Is there anyway to tell someone your sorry if they have a restraining order against you?

** i Am hiS giRL **

do the "he said, she said" thing

NATIVE NEW YORKER

well not if you have a restraining order against you.....why can you just leave it alone??

Niqabi

saying sorry is more for yourself. All they want to do is be left alone. The best thing you can do for them, if you (or whoever) truly ARE sorry, is to STAY FAR AWAY and let them feel safe and not bothered by the issue any more.

Saying your sorry is more of a control thing, something to make you feel better. Usually people say they're sorry so things can be worked out. Do you want something worked out so you can see him/her again? Don't do it. Don't do it. If they ever reach out to you, that's different. Otherwise you come off desperate and stalking. Just leave it be, give them their space.

mgd1k

bang on her bedroom window at 3 am and yell
"WHY DON'T YOU RETURN ANY OF MY CALLS?"

KnowhereMan

Write a long letter... What better proof than to put it in writing...?

rjf

Just go away

they gota restraining order against u because they want nothing to do with u ever in any way so back off, they do not care if u care , or that u r sorry,or what will happen to u, u no longer exist to them ,it's done , it's over ,over , over over , done , done ,done

roy40372

no you're not allowed to go with a certain distance of them and most certainly not allowed to speak to them.

Together

No. There is no provision for any contact. You cant even tell a friend to tell them something. If THEY CALL YOU, you can even still be in trouble.
In my state, you have your order valid one month, then there is a hearing for it to be extended a year. You should go to the hearing, and talk with the judge about how sorry you feel. The person with the order will be there too (if they want the order extended) and will hear you talk to the judge

Terry

yes, through your lawyer. You cannot contact the person directly.

Fernesta

ask your friend to tell them

The Final Answer

You can send them an anonymous email, but make sure you don't mention your name. Write it like this:

Someone you know would like to apologize to you, but legally they can't.

or

Someone with a restraining order would like to say they are sorry.
P.S. This might be spam.

bluebettalady

write them a letter....give it to a mutual friend...and ask them to take it the person

Panacea

Mail them a dead chipmunk with a note that says, "Unlike this chipmunk, my love for you will never die"

go_uva

goatfingers

a hand written letter could say it.

EternalBlueMemory

Send them an email, or an anonymous mailing.

goodtimesgladly

What does the order say? I think you may call them by phone or have someone else do it

practical guy

TELL your attorney to tell his attorney that you are sorry.

then leave him alone.

Bigdaddy

No. If they have a restraining order against you, it's past the point of saying sorry. If you contact them to apologize and violate the restraining order in doing so, you may be arrested and make matters worse for yourself. Let it go.

Robert J

If you actually read a restraining order, you will see that it doesn't really restrain anybody from anything. It's like a warning ticket.

NONAME

It's there for a reason so maybe you should just stay away from that person. You probably abused your apology too many times and that is why there is a restraining order against you.

PEOPLE! Even having someone speaking for you is against the restraining order. A restraining order is protection from abuse verbally too.

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