Marriage under the age of 18 help?

Rob

jail for statutory rape

maione T

Depends what state your in. But it's statuatory rape, but if no one presses charges (including your parents) it would be ok.

Not that it's a good idea. You have your whole life to have a kid. Why start when you're just a kid?

Blue

well since he's over 18, that is considered rape. Since you cant spell pregnant, maybe you should wait til you grow up a little to be thinking about marriage. Alot will change for you and him thru the next 10 years. I promise. I thought i knew everything when i was 15 too, now Im 25, and i really, really didnt. Please dont throw a child into your mess.

imjustakid&lifeisanitemare

wait! u r only 15!!

Rocky

I am totally against teenage marriage. I don't think anyone should even consider marriage till they are at least 25. You should get the facts about how many marriages fail. There are far too many that fail as it is. You are waaaaay too young to think about marriage. But then I guess you can always get a divorce after you have kids, mess up their lives and fit in well with the patterns of the population at large.... In this easy solution world... if it doesn't work out, just get a divorce.

Ha! Ha! ... Just read your update. You are such a little girl. Please grow up. Your mother in law to be is trying to be your mother. Already telling you that any baby would be under her watchful eye. This woman is deep into your life and may as well be in the bedroom with you and your Beau. I wonder if she could be in trouble with the law for all she is allowing? She has a serious control problem herself. You may like her helpful control right now but you won't like it the rest of your life. This woman is setting up a pattern to control your life.

MSAD

Most likely he could go to jail for statutory rape.

How about you put off getting pregnant until you are both out of college. Marriage is hard enough - College is very hard - get through school first.

Lucy*JakeFanClubFounder*

Hi. Please try very hard to listen to some adults with experience on this question even if you never listen to another person about anything again. I met my first boyfriend when I was 13 and he was 15 during summer break from school. I had two wonderful parents although we were very poor..financially..but we were loved. My parents both only had a 6th grade education but they were both very hard workers and they were also very strict on me and didn't let me do things that most of my friends got to do. In fact, they were too strict. I thought my life was miserable and fought with my parents all the time. They did not like my boyfriend and forbid me to see him. They were not perfect parents..who is?, but they were only trying to protect me and they were doing the best they could with what they knew. By the time I was 15, I was skipping school, sneaking out of windows at night, lying to my parents constantly and doing just about anything I could do just to see him. I am not proud of it but I wanted to get pregnant so bad just so I could get married and get away from them. Well, be careful what you wish for. I did get pregnant at 16, found out during Christmas break during my junior year at high school, my parents reluctantly signed papers for me to get married and we got married on Dec. 26th. 1984. I'll skip some time here..(and misery)..our son was born In August of 1985. And yes, my husband was my first love..we loved our son and took care of him as best we knew how and we thought that we were different than everyone else our age. We had some good times..but I became a mother when I was only a child myself. I am now 39 years old and my son is 22. His father was killed instantly in a motorcycle wreck 5 days after we had our 5th wedding anniversary. I know that his death has nothing to do with your question..but it's part of my story. Although we loved each other and our son, we knew absolutely nothing about being married, what it takes to make a marriage to work..let alone raise a child. When we got married..after breaking my parents hearts..we started out with nothing..which didn't matter to us because all we cared about was being together. But things were tough because we were both still kids..he could still hang out with his friends and do the things he wanted..I had to stop having fun because I was carrying a baby. That alone caused alot of problems and arguments that led to alot of violence and abuse that I won't go into because it has nothing to do with your situation. Before we got married he gave no indication that he had a violent bone in his body. To make a long story short..now, 22 years later..I look back and think what if I had listened to everyone that said we were too young?? Sure my son is healthy, and not everyone that gets married too young becomes a widow and doesn't have to raise a child alone, but had he lived I'm not sure that things would have been any better because we argued and fought constantly because we just didn't have a clue what it took. We had this picture in our heads of how things would be..but we had no idea how hard it would be to get to that point. Our marriage probably wouldn't have survived anyway because he was able to continue living the young lifestyle and I was the one that had to be responsible..none of my freinds wanted to hang out with me anymore..I had a jealous husband and a baby. He ended up cheating on me while I was still pregnant..remember I had to sit at home with morning sickness and all the other "wonderful" pregnancy symptoms while my friends and my husband got to carry on with their lives as teenagers. Very few men that age are ready to be a full time husband no matter what they say or how they feel..and we too thought we were the exception. I wouldn't take anything for my son..but he has had to suffer(no I did not abuse or neglect him) from my lack of knowledge. But things were nothing like the picture we had painted in our heads and it wasn't like playing house. You are a child throwing away alot of the best years of your life. You have the rest of your life to do this. Three more years is NOTHING compared to a lifetime of worrying about whether or not you are being a good mother. When I say my son suffered, I mean that even though anyone can read a book and know the basics of taking care of a baby and yes alot of it does come naturally, but there is no book that prepares you to deal with the emotional stress of all the changes that take place in your life when you realize that while your friends are out having the time of their lives, you are spending every minute of your time taking care of a baby..and that's a good thing if you do that. No book can prepare you for knowing years later that there were things that you could have done or taught your child that would have made his/her life easier...only because you didn't know yourself. Every one is different and everyone goes through different things..there is no book that can teach you all that.Sure there are alot of books out there, but if you started reading right now you would read for the rest of your life and still wouldn't know what all you need to know. We continue to grow and learn until we die and trust me you would know more and be more prepared 10 years from now after experiencing life as an adult some than you do right now. I had another son at 25 years old and was in a stable relationship..I could just tell the difference of how much more ready I was to have a child than the first time. I've left out soooo many things that I want to say..I've already taken up too much room, but please, please don't consider bringing a baby into the world at your age just so you can get married. 3 years! Like I said, it's a very, very short time compared to a lifetime that you are nowhere near ready for at the age of 15. Just the fact that you even asked the question shows that you have no idea what it's about and what it takes. Please don't do that to an innocent child..just so you can get what you want right now. If you want to mess your own life up find another way to do it..I just wish that there was a way to put it in words. Just try talking to some young mothers that had babies at your age..and see what they have to say.

I just read Rocky's response also...your potential "mother in law" sounds just like the one I had..and she was involved all right..just like Rocky said. She thought she was supposed to be in charge of everything..and at your age she will be if this happens. Please listen to everybody. Don't look back 10 years from now and wish that you had..look back and be glad you didn't! And I agree with Rocky..I think she could be breaking the law..she needs a mental evaluation or something. You should see from all these answers that what you are thinking of doing is a huge mistake..it's your life..and possibly a child's life that you are getting ready to ruin!

anurag

What the heck

Bon Jovi Girl

wtf that is so weird

logsdodl

I know this is the last thing you want to hear so please bear with me. You are way too young to get married. Just about all marriages under the age of 22 end in divorce. This is way too much stress on you. Now if you get pregnant then either give up the baby or raise it alone with your family. Yes, he still is the daddy. Before thinking about having a family how are you going to get money for baby and yourself. Now he is over 18 so wait until your are over 18 to make these decisions and that will give you a few years to grow and mature with your relationship. During this time he can land a really good job and start putting money aside for you and him. You have 70 years of life left so don't start making a mistake when you are 15. I am not trying to sound like an old lame duck, just think about it. I wish you the very best with your decision.

Joel S

Okay if ur 15 and been dating him sense the age of 12 he was 15 when u started dating him that'd be like a 6th or 7th grade dating a 9th or 10th grader. Also ur to young to try to get pregnet and get married.

Serendipity

Depends on how strict your parents are and what they think about you and this guy being together. But yes he could go to jail. He is an adult and you are not 16.

Tennis lover <3

:-(
ur only 15?!!!

jenkaz23

Hey Girl, Whats wrong with this picture?? Your to young to be thinking like this. You haven't even been out into the world yet. I'm surprised he isn't in jail already your a Minor he is an adult. You need to think about this situation some more. I really don't think it's going to be a lasting relationship

Michael C

that is classed as statuary rape

kinder

YOU NEED TO TALK TO DR.PHIL JUST BE 15 YOU WILL BE AN ADULT SOON ENOUGH ENJOY YOUR YOUTH I REALLY HOPE THIS IS NOT REAL

Chrissy D

TEEN PREGNANCY!??!!?!!?!?
EWWWWW!!!!!!
TALK TO DR. PHILLLLL.

photog4you

I don't think he would go to jail for statutory rape - usually your parents or yourself would need to file that so unless you do it I don't see that as an obsticle- HOWEVER - your parents would need to sign the consent for you to marry according to that statute- because you are the minor. If you were pregnant than as it states it would be up to the presiding officer rather to grant the liscense or not -

All the facts out of the way stop and think for a few minutes please - you are 15 - now I am 19 so I understand sort of what you're going through sweetie I wa sthere once, babies are a huge responsibility - you really need to get out on your own first (even if it is with your honey) and experience the world, bills, rent, a job, ect. Rasing a child at such a young age is going to be very very difficult - trust me!!! I know you love this man, I'm not saying not to be with him, just give it a few years before you get married so you can appreciate what you have -

It's all your decision in the end, and your parents of course- just please think about what I said first...

craftykid9

well it might work out, and if u wanna get married all i think u might need is both sets of parents permission. at least that'd what i know it's like in GA

â™¥Tomâ™¥ (I'm a Girl)

in georgia you can get married at 16 if pregnant

Dave

not at all...if you were 13 then ye he would be put in jail. but at 15 you are kool

j000000000000000000

tip to boyfriend: be a ninja and avoid police till she's 18. or get your soap dropping hands ready.

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