My brother had abuse me 20 to 30 years thinking of bringing charges against him you think I should?

Jayne S

I believe there is an exemption from the statute of limitations in cases of this sort. You absolutely have the right to do this and it may bring you some measure of healing and closure.

Good luck.

kittywiz28

your limitation may be over for you but if he is hurting others and you have proof that person can bring charges against him and you can be a witness a support system.

bic

first of all how do we know it was abuse and not just 2 kids fighting.

santapatita

If you were a child I don't think theres statute of limitations so you're probably going to be able to bring chargest against thim.

I personally think you should do it, you may be saving someone else from going through the same things you went through.

Answers Addict

Since you are a Christian .....

you will find your best peace
of mind by just forgiving your
brother

even tho I'm sure you still have
many painful memories of past
abuse, it has been too long to
attempt any legal punishment
against him

I dogg

I think you should bring charges and if he did this to you

I dont think there is a limitation I suggest you should do that in tour own state.

I assume you are speaking of rape here? The men that went back and sued the catholic church when they were molested as children proves there is no statute of limitations since you have never prosecuted your brother prior. You must think as well that it is you that has the burden of proof and court dates can continue for months with attorneys etc. Do you need to say the words that you know are true in public, or can you get back knowing you did not bring this on yourself. No one can answer but you, however if you push ahead, think of how the outcome could affect you and your family etc.

Sway 26

I am guessing your brother has done something to piss you off.

daydoom

IN criminal court your statutes of limitations will have run but if you are just now experiencing mental problems you could file in civil court for damages, if he has the ability to pay. If he is abusing others you could talk to them and explain how long he has been doing it and offer to help them go through the process.

candy g

am so sorry....I think that IF this is now happening to others you need to speak out, this was not a one off and others will have to go thru what you have been living with.

Am not sure of the statute of limitations as I believe they vary from state to state BUT am sure that by you coming forward your testimony would help ensure a conviction.

Best thing would be to call one of the crisis lines and speak to a councilor as you do need to be able to speak about this and in time let it go, but by talking to a trained professional in this field it will be your first steps along the road to your own recovery and during this time you can then voice your fears or knowledge about his other abuses...........

Take care and good luck

SoCal Attorney

I'm not sure what good it would do now. The statute of limitation may have expired by now. Consult a local attorney.

ladyinpurple

Your statute of limitations is probably up. Check with the state your brother is living in.

I feel your pain, though. My brother beat me regularly twenty years ago. However, I just let it go and got on with my life. The more you think of someone and obsess over what they've done to you, the more power they have over you. I'm not willing to give my brother that sort of control.

sciencegeek+

let it go. get some help for it yes but not worth the trouble.

God love you with an everlasting love.

byderule

it is not realy the done thing to wash the famalies laundry in public
violations within the family should be handled from within.

30 years is a long time ago ,and would you want to bring all that into the publics eye again,having to testify and be questioned about the abuse
I would forget about it ,or aproach the brother directly and maybe kick him in the crutch infront of the vicar.or something.
in this case the cure may be worse than the illness

J G

Your brother must understand that what he did was wrong. You should bring a case against him, and at the very least, never have contact with him again outside a courtroom.

cork

hate does not clean up the world............
revenge is not yours....
payback isn't yours............

i think you need to talk with clery and get this out of your system.
Q/A isn't the forum

just visiting

You need to forgive him.
I think what has happened in the past is just that - in the past.
If he is abusing someone right now - that's a different story, and this would need to be reported.
As a Christian - listen to the Holy Spirit in you, forgive your brother and them pray your butt off for his very soul!

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