Is this abuse? I don't know the law but I am pretty sure it is?

Hey there

No, it's not abuse. However, what you did was illegal. Your lucky you didn't get caught by the police and bent over and spanked in a jail cell.

Susan C

nope...you're lucky he didn't cane you...

call 911 and report him spanking you cause you spray painted a car...if you dare...

Lucia.

Yes. It was abuse for you to have spray-painted your principal's car.

Grow up, vandal.

Rob

are you kidding your lucky you did'nt get the full fist beat the sh#% out of you treatment. You should be in juvie

heart o' gold

Sounds to me like the problem is your behavior, not your dads.

If I was your mom, I'd have been holding you down and handing him my belt.

If I was the judge reviewing your abuse accusation, I'd probably stick you in juvy for at least a month so you could straighten out your priorities.

Paula

You got off easy.

He could have taken you to the police and you could be facing jail time (although that may still happen if one of your "friends" rats you out.

Tsunami

no that is not abuse you should get worse then that so far lucky you haven't but you aren't out of this yet so hang on for another doss from the law.

Zach

Spanking is not considered abuse. If you do get bruises, they may investigate if you report it. It doesn't matter if you are 6 or 16, you are his child and he has the right to bend you over is knee. For what you did, it sure sounds like that's what you needed. You should be sitting in a juvenile detention center for property damage.

Remember your dad is probably the person that keeps a roof over your head and food on your table. You get him locked up for one instance of spanking, which I doubt would happen because he probably just spanked you hard, you wouldn't have that money coming in anymore. You also would be placed in foster care, and no one wants a 16 year old that vandalizes things. Leave it alone and move out in 2 years.

Lissa

Doesn't sound like abuse to me, sounds like punishment...something that most kids are really unfamiliar with today.

Mrs. Edward Cullen

Well, if your sixteen, then you probably shouldn't be spanked..you should be grounded. But then again if your sixteen you should be smarter than spray painting (or even helping) someones car. Your dad probably just spanked you because he thought that it was childlike. Technically your still a child by law, so parents have the right of punishment and rewards. If he physically hits you daily then its abuse. One spanking probably isn't.

william c

if the police found out you would be in juvenile hall. also it sounds to me like you deserved it!

and i agree with Rob lol

John K america beware!

Would you have felt better if your dad had turned you in to the police.

You are just as guilty as your cohorts.

Down the road you'll understand the action your Dad took was one of love.

Crime does not pay when either your parents or the courts learn of them.

Apologize to your Dad for what you did and what others on the internet advised you not to do!

Good luck.

Loverfli

For most states, this would not be considered abuse. Spanking is only abusive when it involves an object or if a red mark, welt, or bruise is visible for more than 24 hours. I think you're just upset because you feel you're too old to be spanked. In reality, even though you were just the lookout, you could spend time in community service (or jail if you have priors). Being involved whether you committed the act or not is called being an accessory. People who drive the getaway cars get in just as much trouble as the bank robbers. I think your dad had every right to spank you. Any legal fines that could have come up, would have come out of his pocket because you're a minor. It costs thousands of dollars to fix a cars paint.
Don't commit crimes if you can't handle the repercussions.

gottcha

It does seem inappropriate, but he has a responsibility to ensure his child does not cause harm to others or participate in illegal activity. If you decide to talk to someone remember though that once you start the reporting process you cannot take it back and it could drastically change your life.

Matt

Grow up, seriously. You don't want to sue your dad. That would never hold up in court because you had lost your lawful credibility by doing that to your principal's car. Also, would you really want to live in foster care??? In another persons home with a stranger that happened to pick you. Be lucky you have parents and shut the hell up. Foster children would only dream to have a dad to spank them. It's not abuse, you deserved it.

ef61190

ok, the fact that he spanked you is not abuse even at 16, i was spanked by my parents until i had just turned 18!!!

however, if you do get a bruise from it then according to uk law that then becomes abuse! and yes if u chose to u could call the cops.

On saying that though, why would u want to call the cops cos hey what u done was wrong and therefore u got ur bum tanned, so wheres the problem here, consider it a sore lesson learn't!!!

Emily
ef61190@yahoo.co.uk

snazzy_chick1

No, I don't think that that is abuse. The abuse would have been if the Principal would have spanked you for just being a look out for the other two pinheads that spray painted the car. The other abuse would be if your father didn't have you pay for the damage to the Principals car. You did help with the spray paint. Even though you didn't have the can in your hand you were present in the case of the Vandalism. Your dad didn't know how else to have handled the situation. You don't have a case against him. But the Principal does.
For your Edit: They don't sound like true friends if they are telling you they will jump you if you don't look out! I say dump the friends too!

majstikleo

No this would not be considered abuse in most states it would take more then one event of this level to be considered abuse. To be a one time instance it would have to get to the point of visual markings that would need to be treated by a doctor, for example broken bones, cuts needing stitches. Other then that your dad does have the right to discipline you to a degree. If this is something you could prove (aka pictures, video) have occurred over time that is considered excessive force which has traumatized you not only physically but mentally as well it would be a case. If you were to make this a claim its unlikely a judge would even hear the case. But you do know what you did was illegal regardless if you were the one doing it you were an accomplice which is a chargeable offense, so you better hope 1. you don't get caught 2. that you change your habits or friends b/c that will put you in juvi

Quagmire

heh heh...proncopals car good times. and sixteen you say? unfortunately i believe since you are sisteen and still tecnically a child, i would say no. tell him you are upset about it and would like it to not happen again.

fushia lover

What you did was wrong. HOWEVER you father's inability to handle the matter in a mature, respectable way indicates the reason why you behaved so poorly.

What he did to you was wrong. He should be mature enough to have an open Dialogue with you, and you should be mature and a good enough person to know why you shouldn't spray paint your principal's car. A person who you should respect.

Respect yourself and respect your education. Seek some counseling so you can undo the damage before it is too late and you are unable to reach your full potential. May be get a mentor - someone who is good role model - to help you. Perhaps yo shouldn't be hanging out with people who are unable to respect other people and their environment?

I think your father hit you like that because he was so angry, not just with you but with himself, because he knows that he was shocked that he brought you up to behave like that. You showed him his flaws.

Jacobo

If it's just dicipline, than no, but yes

Ravindra M

Dear friend,

I am sure whatever he did with you is not fair, but try to understand his feelings as well. Put yourself in his shoes and think whether your act was right or wrong? What would you do if your kid behave like you behave today ????

Think on it.

and excuse your Dad as funally he is YOUR DAD.

Cheers !!!

Yes, that is abuse and you should talk to a counsellor or a teacher you trust. Your 16 and he should not be spanking you on the bare but, Where is your mom what does she say about this. You need to get help and soon before this escalates any further. I can't believe all you people think its okay what her father did. Yes what she did was wrong but him bending you over bare bottom is very wrong and disturbing.

bowtaker4444

yah i would say that is sorta abuse. maybe you should talk to a lawyer.

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