My boyfriend got me pregnant, and I want an abortion, does he have any say in what I do legally?

TheOrange Evil

Unfortunately, he has no say. Depending on where you live, how far along you are, and how old you are, the government and your parents might have the right to interfere. For your child's sake, I hope so.

Your boyfriend didn't "get you pregnant." You got yourself pregnant. Don't get me wrong - your boyfriend is just as responsible, but you sound like you're trying to avoid taking responsibility.

Ashley D

no, he doesnt, but depending on where you live and how old you are, your parents might.

oh, and he didnt get you pregnant, you had to be there too. your blaming him for what is both of your problem.

sage

First of all, YOU were also there when he "got you pregnant". Second, abortion is murder. If you don't have the abortion, you can give the child up for adoption, or perhaps the father's family will take it. Abortion is not there to use as birth control!

curious_One

sure blame it all on him, you were probably there as well. grow up.

usaf.primebeef

No..........

and actually, the action of both of you got you pregnant.

littlemissmeghan88

I believe he does have a SAY. You need to discuss it with him because it is just as much his child as it is yours... it took both of you to make it. However, ultimately it is your body and you get to make the decision... but I think it is his right to have a say in what happens to the child you both made.

Athena

Honey, you say "my boyfriend got me pregnant" as if you had nothing to do with it. It's your fault you got pregnant if you did not insist on one of the following:

1.) Condoms
2.) Birth control
3.) Abstinence

No, your boyfriend does not have any say in what you decide, but for the love of god, practice a little personal responsibility from here on out, okay?

QueenLori

I understand you find yourself in a position that is quite difficult but will you please consider not getting the abortion? At the very least, give the child a chance and allow the baby to be adopted by a family who would love to raise it. How do you know that the child you are carrying right now is not going to be the one who finds a cure for a disease that has been ailing mankind for years? or is a future President? or Olympian? or the person who saved their community from being taken over by bad people?

sarahyaya420

Maybe not, but really?

Why is 'legal' your only standard for living?

Matt16

Nope

smoken_spinner

he wont have any say not unless you have given birth to a baby from him

hexeliebe

If you live in the U.S neither your boyfriend NOR your parents have any say, and if anyone wants to discuss that issue, contact the U.S. Supreme Court. The issue has been decided since 1969

bottleblondemama

No, the Courts have ruled that not even a husband or parent has any say legally.

It is not a decision to be made lightly though; I have a friend that had an abortion and it has haunted her the rest of her life. I have had an acquaintance that was divorced, had two children then got pregnant by a boyfriend who left when he found out and chose to have the child and put it up for adoption; as hard as that was to do, she seemed much more at peace knowing her child went to a good home than the child never having a chance to be born.

LittleBarb

since we don't know how old you are how CAN we tell you that it's YOUR decision----if you are under age 18, it is your parent's decision ---between the ages of 12 and 14 or maybe even OLDER, Planned Parenthood even has to tell your parents... HOWEVER, if you are 18 and older this is redundant...and of course ALL YOUR CHOICE.... just make sure you weigh the pros and cons of your decision THOROUGHLY before you do ANYTHING.... whatever decision you make, I KNOW it will be a difficult one and one you will think about until the day you die....there ARE other options to abortion.... you could register at a reputable adoption agency--LOTS of childless couples are looking for babies to adopt... I'm PRO-CHOICE but I'm also 56 and will never have to MAKE that choice for myself----(I have one child and could have no more)...you have the RIGHT to your own decision no matter WHAT that decision is---as long as you are old enough to MAKE that decision.

simone

No!!! It's your body!!! If that's what you want to do, then you have the right to do so!! But he does have the right not to pay for it. And don't listen to any of the evil and judgmental people that are calling you a murderer or "vial", who are they to judge???? Anyway, if there is anyway that you can have this child with out putting your life at risk (we don't know your situation) you should consider it. There are many people out there that would love to have a baby and can't. I know some, (if you want to discuss this further you can email me sjude2003@yahoo.com), just know that there are alternatives, it's ultimately your choice. Have you spoken to you parents about this? Maybe they wouldn't take it as bad as you think. I have 2 daughters and I shutter at the idea of them coming home pregnant, it's something you don't really want to talk about, but I love them and would do anything for them, including helping them out with my grandchild. I wish you luck in your decision and if you need someone to talk to email me. Good Luck.

Lacey G

Honey, you are not a vile speciman of a human being as some idiot posted above.

But you could be making the biggest mistake of your life. After only two weeks, your baby's heart began to beat with a completely different blood type than your own. Your baby wants to live and grow and be born. Just like you did.

Just remember this - you are a mother now. You will either be the mother of a dead baby or a live baby. I hope you will make the right choice; one that you won't regret.

6.5 x 284

Clam

No, it's your body and as far as I know there's nothing he can do about it. Just be sure abortion is legal in your area and ,good luck to you.

pshdsa

IF you were killed two years ago, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you were killed ten years ago, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you were killed at two years old, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you were killed in the third trimester in your mommy's womb, the you that exists now would not be alive. If you the freshly germinated egg were killed, the you that exists now would not be alive. How many real people are not alive because of abortion. Millions upon millions. I have seen aborted babies that have lived and have grown to adulthood. Abortion ends the life of a person in genesis form. You kill the fetus; you kill the 40 year old man or woman that fetus would have grown to be. If your Mom had killed you when you were a fetus, then you would not be. I hope you know what the enormous thing you are doing just for the sake of convenience.

reikigirl8

Your boyfriend didn't just get you pregnant,you had a part in it too.I think he does have a say.If you dont want the baby,maybe he will.Its his baby too!If neither of you want it,than put it up for adoption.Someone will love it.But DONT Kill it!!!!

boogie

He has no say. Good luck to you.

chicken

Don't get an abortion in the first place. If you do, you're a murderer!

Zapata

Only if you were to hold them responsible if you were to have the kid.

But I guess legally you can kill your child, that will make all democrats happy.

It's just a life, God will be OK with it.

Lavrenti Beria

No, but rather ironically, if you chose to have the baby you could force him to pay child support even if he didn't want it. How fair is that?

PICKER

You are a vile specimen of a human being.

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