HAS happened, though I've never heard of an instance.

I mean, the changes of two, say, Johnsons being close relatives is really really tiny.

slew

Its taboo in some countries. Years back Koreans repealed a law that prevents people from marrying someone who shares a last name. Its a big deal in Korea since their are only a few last names in Korea. The Kims make up a huge percent of their population. It more dependent on how closely your related. On the other hand, the female might be glad she doesn't have to change her name in any document.

jackalanhyde

How common is your last name? I wouldn't date a close relative, but just sharing a name is not a problem.

It's easy enough to do a little research and find out if you're related.

christianaâ™£

as long as you're not related up until maybe the 5th degree, it's all good. ;) dont worry!

oimwoomwio

As long as you are not siblings or first cousins, I don't know of any regulations prohibiting it.

(You can't marry anybody with whom you have a parent or a grandparent in common)

Suze

You're over analyzing. I have a highly common last name, the chances of my dating someone with it are fairly good.

Don W

bush_fascist

You might ask Oprah. She is a great advisor on American relationships. That is why the divorce rate is so high in America. Women that watch her show are f*cked in the head! Go ahead, let her ruin your relationship too!

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